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  • #31
    FG, for what it's worth, this isn't about your physical health anymore. In my opinion, you are depressed. The reason I think this is because I've been there and still flirt with it, sometimes. There are days when there is absolutely no reason why I should NOT go out into the garden and water, harvest, sow and other such wholesome activities, but what do I do? I lie on the sofa, watch sh*t on TV, or go and bug my OH and just WATCH him work, or ask if I can help sort through his tractor parts with him. Now, being a girl who likes horses, I have no bloody interest WHATsoever in tractors (although the Fordson Major Winch is a pretty colour), but I do know what you mean. I also know that on days like this, if I actually get out there and DO something in the garden, I'll feel great and positive and probably spend far longer than I planned out there. Bear in mind I'm talking about the garden, outside my back door and not even a plot which is off site. Believe me, if I didn't have horses, I'd be popping the happy pills willy-nilly by now.

    My own advice is to either see someone about the way you feel, hand the plot over to someone who wants to 'have a go' with the intention of sharing it with them next year, or advertise for a sharer now. Short term, I do find that making a list helps. Not necessarily everything that needs doing, as then it looks like an insurmountable task, but just 4/5 jobs. I reward myself after each one. Rewards include a cup of tea, a choccie bar, a TV programme that ISN'T carp!

    Longer term, I use produce from my 'plot' as gifts. Housewarming, birthdays, or even 'I haven't called round for a while' gifts. That's the BIGGEST motivator for me. There's nothing like the joy on someone's face that you've brought them something that doesn't have the 'this came from a cloned high st shop' factor. When you sow things, think of who you know that would like them, or someone you'd think would enjoy growing their own. Give excess plants away. I plan to give loads away next year. My neighbour told me last night that her tomato plant grew and she was really pleased. Her excitement means I'm motivated to do it again, next year.

    I do sympathise with letting things rot. Earlier this year I struggled to keep on top of things and lost a few onions this way. Last year I went to the trouble of collecting a HUMUNGOUS amount of sweet chestnuts, which eventually rotted as winter depression set in. This year I've tried to learn from that and have lots of home brews on the go (yay!), plus I just drank some home-made rosehip syrup/hot water.

    Whatever you decide to do, remember that no-one can do it for you. You have to motivate yourself, no matter how bizarre a method you use. Beer is a very good reward, I'm told...

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    • #32
      Physical health, home troubles etc aside, your plot is somewhere you want to go, not measured on the amount of times you go each week, but your willingness and your plans for the future, however small. One bit at a time, if this becomes too much then give it it up. Even if you don't go for 2/3 weeks etc but are busy making plans or gathering info, seeds, equipment, sowing seeds for the next trip down to plant them, so be it. You know in your heart if you want to call it a day. Each to their own, but in your heart you know really.

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      • #33
        Sorry, mean't to add, there is only one person who can make it happen.

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        • #34
          After the year you have had FG- it'd be a wonder if you're not somewhat depressed.
          Outdoor working on the land is a definite crutch in the relief of depression. Some peeps need to do it alone- others need someone to bounce off.
          All the time you've been on here- it's clear you're a wonderful father and have helped at cubs/scouts(?) and ran a home etc very successfully- much better than many peeps could have done.

          Now is the time to help yourself...is there someone / a couple of peeps who you can take to the lottie for their therapy..after all you have done, you are clearly a superb team leader- you need to get lost back in that role until you feel ready to step back- and give yourself a well earned smile!
          "Nicos, Queen of Gooooogle" and... GYO's own Miss Marple

          Location....Normandy France

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          • #35
            motivation FG (for me) is:

            cooking home-made lasagne for supper tonight, using my own onions and garlic, the passata was made using my own tomatoes, onions, garlic and herbs - the side salad, which consists of baby lettuce, white icicle radish, tomatoes, beetroot leaves, pea shoots and herbs was picked within 15 mintues of serving.

