Insomnia

[Two_Sheds]

My OH is snoring for England too! ...I can't relax when he's snoring, it irritates the hell out of me. The urge to smother him with a pillow was becoming dangerously attractive

I was awake on and off last night, at least four times I thought "I will beat you over the head with this candle holder if you don't SHUT UP"

It feels extra unfair, because if I was to get up out of bed, he sits bolt upright and complains that I've woken him up. I can't even read by candlelight.

As he has to earn the mortgage, I tend to just lie here simmering until 7am.

It's much better in spring/summer because I just get up and start gardening - the urge to plant overcomes the desire to keep him sweet

[crazy_red]

It feels extra unfair, because if I was to get up out of bed, he sits bolt upright and complains that I've woken him up. I can't even read by candlelight.

As he has to earn the mortgage, I tend to just lie here simmering until 7am.

You have my sympathy, I'm in the same position, not being able to work at the moment. It's amazing how guilty it can make you feel isn't it?

Have to admit though, after so many years, i've given up tip-toeing around- the gardening, DIY, craft noises etc. don't tend bother him now.

I've had insomnia a lot longer than I've had him and I work on the basis that he knew what he was getting into ......lol


Red x

[Two_Sheds]

I have now been awake for 3 hours. I have made a stew, unpacked the new breadmaker, and started a loaf in the new breadmaker.

Really, really tired but still can't sleep.

I am now going to sort through a packet of mixed seed, picking out the hemp for my parrot (it's the most boringest job I can think of, to make me sleepy. We're off to a NY party and I need to look lively for another 20 hours!

[MaureenHall]

You really do have my sympathy Two_Sheds, it's horrible having to force yourself to be cheerful when you're so tired, and even worse when you have to lay in bed for hours wide awake too. I hope you manage to get some improvement soon xxxxxx

[Hashette]

Morning.

I'm going to make a resolution that from now on I'm only going to do relaxing or boring things when I'm rattling around the house at 3am, so that I'm not rewarding myself for being awake.

Turning the computer on is fatal, apart from the fact that catching up on this and my running forum is much more interesting than lying in bed staring at the ceiling, when I do try to close my eyes again somehow the brightness from the screen follows me back to bed

So shall we swap phone numbers instead?

[jackie j]

Yesrerday I went back to bed at 6am and didnt wake till 10.30am longest lie - in I have had for ages. Slept all night last night cos OH was wearing his Cpap. Two sheds you really should get your OH to the doctor he might have something wrong like my OH did, thats why he has a Cpap when he wears that no snoring and I can sleep. Why is it when a partner snores and keeps us awake its us that ends up getting up and feeling guilty if we wake them. We are meant to be getting a new bed and ours is meant to be going in the spare room so one of us can use it, guess that will be me then. There is a bed in the spare room but OH wont use it and he keeps turning the radiator off so I wont use it either.

[Two_Sheds]

Two sheds you really should get your OH to the doctor he might have something wrong

Yes, he's 4 stone overweight!
Apparently fat around the throat/neck area is a major contributor to snoring.
He lost a stone last spring, and lost the snore ~ but he gave up the diet and the weight, and the snore, came back.

He doesn't believe me .. he'd rather say he has a cold, or he's allergic to the pillows, or whatever
If I sleep in the spare room he gets the hump.

[crazy_red]

Yes, he's 4 stone overweight!
Apparently fat around the throat/neck area is a major contributor to snoring.
He lost a stone last spring, and lost the snore ~ but he gave up the diet and the weight, and the snore, came back

Snap! But snoring notwithstanding, it's the very real possibility of a heart attack and/or developing diabetes that makes me wish he would come out of denial and do something about it...

[cupcake]

I was ok till I hit the menopause and have had a handful of good nights since! I can SO empathise with everyone, and yes I have a snoring husband who has been banished to the front bed room!

All the tablets, anti histamines herbal etc might work the first night , but aren't an answer. And yes valerian makes me retch. Lavender oil, no. I massaged my feet with camomile oil doing the points that are supposed to help and got a night out of that.
Banished the clock radio cos the electric fields are bad for you, 1 night!
Meditation cds, get me off to sleep but don't keep me there, likewise hypnosis ones. Harry Potter works like that too, only I only hear the first half! If I wake up on a work morning I plug myself into the cd player again even if it only relaxes me.
6 weeks off sick from work tends to help!
Oh and I tried juicing and found one with lettuce in it that helped, but lost the book with the recipe in it. (I'm convinced OH put it "somewhere safe")
Funnily enough I can sleep well at my sons.

[crazy_red]

P.S. I am still awake since Monday....I feel nauseous, I've got swirly vision like looking through oil on water and hand tremors.....and I have three, no sorry, four more days to go til I can get some meds, cos our Doctor's on a jolly...

Pass me the gin....

[jackie j]

My OH is overweight and was diagnosed with diabetes a couple of years ago, he has sleep apneia he stops breathing thats why he has a Cpap and it works. not very sexy though.!!! He now sleeps like a baby and I get a good nights sleep bliss

[crazy_red]

Remind me what sexy is again....lol....

[sharonr]

II've got to be asleep before my OH - he snores and then there's no chance of me getting to sleep! I've got Solitaire card games on my mobile which sends me to sleep most times, I think because the cards are so tiny on the screen I have to squint to see them properly But even that doesn't work once Jez starts snuffling, chuntering, grunting and snorting

I know what you mean. My OH could snore standing up, I tell him to stop and he does for about 5 minutes and then it starts again. I have solitaire for my Nintendo DS and I play that if I can`t sleep, but when your eyes are tired it`s hard to focus.

[crazy_red]

I gather I'm not the only person who's considered putting them out of our misery then?

Red x

[sharonr]

I can even get woken up by my OH if he falls asleep downstairs. So even if he slept in another room it wouldn`t help. So no you are not alone crazy-red. Any ideas?