Just Gets Worse

[snuffer]

As some of you already know six weeks ago I lost my basset hound bitch, Molly. It was so unexpected. She started being sick so I took her to the vet. He could find nothing wrong but the frequency of her vomiting increased. After all sorts of tests; x rays, blood tests and ultra sound scans still nothing could be found. In all this time Molly seemed perfectly healthy in every other respect.

We were then sent to a specialist vet so that some biopsies could be taken. Because of her age (she was less than four years old) at no time did any of the vets think there was any reason to believe she might have something seriously wrong. When the test results came back it was the worse news imaginable. Molly had cancer. I was devastated and wept like a baby. Her condition deteriorated very rapidly after that and we had to make the dreadful decision to have her put to sleep on the 21st of July. Again I wept like a baby.

Now, I just miss her. I wouldn't have thought it possible but it really does feel as though part of me is missing. My other basset, Bertie, is a great comfort and in a few weeks time we will be collecting a new puppy (basset again), Phoebe.

Sorry if I sound a bit pathetic. A 46 year old bloke crying about his dog but I am finding it very difficult to get over. I know the old cliche,time is a great healer, is true but I am struggling.

[vicky]

Snuffer, I had to have my lovely lurcher -Ellie put to sleep in january, she was less than 4 too and went from being 100% fine 5pm saturday evening to so ill she had to be put to sleep by 6am sunday. I totally understand how awful it is, I miss her all the time.
It does sound a bit pathetic, but I can't tidy away her things yet or clean the car boot!
I agree time will heal, but it's taking a long time!
Sympathy to you, I don't think everyone realises how hard it is, especially when the dog is so young you don't even feel they're had a proper life...
vicky

[FionaH]

Oh poor you, it is the hardest thing. When I had my pony put down 18 months ago I felt like I had lost my best friend. Took me a long time to stop crying. I found it was only other animal owners who understood how it felt.
Now I find I can remember the great times we had with a smile, but it did take time. Enjoy Phoebe and Bertie. By the way nothing pathetic about a bloke crying.

[Tracey]

Sorry your feeling sad Snuffer, 6 weeks isn't very long ago. Think about the memories of the good times you had with her, as she's still with you in them. Take care, and don't be concerned about expressing your sorrow. It's natural.

{{Hug}}

Tracey

[HeyWayne]

Cry as much as you like/need to dude and chuff anyone else. I wept like a baby when we had to have our cat put down about 8-9 years ago and we'd only had him 2 years.

You're stronger than me though, we haven't had pets since.

[Two_Sheds]

We make strong attachments with our pets - they're always pleased to see us, give lots of affection back, don't argue with you about the housework ...

I still miss my dog, my cat, and even my snippy cockatiel. I'll be devastated when my Jasper parrot pops his clogs, he's my little baby.

[Headfry]

Snuffer, just wanna send big hugs
I am sad for you too,
Its so hard
I have two cats and dread the day.....
xx

[Headfry]

Guys you are the best.....
you can't get better than a man with feelings and who is not afraid to share his feelings with others....
don't you agree girls!

[ailsasyl]

Absolutely Headfry!!
Cry away Snuffer. Its always sad losing a pet.
Sending big hugs your way.

[SlugLobber]

Aw Snuffer, so sorry to hear about your dog (love the name of your other one - Bertie Bassett!). In an age when there is undoubtable evidence of animals experiencing emotion and having MUCH more cogitive ability than we ever gave them credit for before, it's understandable that we form such close bonds with them and grieve heavily when we lose them.

I still cry at losing my cat four years ago. I could never be without my furries, though, despite the inevitable heartache. As a teenager we lost a cat to pneumonia and got another through CPL before we even collected the body from the vet. The house seemed awful and empty and I never regret it. Have a Hug, Snuffer. ((())) xx

Tell you what, I feel sorry for anyone who says they 'don't like animals'. They miss out on a lot.

[Polly Fouracre]

You've lost a dearly loved member of your family, of course you will grieve and for a long time. Eventually the memories will become kinder and softer and you will remember with a smile.
I hope Phoebe will be a bit of a comfort to you. Or,at least make you laugh!

[SueA]

It must be awful for you Snuffer & don't worry there's no shame in a big bloke crying over a pet! We lost our boxer dog years ago to cancer & me & O.H. cried buckets over her & still miss her, 6 weeks is still so short a time you're bound to feel sad. We knew a big tough truck driver who always has a boxer dog & the vet's receptionist told us she's never seen anyone as heartbroken as him when he's had to have one put to sleep. Hope you can enjoy Bertie & the new pup & they help you get over your loss.

[gemlady]

Hi Snuffer. I remember reading your post about Molly, but it's not that long ago so no wonder you are still upset. Phoebe won't replace Molly, but in her own way she will help to replace the sad feelings you have now, with laughter and joy. Consider yourself (hugged).

[coomber]

Snuffer it must be terrible for you, we have two Newfys (my first dogs) and I can't even think how I'll feel when they're gone, I'll be devastated - they're my babies.
Only people who have pets understand that they are very special members of your family.
Although your new puppie pheobe won't replace Molly, she will bring you many many hours of love and happiness.

[sharonr]

It`s heartbreaking when you loose a pet.
I`m sorry about your loss. Our pets are our children, they are with us through good times and bad so you are bound to miss her.
My cat died a few weeks ago while we were on hoilday and it was strange coming home and him not there to great us at the top of the stairs. I still say hello to him sometimes when I go up the stairs and my mum says she thought she saw him walking next to my dad when he walked up the road with the dog today. My dad said there was nothing there.