            That is what it is all about

            Do small bits, tiny bits and allow yourself to feel happy with each tiny bit you do
            aka
            Suzie

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            • #36
              I use a timer and set it for 15 or 20 minutes, depending on the job, and tell myself that when the beeper goes it is fine for me to leave that job and go on to next task or maybe to do nothing at all.
              Last edited by Littlemouse; 14-10-2009, 08:59 AM.

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              • #37
                Originally posted by Littlemouse View Post
                I use a timer and set it for 15 or 20 minutes, depending on the job, and tell myself that when the beeper goes it is fine for me to leave that job and go on to next task or maybe to do nothing at all.
                That's a great idea! I get completely absorbed in the garden when I'm doing the nice jobs but when it's the jobs I'm not looking forward to setting a time limit and giving myself permission to stop would be very handy!

                FG - maybe it would be worth having a look and/or posting on the Landshare website for someone who could help you out on the plot. There are loads of people looking for somewhere to grow so maybe you could let them use part of your plot to grow whatever they want in return for them giving you a hand on the rest of the plot?

                Landshare
                http://vegblogs.co.uk/overthyme/

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                • #38
                  I've been struggling with lack of motivation for a while, but I go down each day to see to my chooks at least If it wasn't for them, I would have given up long ago.
                  I am waiting to find out if the land my allotment is on is going to be developed or not (a part of the problem), a member of my family is terminally ill (and I would rather be spending time with them) and my plot is too big and I definitely bit off more than I could chew there,
                  I will be visiting the company that owns the land soon, to find out what is happening re: development proposals, and also to ask if I can downgrade to a half sized plot if nothing is going to happen. Also making plans to do more in pots and trained up the fences in my tiny garden.
                  My family will always come first though.

                  Hang in there FG
                  Last edited by kirsty b; 14-10-2009, 09:44 AM.
                  Kirsty b xx

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                  • #39
                    Vikkib - I permanently struggle with motivation even with getting started on things that I love doing because I have ADHD of the inattentive kind with a huge dose of impulsiveness (all formally and properly diagnosed!) and getting started on tasks and procrastination are killers for me. That's why I use the timer and if 15 mins is enough I don't beat myself up about it.

                    I've been diagnosed for only a couple of yrs so up until then had plenty of time to adopt a whole range of strategies for managing and also for dealing with those people who cannot possibly see or understand how difficult getting motivated can be.

                    I imagine that if you are new to the experience of lacking motivation or finding it hard to get going, it must be exceptionally difficult and frustrating if you still care, and if you are too depressed to care then that is another matter altogether. And believe me, 'snap out of it', or 'just get on with it' or the 'poo or get off the pot' style responses are rarely helpful / sid all help!

                    I also write and speak too much and too fast but then I have ADHD and I am lovely and I am vague and my mind wanders and am generally just one muddly person - so what I meant to say was do what you feel happiest doing FG and if that means doing barely anything mixed with intervals of getting things done, then so be it. I wish you all the best.

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                    • #40
                      Originally posted by kirsty b View Post
                      I've been struggling with lack of motivation for a while, but I go down each day to see to my chooks at least If it wasn't for them, I would have given up long ago.
                      .....................

                      Hang in there FG
                      How very true!................ I sometimes have a miserble day at work but as soon as I get to the allotment after work and the chooks come running to see what I've got for them a weight is lifted off my shoulders and life is great!
                      Chooks deffo have a theraputic effect and although they are classed as dumb animals I'm sure they've all got a degree in psychiatry and know what to do to lift your spirits!
                      My Majesty made for him a garden anew in order
                      to present to him vegetables and all beautiful flowers.- Offerings of Thutmose III to Amon-Ra (1500 BCE)

                      Diversify & prosper


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                      • #41
                        FG,

                        The chooks will do a lot of weeding and shallow digging and reward you with antics and cuddles and manure and eggs. All for a lil ol wooden shack, some water and some pellets and a handful of corn.

                        Take a flask of summat warm (or warming) with you 'cos you'll want to watch them a while and there's no point getting cold.

                        Hope you feel better and more up soon
                        If a thing's worth doing, it's worth doing to excess

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