Curfew for young'uns?

[vicky]

It's a voluntary curfew isn't it, so are they really going to take any notice of being asked to get home before it?

I like the idea of punishing naughties by getting them to do things like rubbish clearance, road cleaning, allotment/park clearing, cleaning up vandalism etc, at least the community would gain something, even if the humiliation of being seen by your mates clearing up dog mess didn't deter reoffending...

Not being able to tell your own children off annoys me, the short sharp shock of a small smack works far better than 'the naughty step'... My daughter tells me it's illegal and she will phone the police! And she got that from the (ex) mother in law who doesn't believe in any telling off - she works in a school - and all her own children are/have been totally off the rails...
...ahhhggg! the (ex) mother in law, one of my best ranting topics!

Oh, I think there's a knock at the door - social services maybe??

[jackie j]

My sons all had to be in by 9pm when they were under 16 especially on a school night. My youngest used to go to a youth club which finished at 10pm and I used to fetch him, one night the youth leader said he wished more parents picked their kids up instead of letting them go home on their own. I did it to make sure my son was safe not because I didnt trust him, and we only lived round the corner.
My 13 year old daughter has to be in by 8pm, lots of her friends ring her to go out at 7.30pm no way is she allowed to do that.
When she has friends here I always make sure the parents know where they are and what time they have to be home then I take them if the parents dont make arrangements to fetch them as I wouldnt want anything to happen to them on the way home, even the girll who lives at the end of the road.
Lots of parents dont think their own kids are their responabilty, but they are until 18 years old.
i work at a supermarket just outside town and we often get kids come in at all hours of the night they think its great fun, once we had some all night, im sure the parents thought they were having sleepovers and didnt bother to check.
if your child comes home and says mum, dad can I stay at so and so's its upto you to ring the parents and check that its ok, and drop them off, and pick them up the next day.
Unfortunatly its the few who make the rest of us responsable parents look bad.

[Two_Sheds]

We get gangs of teenagers hanging round the beach of an evening - I have no problem with them listening to music, hanging out with their mates, but the next morning the beach is littered with rubbish and broken glass, graffiti on the prom ...

If they can't behave, the police should deal with them. Put them in a cell until the parents come to collect them.

[Garden_girlie21]

In one of our Drama lessons, we used an article as a stimulus and it was about this topic.

While I agree that teenagers cluttering streets getting drunk and starting fights is wrong and should be dealt with, I also think that imposing a curfew that is too early is wrong too.

I go to my youth Club on a Sunday evening from eight till ten, and I have bible study on a tuesday from half 7 till half 9. If we had a curfew in my area, I couldn't go to either of those.

I think it's generally wrong to put a sanction on all of the teenage population when it's only a proportion of them misbehaving. I behave well, don't get drunk very often, and my grades at school are excellent (if i may say so myself!). I don't see why well behaved youth should be punished for others' crimes.

We might not be in the spotlight when it comes to todays youth, but we're still there!

Jennifer

[Chillimad]

In one of our Drama lessons, we used an article as a stimulus and it was about this topic.

While I agree that teenagers cluttering streets getting drunk and starting fights is wrong and should be dealt with, I also think that imposing a curfew that is too early is wrong too.

I go to my youth Club on a Sunday evening from eight till ten, and I have bible study on a tuesday from half 7 till half 9. If we had a curfew in my area, I couldn't go to either of those.

So do you think it is correct for under 10's to be out playing in the middle of a suberb street at 10:00pm ?, that is what is happening here in my area, parents owe it to their children and the community as a whole to be responsible, unfortunately not all parents seem to be this way.

[lynda66]

i also agree that good kids should get rewarded for being good, ..... there was all that hoo haa about young thugs getting sent on holidays, or sent to do fun stuff, yet the good kids get nothing, i think there should always be rewards for being a good teenager and if you are indoors at a class/event/whatever, then that should be no problem, you aren't on the streets, and i bet your parents pick you up too?

well done gg keep it up

[lynda66]

So do you think it is correct for under 10's to be out playing in the middle of a suberb street at 10:00pm ?, that is what is happening here in my area, parents owe it to their children and the community as a whole to be responsible, unfortunately not all parents seem to be this way.

under 10's should be in bed well before 10pm ... either that or i'm just mean

[Chillimad]

under 10's should be in bed well before 10pm ... either that or i'm just mean

Not mean but normal in my eyes

[Cloud]

I have no control over my kids as they live with Mum.When they stay with me even my 15 year old daughter has to be in by 8!!
I even worry about my 19 year old son especially after a few months ago he was beaten up by a bunch of squaddies!

[lynda66]

Not mean but normal in my eyes

no one's ever called me that before lol

[sharonr]

The house that I live in backs onto the local football pitch. It`s the only park in the village which isn`t fenced off at night. On a friday and Saturday night you see them all go down to the local superemarket buy lots of cheep booze and sit there till the early hours of the morning, normaly about 2am. So if its a hot night and you have your windows open you can`t get any sleep as they are yelling, swearing, screaming etc. Then they stumble home leaving all there rubbish behind all over the floor, bumping into cars falling onto gardens and damaging the fences and flowers. Some of these people are only about 15 and they are doing this everyweek.
When I go to walk the dogs in the mornings you see the path of distruction they have left behind them. I would like to know if their parents know what they are doing at this time of night and do they damaged their gardens as they stumble home.

[Two_Sheds]

We get those very same people stumbling round our way Sharon! Long way to go home

[Rachiered]

When I was little, I had to be in by 7:30pm, 8 pm on weekends. As I got older, my mum always knew where I was, when I was coming home, and even used to pick me up at stupid O'clock if I needed her to (pre-arranged!). She's great. The difference with that and what kids are like today is that my mum cared for me, and was interested in what I was doing. Also, I respected her.
You can't blame the kids of today's society for doing what they do, coz more often than not the parents don't give two hoots about them. They copy what they see from them, and they know that there will be no punishment if they do something wrong.
Also, even if they do anything and get caught by the police, the punishment is almost a joke!
Even prison isn't what it should be. Pocket money, your own TV, pool tables, etc. What happened to a stone room with a bed and a toilet?! People might start thinking a bit more about their actions then!!!

[Chillimad]

When I was little, I had to be in by 7:30pm, 8 pm on weekends. As I got older, my mum always knew where I was, when I was coming home, and even used to pick me up at stupid O'clock if I needed her to (pre-arranged!). She's great. The difference with that and what kids are like today is that my mum cared for me, and was interested in what I was doing. Also, I respected her.
You can't blame the kids of today's society for doing what they do, coz more often than not the parents don't give two hoots about them. They copy what they see from them, and they know that there will be no punishment if they do something wrong.
Also, even if they do anything and get caught by the police, the punishment is almost a joke!
Even prison isn't what it should be. Pocket money, your own TV, pool tables, etc. What happened to a stone room with a bed and a toilet?! People might start thinking a bit more about their actions then!!!

You were not born in southampton by any chance were you ???? you have just described me to a "T" bring back the "OLD" days, at least the children that were born were wanted!!!!

[BarleySugar]

I had my son't 18th birthday party at home. Most brought drink, and yes a couple had a bit too much, BUT I didn't drink at all, stayed in, and kept finding 'excuses' to wander around, collecting rubbish, handing around food etc. 7 stayed over, others were picked up by parents, we live too far out for anyone to make their own way home. All of them thanked me for having the party at home when they left and a number of parents told me how reassured they were to know where they were.
My husband moans about being a taxi sometimes, but I much prefer to be picking them up at set times and knowing they are home, safe, rather than waiting and worrying.