Would you be upset if it were you?

[Finedon.Dandy]

Now I think you know how sensitive I am, especialy at the mo but.....

I am doing Wellingborough Carnival (been booked since end of last year) so when Brother-in-Law said his daughters christening was that Sunday there wasnt much I could do about it. They asked everyone if they were busy first but its not worth "arguing" with BIL as it falls on deaf ears with him. We are churchgoers so its quite an event for us but he was of the opinion "you can go to lots of christenings" So I have been a big girl and told them not to stress and that I would be fine with it but secretly I am quite upset.

One of my crafters who I am quite close to and trust offered to look after the marquee whilst I zoom to the christening, just for the service and come straight back. Hope at last until Oliver refused to see it as an option cos of the cost of petrol (Wellingborough to Hight Wycombe is about an hour and a half)

Oliver had a phone call when I had gone to bed last night when he had a phone call from BIL asking him to be a Godfather. I am really pleased for Oliver and know he is perfect Godfather material (not like in the film!) etc BUT I am even more gutted that I cannot go.

[jackie j]

What a shame but as you had booked your event first and they want your OH to be godfather they should have listned to you when you said you were busy.
I know its hard to please everyone at a time like this as everyone has things to do, in our family we ask the main group of family that we want at a celebration if they can make it and the rest have to fit in or not as the case may be.
Hope you can sort this out without anyone feeling left out or hurt by it.

[Finedon.Dandy]

Thanks for your understanding Jackie. I think that because we may such an effort to fit everyone in for our sons christening and because various brothers or sisters were away, working etc, he ended up being "done" quite late (our family usualy "do it" at around 3/4 months) at 11 months it hurts even more. I think they have left it till the last minute (she is one now) so they started to panic. Nothing I can do about it but I think that now he has been asked to be Godfather I have to make my feelings known - its not fair to ask us if we can make a date, go ahead even though I cant and then spring this on us too -its just too much. Sorry rant over now!

[Nicos]

I'd go for the main thing and forget the cost.
If you feel you can't be dragged away then go to the whole thing.
Does family come first??...depends on your family!!
You can't please every one when arranging things like christenings...I bet they'd be thrilled to see you.

Bye the way...90mins in the car isn't such a long way if you live in places like USA/Canada/rural France...it's just a matter of priority.

[Finedon.Dandy]

Bye the way...90mins in the car isn't such a long way if you live in places like USA/Canada/rural France...it's just a matter of priority.

You dont know Oliver!

[Alison]

It's entirely up to the parents when they Christen their child and it's pretty much impossible to make it fit in for everybody else. Yes, it's a shame that you're already doing something else but the world won't stop spinning if you're not there. I was very disappointed that I couldn't make my godson's event last year when I was flattered by my friend to be asked. Unfortunately I couldn't change my prior arrangement without causing hurt to my elderly great aunt (which I obviously wasn't even considered!) and told my friend that, whilst I was very honnoured to be asked, I would quite understand if she wanted an alternative god mother. She thought about it and kept with her original decision as she pointed out that I would be there for her son throughout his life and that it was a life time role not just for one day. Another friend stood in for me on the day, a shame but as I said, not the end of the world.