How good are you at taking compliments?

**SlugLobber** · 08-09-2009, 01:33 PM

I'm rubbish, but I do sometimes try to be gracious with it. I think the more sincere the compliment, the worse I am!

**Farmer_Gyles** · 08-09-2009, 01:34 PM

some people just don't have a sense of humour ......

**piskieinboots** · 08-09-2009, 01:48 PM

I try to assume that they mean it otherwise why say it and so take it with grace and erm, gratitude even

**Rhona** · 08-09-2009, 02:06 PM

I'm totally rubbish. Unless it's about work and I agree I've done a good job. Otherwise, I've got the unattractive habit of knocking a compliment back with a slight against myself.

I give compliments a lot though - always sincere. I like people feeling good about themselves!

**Farmer_Gyles** · 08-09-2009, 02:07 PM

i do normally take compliments in good grace and say thanks - but sometimes fed up with friends telling me what a lovely bloke i am and that i'll be a great catch for some lucky woman - it just doesn't happen .......
i think i'd rather not be reminded that i'm still single .........

**Pumpkin Becki** · 08-09-2009, 02:27 PM

I enjoy compliments about my work, my hous, my garden or craft projects, but when it comes to appearance I'm dreadful. I'm under no illusions, so if I do get a compliment (a very rare occurance) I blush hotly, and scuttle away as quickly as I can saying things like 'don't be rediculous'.

**piskieinboots** · 08-09-2009, 02:29 PM

Originally posted by Pumpkin Becki View Post

... saying things like 'don't be rediculous'.

which when you think about it is actually quite rude and could hurt - I don't mean to be unkind to you or to suggest that you are rude, cos you ain't, you is lovely - shut up, yes you are!!

**Pumpkin Becki** · 08-09-2009, 02:36 PM

Originally posted by piskieinboots View Post

which when you think about it is actually quite rude and could hurt - I don't mean to be unkind to you or to suggest that you are rude, cos you ain't, you is lovely - shut up, yes you are!!

***blushing hotly but holding tongue

***

and yes you're right Pisk, I'd never thought of it like that, I'm sure it could look rude to the other person, but I'm too busy scarpering to notice

**piskieinboots** · 08-09-2009, 02:42 PM

Originally posted by Pumpkin Becki View Post

... I'd never though of it like that, I'm sure it could look rude to the other person, but I'm too busy scarpering to notice

my good deed for the day

I feel all warm

**Sheepish** · 08-09-2009, 02:43 PM

How good am I at taking complements? Hmmm. Can I let you know when it happens?

Actually Wayne you're being thoroughly English. You post reminded me of this from one of my favourite blogs
"Similarly, in a culture in which praising oneself is taboo, compliments will be given more carefully, since to accept a compliment is to praise yourself. When I told my friend the Blinder that I was going to write about compliments, she said "you must write about the English inability to accept compliments". I'll let Kate Fox (2004: 408) start us off:

The English are no more naturally self-effacing than other nations, but [...] we have strict rules about the appearance of modesty, including prohibitions on boasting and any form of self-importance, and rules actively prescribing self-deprecation and self-mockery. We place a high value on modesty, we aspire to modesty.

If someone compliments you and you accept it by saying thank you, you are implicitly agreeing with the compliment and therefore breaking the 'modesty rule'. Thus, if you compliment an English person on how well she did something, she's likely to claim that anyone could have done it or to point out the bits she could have done better. As Fox notes, the self-deprecation is often ironic and humorous."
separated by a common language: compliments, nice and lovely

I'd get on far better with someone who bounces a complement back with a joke than someone who takes themself too seriously.

**HeyWayne** · 08-09-2009, 02:46 PM

Originally posted by piskieinboots View Post

my good deed for the day

I feel all warm

**Pumpkin Becki** · 08-09-2009, 02:47 PM

Originally posted by HeyWayne View Post

Well, no one could accuse you of not having a sense of humour could they!!

Oy vay!!

**FionaH** · 08-09-2009, 02:48 PM

I am dreadful at taking a compliment, or so I am told. I find self depracation quite endearing in others too. I tend to put myself down "before others get the chance to do it" To be honest its something I am working on

**FionaH** · 08-09-2009, 02:49 PM

lmao just saw the tena post!!!!

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