Was I wrong?

[Nicos]

Hmm...well I'd have opened it thinking it was a nice surprise that she'd sent for one for you both...especially as she knew you'd be missing her so much!!!
I think that was a lovely idea you tried it out...would have been nice with some homemade jam as a welcome home pressie too!

However- I can only think that maybe she'd got an idea of the make and model of one which she wanted and decided to get a cheaper one for a wedding pressie- and she's upset that she'll now be stuck with a breadmaker which doesn't fulfill all her requirements ( jam making or seeds etc)...or just isn't as attractive to her as the one she'd planned.
yup...be a man..grovel

[taff]

yup.
understanadable mistake, but still wrong...
get another breadmaker, but no pressie since if you open each others mail it was partly her fault for not telling you it was coming.
make an 'oops, sorry' card

[SlugLobber]

I think if you're used to opening each other's mail and she didn't say that she was expecting a wedding gift, it's a perfectly excusable mistake. Easy to rectify by just buying another. Make sure you get it cheaper, as that's double brownie points . I do think buggering off to her own house is a bit of an over-reaction, particularly as you had made some nice bread for her. I'd have been quite pleased and kicking myself for not actually telling you it was a gift!

[smallblueplanet]

Seems a bit of an over reaction. Why can't you just buy another for a wedding present?

[SMS6]

I think she should have told you that the parcel was a wedding present for someone. There is nothing like poor communication to wreck a relationship.

I came home from a week away recently to find we had suddenly become the owners of Sky TV. No discussion about getting it and when ever the Sky adverts came through the letterbox I always made it clear I thought it was a waste of money. I was told he thought it would be a nice surprise for me - yeh right!

Replace the 'Pressie Breadmaker' and then have a nice frank discussion with her

[Pumpkin Becki]

If you are used to opening each others mail, then there must be a huge amount of trust in your relationship. My OH and I have been living together for 13 years now and we don't open each others post, not even the junk mail! (But we do trust each other BTW).

She should have told you that it was a wedding gift for someone, I think if you just explain that you didn't realise it was intended as a gift for someone else and that you thought it would be a nice surprise for her to be welcomed home by the smell of freshly baked bread after her horrible day. I'm sure she'll understand.

Having said that, disappearing off to her own home is quite an overreaction, and that is coming from someone who can 'flounce' for England. I'm sure it will be okay in the long run.

[FionaH]

You make bread? I 'll marry you. Just give me a second to get rid of the current MrH

[Nicos]

anyone seen gingerlover today????

...hope he's OK!!! ( have visions oh his OH wealding a breadknife!!)

quick- someone send out the search party!!

[gingerlover]

Hi,went and grovelled, didn't get me anywhere. So went all over Leeds to buy a new machine, I can only find the next model down so as I'd just got my dole money on Monday (yes sad to say on the dole now ) I went and spent most of it on a new machine.

More grovelling and then told it's not the right one and to take it back and find the proper one. Think she is being bloody minded, spent most of my money on this and at £93.50 it's one hell of a whack of my dole. So as I was saving money after I bought this I had walked all the awy to her place 3 and half miles with the bloody thing and all the way back. Not even offered a cup of tea. Least the lass had a laugh at the shop and gave me my money back.

Told her to order a new one and I'll pay for it. Shes being a real pain. Didn't help when she had another go at me and I told her I only went out with her 'cos she's ginger and fiery Not the only reason though. I do love her, or should it be did.

[TPeers]

Oh come on! What does she want! Even I am not that unreasonable and I can sulk for weeks! If she has her own place then her post should have gone there, equally she should have told you that this particular parcel was important and meant as a gift at which point you wouldn't have opened it.

If she wants to sulk then let her - nothing will be served by more grovelling. Obviously she is dissapointed that the gift she ordered is now not available to give but she will have to come to terms with that before she can consider 'forgive and forget'. Just let it lie for a couple of days and see what happens.

[toastie]

Although I think you shouldn't have opened the parcel, think she's overdoing the sulking etc etc. In my opinion think she is covering something much bigger up and the breadmaker is just an excuse - if it hadn't have been that it would have been something else that she would find to complain about etc etc. Have to say this about my us girls, but we don't always say what is really getting us down. Think you should give her time to calm down but I certainly wouldn't grovel any more. I'd be happy for someone to make bread for me as my partner works in Holland during the week so only have weekends together. I open his post but nothing very exciting - the parcels he receives are usually crates of red wine which I don't drink. Hope you sort it out.

[zazen999]

MY OH has done worse and to be honest, after a bit of thinking, I get over it, make a cuppa and we make up.

Talk about stringing it out a bit.

[babyjohnny]

erm... so your on the dole struggling to get by.... and she spends £100 on someone else's wedding.... i wouldn't bother apologizing to her i would be shouting AT her!!!!
i think she has go to wake up and see how many families are loosing their homes, a bread maker pfffttt....

[kirsty b]

Hi,went and grovelled, didn't get me anywhere. So went all over Leeds to buy a new machine, I can only find the next model down so as I'd just got my dole money on Monday (yes sad to say on the dole now ) I went and spent most of it on a new machine.

More grovelling and then told it's not the right one and to take it back and find the proper one. Think she is being bloody minded, spent most of my money on this and at £93.50 it's one hell of a whack of my dole. So as I was saving money after I bought this I had walked all the awy to her place 3 and half miles with the bloody thing and all the way back. Not even offered a cup of tea. Least the lass had a laugh at the shop and gave me my money back.

Told her to order a new one and I'll pay for it. Shes being a real pain. Didn't help when she had another go at me and I told her I only went out with her 'cos she's ginger and fiery Not the only reason though. I do love her, or should it be did.

Sorry mate - I can flounce like a good'un, but she sounds completely unreasonable. If that was my OH I'd tell him to sod off (this is NOT my advice to you BTW, your relationship is your own )
You have apologised, tried to replace it and its still not good enough?

[SarzWix]

Hmmmm... More to this than opening the parcel I reckon. I think I might have gone bananas at my OH in the same situation, but an apology and offer of replacement would calm things down I'm sure, and I would acknowledge that I should have mentioned it to him beforehand.