really cross with son's school

[di]

I do sympathise that you're worried & a bit angry,but I think the teachers have a pretty good idea of who the kiddies mix well with & I'm sure that although they haven't put him with any of his chosen friends,they have kept him with at least a few others that he may well mix just as well with,but possibly fails to chat about when he's home with you???
There may also be good reasons why the teachers thought a little separation would benefit him?When Daisy was in reception her "best friend" was actually really not the "best" person for her...perfectly lovely little girl,but an incredibly overpowering friendship where Daisy really wasn't allowed to do anything that didn't involve her.At the time Daisy was upset,but two years later I can see it really was for the best,they're still buddies but being in different classes I think helped Daisy develop into a more confident happy little girl.
I'm sure he'll do great & that although the teachers haven't put him with his chosen few,they'll have insured that he's entering year one with at least a couple of good buddies that they've seen him play well with!
He'll be fine!x

[janeyo]

Update

Well it seems throwing your toys out of the parm can get results.

He has been moved to a class with his friend. The class teacher tells me she had not seen the final list until after it went to parents (?) and had also spotted he was not with anyone 'close'.

I am pleased with this as am sure if you are a good child who keeps your head down you often get overlooked. (I teach secondary and it can easily happen there).

[jackie j]

When my daughter was in nursery school she and four children were moved up a term early because of their ability, one of the parents went ape at me because her daughter was older then any of the ones to be moved, I didnt choose for her to go up, the school did, they caught each other up and spent time in the same class before the parents moved away from the area. Both girls got on fine not being in the same class and remained friends until they moved.
I am glad your son gets to stay with at least one friend.

[NOG]

I would popin with the letter and be all nice....and sweet.

[Two_Sheds]

I work in a school too.
Children make and break friends really easily (much easier than adults do). It is desirable for them to meet new people and forge new friendships; it sets them up for coping with change in later life.

See it as a good thing

[petal]

Yes, see it as a good thing but I do think you need to express your concerns to the school. I know I didn't get anywhere, but you feel better that you have voiced your opinion - then if it doesn't work out - you can always say ' I told you so'!

[Alison]

When I was at school, every time we went up to a new school we were simply put in classes alphabetically for our forms and then setted for various subjects as we went along (probably when were about 13ish). I was one of a close group of 4 at primary school and wasn't with any of them at seniors. Bit upset for about a week then just got on with it. No problems, and don't remember anybody thinking anything odd about this approach. Was somewhat surprised when talking to a friend with a kid at the top end of primary that they have to say who they want to be with and the kids seem to know who has picked them and who hasn't. Think at the age of 11 finding out that somebody I though of as a friend didn't want to sit near me would have been much more traumatic than it just being random and therefore equal for everybody.

[NOG]

They just put as many of us in the rom as they could. In my primary school there was 47 in the class. It tool all morning just to read the register.