What Would You do?

[Hilary B]

f you look for a different job,
a) there is no guarantee you will like it any better
b) there is no guarantee you will get on better with the people around you
c) there is no certainty you will find one at all

I would LOOK for alternative jobs, but not consider leaving a secure job, with tasks you like, until a better option is 'on the cards'.
The only time I really couldn't get on with those I was supposed to work with was when I was a newcomer and they all had interests I didn't share (mainly playing squash). I also suffered even more in those days from FIM.

[dexterdoglancashire]

Heart says goes for the 35 year mortgage. Head goes for the shorter one. In reality Im a head person, leaving the heart to yearn for the other..............
PS Having suffered from depression a few years ago, I do tend to make the most of the "small things" in life.
I have to say Im very lucky in that I have a job which I love, its hard work, but I actually enjoy going into work each day.
If you are finding things that stressful, then I would certainly give it up and do something else. Above all, your health and happiness comes first - mortgage or not.

[parsnips13]

jack it in find yourself

[Hilary B]

Unless you've won the lottery, or are so miserable you don't need anyone else's opinion about it, get the new job lined up before quitting the old one.

[TPeers]

Just read all this. What would I do?

Well.... 12 years ago when the family was on its way our decision was that I wasn't makin' 'em to hand 'em to someone else to raise and I was a stay at home Mum.

Given that my youngest has development disorders that has been relevent to us and it helps that TOH earns enough to keep us comfortable.

However, call it going stir crazy, or the need for change or what you like - a year ago we made the decision that I would start looking for a job. Money was ok, still is - but I feel better for getting out of the house and speaking to adults! I chose the MLM route - it's not for everyone - but what we needed wasn't the money per se, and MLM are not get rich quick schemes, but the change of scene for me has made all the difference.

A ramble with a purpose - the aims of our family have changed over time - yours will/have too. You need to think about the big picture.

What will staying put give you - mortgage free in about 8 years, good payoff should the worse happen, trade off - currently very stressful, not much time with the kids.

If you jack it in? Maybe a better situation in a better team, probably less money, less job security, longer term on the mortgage thus having to work for money rather that pleasure for longer - for? more time with the kids.


Which is better for the kids? You, now and less treats, trips etc or in 8 years, to be in the position that you can put them through what ever extra education they want/need without having to get student loans? Giving them the best start for their future any child could wish for.

Isn't it worth a little stress?