A Very Public Message

[wellie]

I would just publicly like to apologise to each and every member of this forum, for not saying Happy Birthday to you, patting you on the back for becoming Member Of The Month, getting pregnant, having a baby, winning a trophy in your local show, or not crying whilst taking your cat to the vet.

I do try hard to spread a little happiness on this forum, but occasionally yes, I will 'miss something', because I lead a busy life, and in no way is it a personal 'snub' towards you.

I was therefore mortified to receive a Private Message this morning, telling me that my lack of attention to them is "becoming as obvious as a slap in the face" and that "if it's just general dislike, perhaps I could do a better job of hiding it".

On the Plus Side, for me: this person has been assured by someone they've sought a character reference from, that "I'm not like that".

So, I'd just like to apologise to that person for not making them feel special enough, and Thank You, I'm flattered that my attention is so important to you.

But be assured of one thing, your Private Message has deeply distressed me, and any more personal attacks of that nature, from anyone, I shall have no hesitation in leaving this forum.

[HeyWayne]

Now listen missie - you stay exactly where you are!

I don't wish to get caught up in the underlying issue - but if it was obvious that you are "paying less attention" to anyone, I certainly haven't picked up on it.

Anyone with half a brain and a decent pair of reading specs will know that you lead a busy and (if I may be so bold) fulfilling life, and as a result have perhaps less time than many on here (myself included) to post as often as you may like. Reading your blog for half a second shows that.

I'm appalled at the apparent use of private messages in this respect and am sure I am not alone - you are one of the least deserving of such treatment in my humble onions.

I do hope it is all just a mistake, but please don't leave Wellie.

*does puppy dawg face whilst maintaining utmost sincerity

[shirlthegirl43]

Don't you dare leave us Wellie!!! I love your posts and your blog cheers me up when I am feeling down (which has been rather too frequently lately). I rarely 'bump into you' on the vine as you seem to be online at hours while I am sleeping, but you and Trousers are often in Madmax and my thoughts. I hope you are both keeping well. Don't let someone who is obviously having a down day get to you and disrupt your cheerful nature my dear.

Oh, how's the gardening cat? T-Rex and Ludo are mystified as to the large wood and wire mesh affair taking shape in the middle of the garden - can't wait to see their faces when the chooks arrive later this week!!

(I notice you have a blog update but I am saving that to read in a time of crisis - thank you for your cleverness with words and your artistic talent - we all enjoyed reading your cake here, the boys couldn't believe it was a cake)

[bluemoon]

Wellie, that's disgusting. Don't you dare leave just because of one mean-spirited person. Sometimes I can't be on the vine for days at a time, sometimes it seems as if I live here, but I do miss birthdays and the like when there are other things going on in my life, and I'm sure that's true for most of us, so why this person has singled you out is beyond me. Just carry on as you always have, most of us love reading your stuff.

[piskieinboots]

I'm not in a fit state to offer anything sensible at the moment so
(((((((hugs lovely lady)))))))

[HeyWayne]

Just to be safe people I've barricaded the door and I'm stood on the other side of it - she can't leave!

[Hazel at the Hill]

Rise above it, sweetie - there's one or two odd peeps out there - the rest of us are normal! Report it to the mods if you feel it was offensive.

xx

[lynda66]

god if we all got grief for not saying stuff i'd be top of the list .... i see posts and think oh i'll reply to that later, and more than likely have forgotten about it by later, sometimes i remember sometimes i don't but it's not any kind of favoritism, i forget to reply to memos too ........ don't let it get you down, some people just don't have a life

hugssss lynda xxx

[Winged one]

I'll jump onto the window sash to keep that closed!!

Wellie, you are in the same boat as lots of us (too little time and lots to do) and more so than most I reckon. But you do give lots of useful advice, encouragement, all round "blowing everyone's frock's up" kinda inspirations and welcomes and congratulations.......please don't leave as it really wouldn't be the same place without you (and that goes for a lot of others too - so blanket request to all stay and keep giving the good advice, hugs, and all round "good-egg"ness that you all do).

[piskieinboots]

....- the rest of us are normal!

that's me out then!!

As 'er above says, Wellie - report it - ignore it - but do not allow it to drive you away
x

[Polly Fouracre]

Poor Wellie, what a nasty attack! We can't all be on here all day and sometimes only have time to skim through to see who's around.
Did this person give their name? If not then more shame to them.
(Actually, thinking about it I'm quite miffed. I rarely wish people a Happy Birthday etc. and this person hasn't seemed to notice!! You seem to be The Chosen One!)
Seriously though, you should delete the message and forget it, perhaps even feel a bit sorry for the sender who obviously hasn't got much to do in their life.

[zazen999]

Well, I'm shocked that anyone can take anything on a forum so personally.

Does this sort of thing often happen to popular people [I wouldn't know!!!]? It is a bit 'be my friend' if you ask me - I recognise it from my OH's 11 year old DD who was always trying to be friends with another, more trendy and streetwise girl.

I'm not even going to ask about the 'seeking character reference', all a bit OTT for a usually lovely gardening forum.

[shirlthegirl43]

Rise above it, sweetie - there's one or two odd peeps out there - the rest of us are normal! Report it to the mods if you feel it was offensive.

xx

Oh dear, I must be one of the odd peeps then

[pigletwillie]

I wonder if they would like to "step outside" for a few moments.

Please note that personal attacks on members are not tolerated, even via pm. If any member recieves such a pm, feel free to forward it to a mod for potential further action.

[HeyWayne]

I wonder if they would like to "step outsde" for a few moments.

Didn't know you smoked dude?