Mums - what are they like!?!

[di]

I'm with you on this !
Mr Sheds is always buying tickets to bands that I haven't even heard of. When I say I don't want to go, I get the guilt trip, that it's cost him money and he 'thought it would be nice to go out together'.
He did it with Disneyland too. Bought the tickets even though I'd said I didn't want to go.
Now he's trying to convince me to go to Spain (coincidentally it is when some of his bands are playing a festival).
Last year he dragged me to another ruddy festival, on the promise that we could detour and visit my friends on the way home. Funnily enough, he 'forgot' to turn off the right motorway exit on the way home and we never got to see my friends.

Well,if you really can't get your mum to join you at Chelsea(which if she gets to read this I truly think she should!!!)...maybe it would be the perfect treat for Mr Sheds!!

[Hilary B]

I'm with you on this !
Mr Sheds is always buying tickets to bands that I haven't even heard of. When I say I don't want to go, I get the guilt trip, that it's cost him money and he 'thought it would be nice to go out together'.
He did it with Disneyland too. Bought the tickets even though I'd said I didn't want to go.
Now he's trying to convince me to go to Spain (coincidentally it is when some of his bands are playing a festival).
Last year he dragged me to another ruddy festival, on the promise that we could detour and visit my friends on the way home. Funnily enough, he 'forgot' to turn off the right motorway exit on the way home and we never got to see my friends.

I have a very well-meaning, kind, generous husband, who has not a clue what really appeals to me (after 34 years).
I can live with him always getting it wrong, but it is the way it is MY fault that I don't like what he likes! I don't stop him doing what suits him and not me (even when I have to join in), I simply refuse to pretend enthusiasm for thing which I merely find tollerable, but he is SOOOOOo upset when I remind him that "if that is what you want to do, we'll do it, but no it isn't something I WANT to do!"
Oddly enough the things I want to do that don't appeal to him are mostly social. I don't expect enthusiasm about visiting my friends and family (fair enough, I ain't enthusiastic about sitting in a records office doing family tree research), but he could agree from time to time without being such a miserable old.......

[Two_Sheds]

it is the way it is MY fault that I don't like what he likes! I don't stop him doing what suits him .... I don't expect enthusiasm about visiting my friends and family

Are we sharing the same man, or they really all the same?

I don't expect him to sit at my mother's all day on a Sunday, while I watch the TV. But he does.
I don't drag him out to the pub then spend the whole night ignoring him.
I don't book restaurants where he can only eat one thing on the menu. Even if I give my preference, he'll still book the Steak House.

He's told me I'm "not normal" for not liking chocolates & flowers as peace offerings. I say, use a little imagination and thought A T&M voucher goes down a treat, but that's not "normal".

Sorry to hijack your thread, OWG

[Hilary B]

Are we sharing the same man, or they really all the same?

I don't expect him to sit at my mother's all day on a Sunday, while I watch the TV. But he does.
I don't drag him out to the pub then spend the whole night ignoring him.
I don't book restaurants where he can only eat one thing on the menu. Even if I give my preference, he'll still book the Steak House.

He's told me I'm "not normal" for not liking chocolates & flowers as peace offerings. I say, use a little imagination and thought A T&M voucher goes down a treat, but that's not "normal".

Sorry to hijack your thread, OWG

Mine is a little better than that (and we no longer actually have parents to confuse the issue). We do have very different tastes in TV programs, and pub food, and he will keep asking my opinion about things that don't affect me, or at other times doing something I don't want, and then sayine WE decided.
I don't think I've ever actually HAD a peace offering.

Different details, same basic problem, a man always expects the woman in their life to like the same things he does, and hates being proved wrong!

Apology seconded BTW