valentine's day? What do you do?

[Irie Jan]

[QUOTE=Mrs Dobby;363294]I can understand where you are coming from, having given up on love and romance in my late 20's / early 30's, boyfriends came and went, and I was getting desperate to find Mr Right, then I realised that I needed to stop trying to live me life always looking for something else and just enjoy what every day brought to me, enjoy the things I could do as a singleton and not worry about finding anyone, if they were meant to be in my life, then they would!
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I was married at 19 separated at 36 and now I'm 50, not had a partner willing to properly stand by me since. I have neither given up on romance nor do I actively go searching for it! I believe where affairs of the heart are concerned, we can not make it happen!! It is just one of those things that happens when you least expect it to! It can just be a matter of being in the right place at the right time!

It would be great to have someone to share things with but at the same time, after all this time I have to an extent got used to being alone most of the time! It is nice to have no one to answer to. I can do as I please when I please It can just be a bit lonely at times.

[Alison]

Some of us GRUMPY LOT IN THE CORNER did not have a choice in the matter of being alone!!

Don't think most people have got anything against romance on the whole but those of us in the so called grumpy corner object to being TOLD what to think by the media / commerce etc. A gesture from the heart should be just that, not because somebody feels forced or conditioned into it. Not really one for big gestures anyway, every time OH makes me a cuppa he shows me he cares etc and that's far more important to me. Have been on my own on Valentines in the past and can't say it really bothered me as I'd prefer the day didn't exist anyway but can understand how all those hearts and flowers could really get to some people, especially if they're feeling pretty lonely to start with.

[squashysu]

well apart from beating the postman from the door with his huge sacks of cards for me, i do nothing, no one has ever sent me a card lol! how sad is that admitting that on here!!!! lol!!!!

oh well lol! x

[Two_Sheds]

It can just be a bit lonely at times.

So can relationships Jan

[Irie Jan]

Don't think most people have got anything against romance on the whole but those of us in the so called grumpy corner object to being TOLD what to think by the media / commerce etc. A gesture from the heart should be just that, not because somebody feels forced or conditioned into it. Not really one for big gestures anyway, every time OH makes me a cuppa he shows me he cares etc and that's far more important to me. Have been on my own on Valentines in the past and can't say it really bothered me as I'd prefer the day didn't exist anyway but can understand how all those hearts and flowers could really get to some people, especially if they're feeling pretty lonely to start with.

Oh dear I appear to have opened a can of worms with my statement! " Some of us GRUMPY LOT IN THE CORNER did not have a choice in the matter of being alone!!

"Please just let me make myself clear on this! I did not intend it as a dig at anyone on here at all! Pumpkin Becki please do not feel bad ok!! We all have a right to our opinions and to say as we feel. This is after all supposed to be a democratic country, freedom of speech and so on! I just wanted to put the other side out there; show that just because some of us will not be doing the valentine thing dose not mean that we have no romance in us that's all! It's just that as I said, some of us have no choice in the matter.

Alison I do agree with what you are saying, having been alone for a no of years, it is not nice to go around the shops and have it flung in your face where ever you go, then come home and it is all hearts and flowers over the TV and radio! I love romantic gestures, given the chance to actually give or receive them! They should come un-prompted and as you say from the heart and as a natural thing at any given time, not just one day of the year! What is the point with these things if it is all due to commercialism

For all you love birds out there, as I have already said and I do mean it! If it is your thing then go for it, have a happy day on the 14th whatever!

[squashysu]

2 years later I met Mr D, and 6 months later we were wed, both being very romantic (must tell each other I love you at least a dozen times a day!) all the time! I dont need a special day to celebrate, as we celebrate each and every day together!

arrr that is lovely jubbly, almost brought me to tears! after 16 years of a mostly unhappy marriage, escaping is great by the way, you two are very special and i take my hat off to you both and hope that everyday you still feel the same! Well done Mr and Mrs D, you are a credit to each other x

[ChrisB]

I was married at 19 separated at 36 and now I'm 50, not had a partner willing to properly stand by me since. I have neither given up on romance nor do I actively go searching for it! I believe where affairs of the heart are concerned, we can not make it happen!! It is just one of those things that happens when you least expect it to! It can just be a matter of being in the right place at the right time!



