I am so angry with my Doctors - sorry Tammy in rant mode

[Finedon.Dandy]

I have asked my doctors so many times if I my more recent miscarriages were anything to do with my thyroid and each time it was a "no" almost followed with a sigh as if to say now stop bothering me.

Today, following yet another nasty virus, I went to the doctor and yet again was told that I just need to give it time to get over it. I cannot remember how or why but the subject of my miscarriages came up and he asked how many pregnancy I had had. I said 5 - have two children. I then mentioned that my sister said I should get my colestorol tested (as I have saggy eyebrows!) and the he said well we will also do an auto immune test. My ears pricked up as I have heard this mentioned on thyroid messages boards so I asked what that was and he told me that it can cause recurrent miscarriages. I then said I thought it was also linked to thyroid and he confirmed this too.

WHY WASNT THIS TESTED MONTHS AGO? I am angry, upset, confused, hurt and its brought all my grief to the surface again, just when I had it all burried ready to try again this month. I asked if we should hold off trying for a month till the results came back and he said not to put our lives on hold because even if that is my problem I could still carry full term again as I have in the past. I hope you will all pray that we get some baby dust soon and that its good and sticky and very healthy this time.

Lurking whilst I control myself.

[janeyo]

Good luck with the tests. Doctors can sometimes not be very sympathetic to us women when it comes to babies and things. I guess it is all in a day's work for them and not THEIR life. There are lots of reasons for miscarriage and also sometimes they happen for no reason at all. I do hope you find an answerto stop the worrying.
I had a friend who had 2 children (one of each) and then suffered a miscarriage and her doctor told her it didn't really matter as she had a boy and a girl anyway

I hope you get the results you need soon, and remember that babies often come along when you are relaxed and not thinking too much about babies.

Have you done anything for your lost ones? Planted a tree or a shrub so you can always look out of the window and remember?

janeyo

[Finedon.Dandy]

I had a friend who had 2 children (one of each) and then suffered a miscarriage and her doctor told her it didn't really matter as she had a boy and a girl anyway

Have you done anything for your lost ones? Planted a tree or a shrub so you can always look out of the window and remember?

janeyo

I was also told the above but by my parents (and hinted at by MIL too) thats why I come here to rant at you guys you all understand better.

Havent planted anything yet but I will when I have completed this chapter of my life (one way or another) and so am hopefuly stronger.

[shirlthegirl43]

I hope the tests are able to help with things for you Tammy. As to the tiredness and overdoing it - you really need to be strict with yourself on that one - remember how poorly you get and stop before you take on too much.

[SueA]

The problem with a lot of doctors is they don't seem to have the time to research every person's history before they come into the surgery so they just look for something to get you in & out as quickly as possible, if you hadn't brought the connection with miscarriages up the doctor probably wouldn't have mentioned it. Hopefully it might give you some answers but I would just try & forget about it until you get the results.

[squashysu]

good luck with the tests, some times dr's are so annoying and have no bedside manner either! i hope you get some answers x

[bluemoon]

I'm (almost) 50 and in that time I've only met one good G.P.. To the point where now I don't bother going unless I think it might be life or death (and even then I put it off ) The last time was three years ago with a lump on my breast and, despite the fact that my Grandmother died from breast cancer, the G.P. tried to tell me it was a swollen gland and, furthermore, that the 'gland' was swollen as it was reacting to a skin condition. Well, a) I've had said skin condition since I was six and my 'glands' had never reacted to it before in all those forty odd years, and b) given my family history I'd have expected for it to be at least looked into.
At least now we have the internet and can go into the waiting room as well informed as the G.P.'s themselves, and this is becoming increasingly necessary. I accept that no one can know everything there is to know about every possible condition (that's why we have specialists), but I would expect something a little more than the air of barely suppressed boredom which surrounds most family doctors these days.
I hope your tests go well, FD and that this difficult part of your life is soon over. But meanwhile feel free to rant here, you have so many people's sympathy.

