Mums - what are they like!?!

[allotmentlady]

I agree with bernie.........drive there without saying anything lol

[dexterdoglancashire]

I agree with bernie.........drive there without saying anything lol

If you could just call via Chorley and Lostock Hall, and pick us on the way, I promise we'd be well behaved!

[allotmentlady]

She lies, she lies we are very norty women lol.........we cause trouble wherever we go,,,,,,

[dexterdoglancashire]

She lies, she lies we are very norty women lol.........we cause trouble wherever we go,,,,,,

Seriously tho, it sounds like a fab place to go for a meal. I really respect Nigel Haworth, and would love to go there.

[lyndap]

If your moms having money probs maybe spending so much on a meal how ever much well intended might be the down side for her at the mo,plus the stress of your sister being so ill.I think I was abit like this last year when my son was fighting cancer,and I'm sure in retrospect I prob sounded abit ungrateful when offered various things.Hopefully things will pick up for you all soon.Please be patient with her,and my best wishes are with you all.Maybe a nice home cooked meal would go down well?

[Alison]

I agree with bernie.........drive there without saying anything lol

To me, one of the most important parts of a gift is buying / doing something suitable for the person that they will enjoy etc etc, not what you think they ought to like so why on earth would you trick somebody into doing something they don't want to do?

[Seahorse]

I think some people just aren't 'into' food. I know my own Mum (who is not short of a bob or two) would think it a 'waste' to spend money in a posh restaurant when she could have a nice jacket spud and a tuna salad at home. I'd go to the Manor with just Mr OWG if I were you and maybe take Mum for a country walk or a day at the coast or something?

All the best to your sister. It must be a hard time for all of you.

[Edwardo82]

I honestly believe that you cannot bet a nice bit of home cooking for the olds and the other half.

My girlfriend and family members actually prefer it when I cook something special for them at home and everyone can have a good drink then as well

Just my opinion

[Two_Sheds]

To me, one of the most important parts of a gift is buying / doing something suitable for the person that they will enjoy

True, true.
But you should also receive a well-meant gift with grace and thanks.

[Alison]

True, true.
But you should also receive a well-meant gift with grace and thanks.

True also but if you suggest going somewhere to somebody they are honest enough to say it's not their kind of thing but you think you know better and take them anyway then who is the treat actually for? Reminds me of a friend of mine who's OH bought her tickets for a band she had no interest in for her birthday (and one for him so he could accompany her.....what a shock, one of his fave bands!). The present was clearly for him but he'd made it worse by trying to pretend it was for her. Totally inconsiderate - not saying OWG was planning on bullying as she has said nothing of the sort but others were encouraging this type of behaviour.

[OverWyreGrower]

We have compromised with my mum! I refused to take her to a cheap carvery, so we have agreed on a nice restaurant-y type pub near us that does a nice Sunday menu, but isn't too expensive...

P.S. It's not about the cost, as we would have paid for my mum regardless of where we went!!

P.P.S. Yes, there's nothing like homecooked food, but I usually cook our meals from scratch 7 days a week, so going out is also a treat for me too!! I often freeze portions for my mum (who lives alone) so that she doesn't eat yorkshire pudding and gravy for tea every night!!

[maytreefrannie]

We have compromised with my mum! I refused to take her to a cheap carvery, so we have agreed on a nice restaurant-y type pub near us that does a nice Sunday menu, but isn't too expensive...

P.S. It's not about the cost, as we would have paid for my mum regardless of where we went!!

P.P.S. Yes, there's nothing like homecooked food, but I usually cook our meals from scratch 7 days a week, so going out is also a treat for me too!! I often freeze portions for my mum (who lives alone) so that she doesn't eat yorkshire pudding and gravy for tea every night!!

Sounds like a good compromise that all will enjoy - hope you all have a good time.

Btw, I'm a mother of grown kids and sometimes they offer/suggest something that doesn't suit me - I do appreciate it when given a gift though, and I agree with Two Sheds, just must remember to graciously thank in future before trying to 'change' the gift or idea to something more to my liking!

Good wishes to your sister.

[Two_Sheds]

Reminds me of a friend of mine who's OH bought her tickets for a band she had no interest in ...The present was clearly for him but he'd made it worse by trying to pretend it was for her. Totally inconsiderate

I'm with you on this !
Mr Sheds is always buying tickets to bands that I haven't even heard of. When I say I don't want to go, I get the guilt trip, that it's cost him money and he 'thought it would be nice to go out together'.
He did it with Disneyland too. Bought the tickets even though I'd said I didn't want to go.
Now he's trying to convince me to go to Spain (coincidentally it is when some of his bands are playing a festival).
Last year he dragged me to another ruddy festival, on the promise that we could detour and visit my friends on the way home. Funnily enough, he 'forgot' to turn off the right motorway exit on the way home and we never got to see my friends.

[Two_Sheds]

We have compromised with my mum! ... we have agreed on a nice restaurant-y type pub near us that does a nice Sunday menu, but isn't too expensive...

That sounds like a good plan. I hope you all have a great day.

[Creemteez]

I'm with you on this !
Mr Sheds is always buying tickets to bands that I haven't even heard of. When I say I don't want to go, I get the guilt trip, that it's cost him money and he 'thought it would be nice to go out together'.
He did it with Disneyland too. Bought the tickets even though I'd said I didn't want to go.
Now he's trying to convince me to go to Spain (coincidentally it is when some of his bands are playing a festival).
Last year he dragged me to another ruddy festival, on the promise that we could detour and visit my friends on the way home. Funnily enough, he 'forgot' to turn off the right motorway exit on the way home and we never got to see my friends.

Why don't you get your own back by buying two tickets for something that he is not into, and see if he likes the way it feels?
Anyway, I'm pretty sure his behaiviour is grounds for divorce - would be in my house!