Why are men so frustrating?

[rookie bear]

Be explicit - a statemnet such as 'the grass is looking long' I take to be a statement of fact not a subtly worded request to cut it

Took me and mrs bear a long time to figure that out

she now tries to be more explicit and i try and hear the request in statements - doesnt always work but as we are now conscious of this it helps

trick here is not not get annoyed why the other person hasnt chipped in but to think about how you asked and was there anything in the way that may not have helped (boys n girls)

[Glutton4...]

Update:

After dinner, I did half the ironing mountain coz I felt guilty!

[zebedee]

I do my share of the cooking, I can (and quite often do) wash and iron my own clothes, I do housework, I used to look after the kids when they were at home (now all left home) I help out with as many household chores as I can. So there!







PS: please forgive me writing in crayon as I'm not allowed anything sharp in here!

[SlugLobber]

Update:

After dinner, I did half the ironing mountain coz I felt guilty!

*snort*

No complaints for my OH. Not serious ones, anyway. Perhaps he could bring less 'thoughtful pressies' home (I only have a small house!!), but bless him, how can I say no??

p.s. I have been on the receiving end of PMT. At least, that's what they blame it on. As a woman myself, I know that there are such things as painkillers if it's that bad. I can't be doing with women OR MEN who blame moods on PMT.

[HeyWayne]

As things currently stand - LadyWayne does almost all the housework as she's at home (on maternity leave) during the day whilst I'm at work.

That'll change back to how it was once LW goes back to work.

The gardening is all mine and always will be.

LW earns much more than I do, so I like to try and compensate in other ways.

[Hilary B]

*snort*

No complaints for my OH. Not serious ones, anyway. Perhaps he could bring less 'thoughtful pressies' home (I only have a small house!!), but bless him, how can I say no??

p.s. I have been on the receiving end of PMT. At least, that's what they blame it on. As a woman myself, I know that there are such things as painkillers if it's that bad. I can't be doing with women OR MEN who blame moods on PMT.

PMT has nothing to do with pain.
No-one has yet come up with a chemical which controls the psychological effects of sudden changes in hormone level (apart from by controlling hormones directly, ie. 'the pill'). There are meditation techniques for managing one's reaction to the effect, and of course plenty of us never get it that badly (in some cases because we were already in the habit of trying to keep control of our moods before the situation arose).

[kirsty b]

Hear hear Hilary!!!

I use painkillers when needed, but the mood swings drive me mad. I know I'm doing it but can't seem to help it. A pill for these would be a lifesaver

[Two_Sheds]

Another sufferer here: the full monty - heaviness, flooding, pain, swelling, and irritability/depression/lethargy prior to the event.
Oh, the joy every month. If only a pill would fix all that.

[lyndap]

Oh,reading all this makes me doubly apreciate my better half.He does absolutley everything and works,and no before anyone asks,he's mine and I'm keeping him.LOL.

[Shirley Sherriffs]

You can offend men because they never think it applies to them. Seriously though men just dont think in the same way as women do. Its not a criticism it just a fact. Men cant multitask in the way women do either, one thing at a time is the way they work. We can fill a kettle, and while its boiling take cups and plates out of the cupboard, toast and spread bread, get the milk and sugar and marmalade. Men just wait for the kettle to boil before they do task number 2. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[SarzWix]

p.s. I have been on the receiving end of PMT. At least, that's what they blame it on. As a woman myself, I know that there are such things as painkillers if it's that bad. I can't be doing with women OR MEN who blame moods on PMT.

I think you are very very lucky if you haven't been through it. I spent a very long time trying to get my hormones sorted out after I had my children. I got to the point where I was virtually suicidal 3 weeks out of every 5, and ended up having a full hysterectomy at the age of 30 to sort it out.
I can assure you that if a painkiller could have dealt with it, I'd have taken it.

[Farmer_Gyles]

... the mood swings drive me mad. I know I'm doing it but can't seem to help it. A pill for these would be a lifesaver

and that's exactly what i mean .... try being a man on the receiving end of those mood swings!!

[amandaandherveg]

and that's exactly what i mean .... try being a man on the receiving end of those mood swings!!

My OH learnt to fly under the radar for 5 days a month in our house.

[smallblueplanet]

and that's exactly what i mean .... try being a man on the receiving end of those mood swings!!

Try understanding them.

[mrdinkle]

Pretty much 50/50 here.

We take turns to cook and each have regular jobs we undertake which offer a fairly balanced share of the tasks.

Though I probably do more