Never say never.

Like you I was married and then on my own for 20+ years. A few years ago I took a half days holiday from work to pick up animal feed and have a mooch around the garden centre, got chatted up by somebody who lived on the other side of the country but was here on business, and only because he was standing in for somebody else, the rest is history.

As you say, if it is meant to be ......

[zazen999]

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[nelliegemini]

We lost my mum several years ago, and somehow she got buried on 14th Feb - rather put a damper on the day, which we have totally ignored for years. So you could say that we're coming out of the corner, having been firmly entrenched there for years.

However, this year we are going out for a meal to an Italian restaurant - tho' had to laugh when the girl at the desk asked how many the booking was for - what sort of place is this I asked. She did confess that all the bookings were for 2 - she just asked out of habit!

[Irie Jan]

We lost my mum several years ago, and somehow she got buried on 14th Feb - rather put a damper on the day, which we have totally ignored for years. So you could say that we're coming out of the corner, having been firmly entrenched there for years.

However, this year we are going out for a meal to an Italian restaurant - tho' had to laugh when the girl at the desk asked how many the booking was for - what sort of place is this I asked. She did confess that all the bookings were for 2 - she just asked out of habit!

Go enjoy the day nelliegemini, have a fantastic meal; sounds like you deserve a bit of fun!

Just a quick update on how I will now be spending valentine day! I found out yesterday, I will mostly be heaving furniture around the house with my daughter and her OH! lol I have been waiting for some help with the heavy stuff for ages so I can get new carpets all over the house, after redecorating! Between the kids the carpet peeps and me, 14th Feb was the best date we could all come up with! should be fun

On the other hand, who knows; perhaps the carpet fitter will be young, fit, free and single; she says tongue in cheek!

[Two_Sheds]

I am going to make heart-shaped eggs on heart-shaped toast for his dinner, with heart-shaped ice cubes in his JD & Coke.

For myself, I left a newspaper clipping on the fridge with "THIS IS NICE" biroed on it.
Yesterday I got handed an opened jiffy bag with a "this is yours"

Oh no I said, handing it back. I want it wrapped up and given to me on the day - "what day?" he says


I give up

[Irie Jan]

I am going to make heart-shaped eggs on heart-shaped toast for his dinner, with heart-shaped ice cubes in his JD & Coke.

For myself, I left a newspaper clipping on the fridge with "THIS IS NICE" biroed on it.
Yesterday I got handed an opened jiffy bag with a "this is yours"

Oh no I said, handing it back. I want it wrapped up and given to me on the day - "what day?" he says


I give up

Aww Two Sheds, that's sweet of you! Don't give up just yet you still have time to work on him lol

I know what you were saying earlier about it can still be lonely even in a relationship, my sister says that, her OH is always at work and never much use even when he is at home lol

[Glutton4...]

I am going to make heart-shaped eggs on heart-shaped toast for his dinner, with heart-shaped ice cubes in his JD & Coke.

For myself, I left a newspaper clipping on the fridge with "THIS IS NICE" biroed on it.
Yesterday I got handed an opened jiffy bag with a "this is yours"

Oh no I said, handing it back. I want it wrapped up and given to me on the day - "what day?" he says


I give up

That's because he's unsure of how to do it any other way. A lot of fellas take after their Dads on that. My OH, like his Dad is quite a soft romantic guy, my Dad, on the other hand, is no good at all with showing his emotions. Doesn't mean he doesn't care, just that he doesn't know best how to express it.

[janeyo]

My dad has taken to sending my mum a HUUUGE valentine's card every year. Tis most suspicious. She never gets him one, lol

[Eyren]

I've demanded that I be taken to Potato Day at Stowmarket!

It's a cause of endless mirth round this way

I mentioned the Stowmarket thing to Mr E late last year - funnily enough he happily agreed to drive me all the way to Ryton Gardens last month to choose my potatoes there instead...

We'll be having a nice home-cooked dinner, and a bottle of bubbly that a client gave Mr E before Xmas - I won't say what I've got him in case he's reading this forum!