BIL True to his word

[jackie j]

Well my BIL said he couldnt afford christmas and guess what he gave his daughter. Nothing, zilch,didnt even speak to her even tho he was at my other sisters for the day and at my nieces today, all he did was shout at her to be quiet. She no longer wants anything to do with him, she has been going to his for tea once a week but she says she wont be going anymore. I dont blame her and we have said its up to her what she does.

[kirsty b]

Poor girl. She must be hurting, but its her decision to make. I'm sure she appreciates all the love and support she is getting from you guys.
Is your sister still going ahead with the custody application in the new year?

[SarzWix]

What an absolute prat he sounds... You're right to leave it up to her to decide though - she should never be able to feel later like she has been pushed in one direction or the other. My dad was only 15 when he decided to never have anything to do with his father again (although the circumstances were different). He says he never regretted it, although it did make him sad at times.

[FROSTYFRECKLE]

Your BIL sounds like a scumbag. Your neice sounds as if she has her head screwed on the right way, she might still be young but I think she has made a very good decision. Just as well she has her Aunt.

[jackie j]

Poor girl. She must be hurting, but its her decision to make. I'm sure she appreciates all the love and support she is getting from you guys.
Is your sister still going ahead with the custody application in the new year?

Deffinatly going ahead we couldnt possibly allow her to return and as she doesnt want to that will make it easier. We are a very close family and have always supported each other when needed. She gave my sister and brother in law a lovely card which suprised us all she said thank you for having her live with them. My sister and I visited my sisters grave on christmas eve and told her we would be applying for custody and she can rest easy. We will not let her down, it was a promise we made to each other that we would look
after each others kids should anything happen to any of us.
All in all we had a good christmas we have a lovely family and we all pull together.

[MaureenHall]

How can anyone be so cruel? Especially at Christmas! It wouldn't have taken much for him to say "I'm sorry love, I'm broke and I can't afford to buy you anything, but I love you and I want you to be happy"

[maytreefrannie]

So glad you and your family had a good Christmas, Jackie - that will have done a lot to make up to your niece.

Best wishes to you all.

[vegnut]

GODS. I would go without the christmas turkey and the pressies, just to be able to buy my daughter a little something for the day. Beans on toast and no regrets. Poor kid.

[bubblewrap]

I think Christmas is (MAINLY) for kids if adults don't want to do it fine, but don't inflict it on your children.
Little money is not an excuse £5-£10 can buy quite a nice present.
And any way Christmas is only for a few days & Jackie's BIL has the rest of the year to be a miserable b*****d.

[crazy_red]

That man is a waste of space! Someone should put him out of her misery!!

On the upside, kids don't need presents, they need security, love and affection. Sounds like you all give her plenty.

What gifts were given to us a child at christmas are forgotten about as we grow up, but she will remember the love you all gave her for the rest of her life.

<<Hugs>>

Red x

[Two_Sheds]

My sister's dad came for Xmas, to pick up his present ... but didn't give any in return, for her or any of her 4 children (his grandchildren)

He can't be spending his beer money, now can he?

[piskieinboots]

Your sister's dad? forgive me if I missed something - but doesn't that make him your Pa also? .... or should I just shut me trap now

[Hans Mum]

Your sister's dad? forgive me if I missed something - but doesn't that make him your Pa also? .... or should I just shut me trap now

same mum different dad? thats our house anyways!!