[Finedon.Dandy]

I'm (almost) 50 and in that time I've only met one good G.P.. To the point where now I don't bother going unless I think it might be life or death (and even then I put it off ) The last time was three years ago with a lump on my breast and, despite the fact that my Grandmother died from breast cancer, the G.P. tried to tell me it was a swollen gland and, furthermore, that the 'gland' was swollen as it was reacting to a skin condition. Well, a) I've had said skin condition since I was six and my 'glands' had never reacted to it before in all those forty odd years, and b) given my family history I'd have expected for it to be at least looked into.
At least now we have the internet and can go into the waiting room as well informed as the G.P.'s themselves, and this is becoming increasingly necessary. I accept that no one can know everything there is to know about every possible condition (that's why we have specialists), but I would expect something a little more than the air of barely suppressed boredom which surrounds most family doctors these days.
I hope your tests go well, FD and that this difficult part of your life is soon over. But meanwhile feel free to rant here, you have so many people's sympathy.

Thank you for your lovely supportive message BM. I realised last night that I met Hubby at the last of my "healthy" years so he barely knows the real me. Thats 8 years now of going downhill, being told off by my Parents for overdoing it etc but I know in my heart of hearts that the energetic person is just waiting to get out - given 1/2 a chance. I am hopeful now this will resolve my health issues once and for all.

I do always think twice before I post with my health issues as they seem to be dominating my life right now and I dont want everyone to get fed up. I am going for my blood test this am once Hannah has gone to school. Daniel is comming to keep me company so just hope he is good. Although as usual I dont want anthing to eat but the dizzyness is worse from not having anything and as my temperature is up to 40 despite a constant dose of paracetamol I will try and see a doc again. I will let you know how I get on later but imagine I will be told to wait a little while after it expecialy as I am driving so wont be back on here for a while.

Hope everyone has a good day.

Tammy

[jackie j]

I hope all goes well for you tammy sounds like you and your OH could do with getting away on your own for a few days !!! any chance of babysiters ??? I would do it for you if I lived nearer. Get well soon . Hugs from me.
I am very lucky that my doctor is great never rushes you in and out takes time to explain what is wrong and how it can be fixed or not. I never mind being kept waiting to see him cos it could be me with him.

[willowstar]

just to put a slightly opposing view...it is possible (?) he didn't know about the possible link. GP's have a hell of a job keeping up with research on every single condition. Maybe he's only just found out and seeing you made the connection between what he has just read and your situation. just a thought. They get paid very very well but I wouldn't fancy being a GP, you have to be on your toes constantly and sadly there is the ever present threat of missing something important. I really hope you get some useful results and can find resolution. life ain't easy sometimes.

[mcsee]

Without it being bought to my attention I didn't realise the connection, but was alarmed when I did a search in Google for 'thyroid linked to miscarriage'.

I certainly hope you can get tested and get it all sorted out.

Best of luck - I hope all goes well in the future.

[SlugLobber]

Hope it all works out, Tammy. Take care of yourself - would second the suggestion of a few days away!

[Headfry]

Tammy,
Simply..... hugs for you, big hugs.

I hope now the corner has been turned, and I see a new you skipping up that road!

All my love
Sue
xx

[Flummery]

Hope the tests come up with something positive that can be done Tammy.

Best wishes,

Flum

[Finedon.Dandy]

Thank you guys (and MW from my other thread) -its a bit frightening where this new trail is leading to but am trying to stay positive - I just want the old me back. Had the test, dropped D off early to playschool and slept from 10:30 till alarm went off at 2:45. Then fell asleep again and was 10 min late to pick up D - whoops. Managed to eat something tonight and kids enjoyed it too - fish pizza! The very nice fishlady in Sainsburys suggested it - fish instead of dough, then tom puree with few herbs (I used parsley) then grated cheddar.