xmas pressie rant - and advice please!

[janeyo]

Sorry to burden you all but can't do it on FB as s-in-law is on there.

I bought my nephew a drumkit for xmas, ages ago in the summer sale, and it's all wrapped up.
S-in-law asks me what I have got him for xmas. I told her and she says that her sister has just bought him a drum kit and what am I going to do about it?

I honestly don't think I can take it back - I can't afford to buy him another pressie, and obviously he doesn't want 2 drum kits!

OH says I shouldn't DO anything about it, but bro and sis-in-law are all in a flapetty flap flap.

Help!

[zazen999]

Did your SIL know that you were getting it for him?

[Pumpkin Becki]

To my mind, if you bought yours first, then your S-I-L's sister should exchange hers for something else.

It'll be receipts at dawn!!

[janeyo]

No she always says she likes it to be as much a surprise for her as for the children.

[Incy]

So don't worry about it.
I wonder why she asked, if she likes the surprise.
If the other one was bought more recently then when he finds he has 2 he can have fun going with his other auntie (her sister) to exchange it. If she's really fussed about it then she should talk to her sister quickly.

[zazen999]

Oh, well it's her fault then!

I'd definitely be asking the other person to return it as your receipt will be out of date now....if it was the other way round then I'm sure you would do so.

[Nicos]

Well- first I'd phone the shop to see if they would reimburse you.
If not- then the decision is made- your SIL will need to take hers back.
If they will however,then you both need to chat about it ASAP..is one a better quality??/..cos maybe that's the one to keep if there is a choice if it's for an older child s the quality of the 'music' produced will be much better for your nephew...if he's only young then I don't think it'd matter too much to him????

[Brengirl]

Oh dear why do christmas presents always end up a disaster. Obviously you do not want to have bad feelings at this time of year. Is it possible that you could contact your sil's sister and explain that you no longer the receipt or something. I am sure she would understand, this sort of mix up happens all the time.

[janeyo]

He is only 3 - I also bought his mum and dad some earplugs and a box of ibuprofen

[zazen999]

Still.....you can't say that having 2 drumkits won't be a surprise for him.

[janeyo]

This is true, I was thinking he could take one to nannies and have one at home - share the pleasure...

[zazen999]

Oh yes that sounds like a plan

[Brengirl]

Perhaps 'nanny' would prefer not and buy it off of you to donate to a charity shop

[Incy]

This is true, I was thinking he could take one to nannies and have one at home - share the pleasure...

There you go. Perfect solution. In any case a 3 year old is unlikely to be upset at getting 2 fab drumkits

[Hazel at the Hill]

A drum kit for a three year old!!!!!!! Don't you like your SIL very much??

I'd never speak to you ever again if did that to me!

Seriously, surely this is easy - you can't take yours back as it was bought so long ago (and anyway, why should you, you bought it first!) so your SIL's sister will have to do the swap.

The idea of two drumkits it worse than the idea of one - but perhaps you're not keen on nephew's nanny, either!

(And I think I'm being dense as I don't understand what you say about her saying she wants the surprise and then asks what you're getting, so you'll have to excuse me if I have the wrong end of the stick somewhere along the line)