depression

[SueA]

I worked with a girl with a similar problem to yours Petal. She was off work for a long time with stress & people in her office used to gossip about her & say she was just 'swinging the lead' & at her age (she was early twenties) she didn't have anything to worry about, no kids, no mortgage, they didn't understand the condition at all. In the end she decided to leave & eventually changed direction completely & became a fitness instructor. The excercise & activity helped to ease her depression & she made a good recovery in the end.
You shouldn't have to put up with bullying & if yoy want to carry on working there you should report it or try to confront the bully when you are feeling stronger. Hope you're feeling better soon.

[allotmentlady]

Be strong and report the bullying. A friend of mine went on for 5 years of being bullied by a colleague, kicked and spat on and other horrendous things. Last October was the final straw and he built up the courage to report him, myself and others made statements and the bully nearly lost his job. The bully has been moved to a different department. My friend is much happier now.

It will be okay, speak up about it and stop this, you can take control of this situation. Before you do this, sit down quietly and write it all down, then you will have a clear view of what you want to say.

Good luck, thinking of you xx

[petal]

Wow, such great advice - This bully has been reprimanded and my work are being very supportive. I will not be going back before I am ready as teaching is a stressful occupation and I need to be a 100%. I am spending time with my horses but feel no enthusiasm towards gardening- the weather doesn't help.

[pjh75]

Wow, such great advice - This bully has been reprimanded and my work are being very supportive. I will not be going back before I am ready as teaching is a stressful occupation and I need to be a 100%. I am spending time with my horses but feel no enthusiasm towards gardening- the weather doesn't help.

A few others said what I was thinking when I read this thread so it is good news that something is being done about the bully.

Definitely take things at your own pace and don't go back until you are ready.

[allotmentlady]

go slow, do it at your own pace and give your horses a hug from me!

[Jameslovell]

I can understand where you are coming from.

I was under a similar situation in my old job. I stuck it out for a year, but had to leave. It got me so stressed out again that i started smoking again and felt my life was spirling out of control. I left that job three months ago and am still having anxiety proplems because I didn't deal with it fully. When I left i didn't really explain why I was leaving because of the pressure from above I felt i couldn't tell them. In telling them, I could have made other people's life harder as they were getting some of the same treatment too. But enough about me...

My only advise to you is to talk about it. Talk to friends or family. If you can't talk to them or just don't want to for what ever reason, i got some great help from MIND. I felt so much better and that a weight had been lifted from my shoulders from just saying how I was feeling out loud. Oh and a good cry never hurt anyone, it's never a sign of defeat or weakness, just the sad/bad feelings leaving you so you can move on.

[petal]

James I am sorry you went through all that and I am starting to realise how lucky I am with family, friends and colleagues at work all rallying around. It doesn't stop you feeling glum but it helps drag you out of that depth of self pity. To not feel alone is the answer and I seem to be regaining my sense of humour these past two days so all is well after all.

[miffy]

Both James and Petal, like all healing processes it takes time. You have both been through the mill. Give yourselves time to heal. Hope you both feel better soon. Take carex

[tricky]

I though it was just me James.
Each and everyone of us has got different tales to tell but there all similer.
I left work sep 07 because of bullying and the two facedness of certain individuals who would tell lies to management.
In the end i went to see my doctor who put me on meds and i underwent counciling.
Did it help ,of course it did
I will never forget the woman who helped me , she was 65 years old and was a true professional . She had worked it mental health for 45 years.
Dont ever be afraid to go see a mental health worker , they are very experianced.
My advise to anyone ,go see a doctor he knows the best course of action.