how can I speed up forgiveness?

[janeyo]

I locked myself out yesterday with the toddlie. Strangely the car was open but had no keys for the house.
Obviously it was OH's fault as he didn't tell me he was leaving for work early. Normally he leaves after I get back form the school run to miss traffic. I h d no phone as left that in the house too.
So by the time I had located a neighbour and rung my mum to get OH's number then rang him, then had to listen to the swearing, he had to come all the way back from work to let me in (about a 40 mile round trip) to let me in.

And he's still grumpy.

Any ideas (clean ones only) thanks

[SueA]

If you mean you want him to forgive you for ranting & making him drive home I'd just cook him his favourite meal & casually say you're sorry for losing your temper but you were very upset at the time, cry a bit too, it might help!

[snuffer]

Just do what Mrs snuffer does (I can see from your post that your already half way there) and blame the OH. We hadn't been married long before I learned that everything that went wrong was my fault. Sort out your version of events in your own mind, then stick to it. Always works for Mrs snuffer LOL.

[snuffer]

QUOTE from SueA: 'cry a bit too'.

That really is below the belt, us fellas don't stand a chance.

[janeyo]

It was him doing the swearing not me!

I was quite happily waiting at the neighbours house with a brew....

[vicky]

I have done this too to my oh! I think I just played stupid "Thank Goodness I have you or I couldn't manage"
Oh and the 'not so clean' apology helps too!

[Pumpkin Becki]

you could say something like 'I was only thinking of your child's wellbeing darling' (or similar), that'll send him on a guilt trip.

PS: How cruel am I?

[maytreefrannie]

Janey, I'm not sure if I've taken this up rightly or wrongly, but from other posts, it seems the grapes are thinking in terms of getting him to forgive you. I thought, reading your message, that YOU are finding it hard to forgive HIM? Which is correct?

My children are grown up now, but my heart went out to you when I read how you came back and were locked out with a toddler and with no phone.

Hope you're feeling better now.

[janeyo]

He is still grumpy with me.
I was never at any stage grumpy with him - honest

The toddlie was fine once we found somewhere to wait, they had 'toys' and everything... err actually I think they were ornaments but hey ho he wasn't to know! lol

[Glutton4...]

Take your bladdy 'phone and keys with you next time, then it won't happen again!

[SarzWix]

He's feeling guilty, that's what I reckon, and you haven't helped him out by having a go at him, so his guilt/strop has had no outlet in a nice satisfying row...

[Hilary B]

Yeah, maybe you SHOULD tell him off, for not warning you he was leaving early, then you can have a blazing row (hopefully short) about exactly whose fault it was, ending in tears and apologies all round, but it depends how 'strong disagreements' usually go in your house......

[jackie j]

oh er missus both at fault by the sounds of things, him for not telling you he would be going before you got home to make sure you have keys, and you for not taking them. So you both need to appologise. It might be fun making up lol

[FionaH]

Tis easy, nice food, glass of sommat he likes and then the "not clean" bit

[jacob marley]

Have a spare set of keys in the greenhouse that is what we do never had to use them but they are there .
we can get grumpy enough without locking each other out..jacob