Nosy alert - Lynda - What happened with OH?? I missed it!

[lynda66]

yeah, you're both right, i'm just selfish and impatient lol ......i don't want to spend months apart, i want it all and i want it now *stamps feet* (then realising broken toe isn't quite healed yet, falls on floor with a squeal)

i've not lived alone since i was 21 and single, i guess it's just a lot to come to terms with, and being honest i'm struggling with it, just doesn't seem right somehow.

just still not sure i can do it for another at least 3 years ...... though i still don't get why he won't move here and leave his house empty, or rent it out or summat snot fair

although the suggestion of moving abroad would be very tempting

[womble]

You could look at it another way and enjoy living alone for a while, take time out to enjoy yourself

[lynda66]

yeah, but i'm boring

[Farmer_Gyles]

yeah, you're both right, i'm just selfish and impatient lol ......i don't want to spend months apart, i want it all and i want it now ......
i've not lived alone since i was 21 and single, i guess it's just a lot to come to terms with, and being honest i'm struggling with it, just doesn't seem right somehow.

nothing wrong with being selfish and impatient, nothing wrong with wanting it all and wanting it now

it's been just me and the kids for the last 8 years - i want a girlfriend / partner / wife - and it's just not right without one
and i still struggle sometimes, especially when the kids aren't here

i've had various offers that would mean not seeing that other person for weeks at a time, but that isn't good enough for me - i want it all and i want it now ...........

[zazen999]

nothing wrong with being selfish and impatient, nothing wrong with wanting it all and wanting it now

it's been just me and the kids for the last 8 years - i want a girlfriend / partner / wife - and it's just not right without one
and i still struggle sometimes, especially when the kids aren't here

i've had various offers that would mean not seeing that other person for weeks at a time, but that isn't good enough for me - i want it all and i want it now ...........

Are you single again now then? I thought you had a girlie earlier this year? Sorry if it went badly

I was totally single for 5 years, before I met my OH; and I mean single as single could be...my choice though and in the end I quite enjoyed it and certainly learnt to enjoy my own company. But when the right one came along I was ready to dive straight in.

[HayleyB]

Oh dear, it's a catch 22 innit and of course you'd miss Rob more than OH cause he's flesh and blood.

But, Rob has only recently gone to uni and you are probably feeling lonelier cause you haven't adapted to him not being there so it makes missing OH more raw. Perhaps when you have gotten over your baby going then maybe it will be a bit easier for you to consider the next 3 years.

[Farmer_Gyles]

Are you single again now then? I thought you had a girlie earlier this year? Sorry if it went badly

twice this year i've met someone and hit it off - one started the "are you missing me" phone calls so that didn't last long - the other started messing me about so i walked away from that too .......

I was totally single for 5 years, before I met my OH; and I mean single as single could be...my choice though and in the end I quite enjoyed it and certainly learnt to enjoy my own company. But when the right one came along I was ready to dive straight in.

i can enjoy my own company, i'm more than ready for the right one to come along .... just getting impatient now!

[squashysu]

i can enjoy my own company, i'm more than ready for the right one to come along .... just getting impatient now!

she will be right under your nose, one day it will happen! i though would like to pay someone at the mo to take my OH away and would like to go back to being Miss!!!!!! one day, patience is a virtue for us all i think !

[zazen999]

Well, you gotta kiss alot of frogs before you find a prince[ss].

Good luck - you seem like a really nice chap.

Have you tried internet dating? That's how I found my OH.

[jackie j]

You dont have to live apart to feel alone. I live with my OH been married for 13 years and I feel lonely every night he sits on this blessed computer all the time and when he finally comes off I'm off to bed, tried telling him but he sits with me for a couple of nights if I'm lucky then goes back to the computer. I'm bored in the evenings as my hobby is gardening and I have had to give up sewing and knitting and cant find something else to occupy me.
Any suggestions !!!

Hope it works out for you.

[SlugLobber]

Jackie, swap a lead around, so the computer won't switch on. Problem sorted.

Hope it works out, Lynda. Have known distance relationships to go both ways - fingers crossed that yours is the right one!

[jackie j]

He knows too much about computers for me to fiddle with anything LOL

[lynda66]

bottle of coke seriously breaks it

[BrideXIII]

He knows too much about computers for me to fiddle with anything LOL

just say the word, i'll sabotage it long distance

[Alison]

Both of us use the computer quite a lot but now that we've got a wireless laptop it's not antisocial as can sit with it on our knees on the sofa while watching TV, chatting etc etc.