Just have to rant to someone about this, it's driving me mad!!
My SIL is pregnant and due in March (unplanned pregnancy, she is 17)...
SIL and her partner are really poor and spend a lot of their (benefits) money on fags and booze. She doesn't work because she doesn't want to, and her partner works in FIL's pub. They live above the pub with FIL.
For Christmas we've got her and her partner some Mothercare vouchers (plus some chocolates and little stuff).
When OH's dad asked what we had got her for Christmas and we told him, he said we were mean, and that we should be buying things for SIL, not the baby.
Our gift is well intentioned, as we know they can't afford things like a pram, cot, baby clothes etc, so we figured that they would need help. Plus, since both of them are smokers and drinkers (yep, even though she is pregnant) we know they would spend cash on that.
Are we being mean? Should we have bought SIL something else, or given cash, rather than something they can keep for when the baby comes?
Also, we've found out (through another family member) that SIL and her partner (who live with FIL) are moving to Bradford, as SIL's partner is originally from there. Apparantly he is homesick and is going back there. He has issued the ultimatum that if she wants a father for the child, she has to go to Bradford too. Not only is SIL going, but FIL is looking at finding a pub to run in Bradford (instead of the one he runs in Preston) so he can follow SIL, as "he doesn't want to leave SIL alone with Mike (not his real name)"
Honestly, no wonder Mr OWG was keen to move to the countryside!!
Phew, OK, rant over. I feel better now that's off my chest...
My SIL is pregnant and due in March (unplanned pregnancy, she is 17)...
SIL and her partner are really poor and spend a lot of their (benefits) money on fags and booze. She doesn't work because she doesn't want to, and her partner works in FIL's pub. They live above the pub with FIL.
For Christmas we've got her and her partner some Mothercare vouchers (plus some chocolates and little stuff).
When OH's dad asked what we had got her for Christmas and we told him, he said we were mean, and that we should be buying things for SIL, not the baby.
Our gift is well intentioned, as we know they can't afford things like a pram, cot, baby clothes etc, so we figured that they would need help. Plus, since both of them are smokers and drinkers (yep, even though she is pregnant) we know they would spend cash on that.
Are we being mean? Should we have bought SIL something else, or given cash, rather than something they can keep for when the baby comes?
Also, we've found out (through another family member) that SIL and her partner (who live with FIL) are moving to Bradford, as SIL's partner is originally from there. Apparantly he is homesick and is going back there. He has issued the ultimatum that if she wants a father for the child, she has to go to Bradford too. Not only is SIL going, but FIL is looking at finding a pub to run in Bradford (instead of the one he runs in Preston) so he can follow SIL, as "he doesn't want to leave SIL alone with Mike (not his real name)"
Honestly, no wonder Mr OWG was keen to move to the countryside!!
Phew, OK, rant over. I feel better now that's off my chest...
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