Keep on hoping

[BarleySugar]

My mother has been declining in health since Easter, having several strokes and other episodes of ill health that have progressivley weakened her. Several months ago it was apparent she would be unable to cope without residential care, and after a period of adjustment it looked as if thingsp were settling down. Her latest bout of pneumonia has now left her even more debilitated than before, and wewere told she would not be able to walk again, and possibly not manage to feed herself as the instinct to preform these basic functions had been lost. However, she would be unaware she wasn't doing these things and therefore it wouldn'd worry her.
Tonight she was eating beef casserole, not pureed food, and was chatting away like a good un to my sister, who asked if she was in pain. SHe replied no, but when they came to get her on her feet she thought she'd better of been prepearing herself, so she was runiing under the covers. I now wonder what the assessment team will make of her. Is it a flash in the pan, or a sign of things to come? One day we know the news will be bad, but she's amazed us all so much so far, we can't help but hope.

[bluemoon]

Oh, Barley Sugar, I really hope she continues and in a few weeks is happily walking to the table and sitting down to Christmas Dinner with you all.

[Florence Fennel]

Oh, Barley Sugar, I really hope she continues and in a few weeks is happily walking to the table and sitting down to Christmas Dinner with you all.

I echo that sentiment Barley Sugar, stay positive.

[FROSTYFRECKLE]

I can only reiterate, stay positive.

[FionaH]

What fabulous news, the resilience of folk never ceases to amaze

[Seahorse]

Thats lovely news BarleySugar. Long may your mum's progress continue

[ginger ninger]

What wonderful news BarleySugar, she sounds a very determined lady, when things seem to be stacked against use the human spirit has a way of putting two fingers up at he world, long may she continue to have some form of independence.

[OllieMartin]

What wonderful news BarleySugar, she sounds a very determined lady, when things seem to be stacked against use the human spirit has a way of putting two fingers up at he world, long may she continue to have some form of independence.

To quote Jeff Goldblum, "Nature finds a way".

[Pumpkin Becki]

Sending you and your mother lots of positive thoughts and very best wishes. (((((((((((((BIG HUG))))))))))))
Lots of love
PB xx

[Polly Fouracre]

A lot depends on a person's will and determination. It sounds as though your Ma has tons of both! I hope all goes well.

[bramble]

Barley Sugar, I am sending positive thoughts to you. My mother will be 92 in April. She has great health and always has throughout her life. I never remember my mother being sick, but about 10 years ago she started acting strangely and doing things that were totally out of character for her. She was diagnosed with dementia. We looked after her for the next 8 years my sister and myself. Two years ago she had a little stroke and it became clear we would have to put her into a nursing home. She will be there 2 years in Feb. Her health is as good as ever and she still has great mobility but she doesnt know me or my sisters any more. She remembers nothing about her only asks for her mother and father.
Treasure the time you have with your mother. My sister and myself visit her all the time but my mother is gone and there is just this person left who looks like her.
Its a horrible disease that robs the family of everything.

[binley100]

A good chunk of self-determination goes a long way and it sounds like she has plenty.
Give a big hug from me and tell her to keep on running. XXXX

[jackie j]

My mum had a stroke when aged 87 yrs which left her paralised on the right side, unable to do anything for herself we found her a lovely nursing home where she spent the last five years of her life. Its very hard watching someone you love be like this, thankfully she still had her mind.
Hope she makes a good recovery and is able to do some things for herself.

[BarleySugar]

Thank you for all the good wishes, and for all those of you who also have parents or other family members suffering in any way, please accept mine and I hope that both you and they get the support needed to get through.

I think one of the worst things for us as children must be to 'be forgotten' by our parents. Although Mum has had major periods of confusion; convinced at one stage that she was in a concentration camp 'holding' area, and that my eldest brother had already been killed, worried sick that us visiting her would put us at risk too; she has always remembered who we were. We are fortunate in that respect, and are grateful that she is not suffering any pain as such either.

[Headfry]

I was 'forgotten' by my father, the worst was one day when I went to kiss him goodbye, he looked terrified of me and back away from me....still hurts me
BarleySugar, I do hope all turns out ok for you all.
Hugs and the very kindest of wishes
HF
xx