family loss

[tracy]

sorry about this but i need to vent ....got a phone call at 5 this morning and my husbands dad has passed away in his sleep ,we knew it was coming as he has cancer for 18 months but even though we knew it was coming why do i feel so absoultly poo,ive gone around today like a mindless idiot ,burnt myself at work and i generally feel like SH**..(sorry for swearing)
the funeral isnt for another 2 weeks so we will fly back to the uk on the 13th for a week and then what happens ......are we just meant to get on with life when someone who was dearly loved is not here ,well i suppose yes we do get on with it as we are still here and life does go on so as a friend said to me today SH** HAPPENS

[Bigmallly]

My thoughts are with you & your family at this sad time, yes s*** happens & yes life goes on..........eventually.

[FionaH]

Sorry to hear of your loss, all the best

[Jeanied]

Tracy I am so sorry - my OH died of cancer too - you need to remember that he is out of all the pain and awful treatments. And as for you and your husband, do what his dad would have wanted you to do, hang on in there and treasure the good memories. Take one day, one step at a time and above all, take it easy on yourself. A good friend warned me to watch out for accidents too - shock does that to you. So take extra care of yourselves as well. And one last thought I have written before - watch out for the small signs that he is with you still - they can be a comfort.

[broadway]

Hello Tracy,

My thoughts are with you and your husband at this sad time, I hope you band together and help one another.

I will be going to the cemetery tomorrow to say hello to my Gramps, I will never forget him and remember the good times, I will also cry my eyes out once I've ushered the kids away.

Sh** does happen but it always will, remember the good times, that's all I do.

Take Care

Danny

[weekendwellies]

My deepest sympathies. I lost 2 family members last year and I know exactly what you mean. You do feel as though the rest of the world is spinning and you are not a part of it, watching from a distance. After the funeral is a good opportunity to speak to others about your father in law, remembering old times. You end up having a laugh about the things that have gone on in the past. It is a very painful time, but you do eventually rejoin the world again. Your loved one will always be missed and remembered but the pain diminishes.

[zazen999]

Hi Tracy.

That's rotten at any time of year.

My thoughts to your family and all his friends. xxx

[Bren In Pots]

Sorry to hear your sad news

[jacob marley]

So sorry to hear your news very sad but remember the good times it do's get better....jacob

[vicky]

So sorry to hear your news. I went to my father in laws funeral yesterday - he passed from cancer too just before christmas - a very sad affair, never seen so many people at a funeral - we blocked the road!
He wasn't religious and nor am I but I got a distinct impression that he was present...and enjoying and laughing at every moment and old story.
He was very much into nature and wildlife (he was a wildlife artist) and his passing has made me more determined to enjoy what I see around me. It is very hard at first but I found it helped to take something that my FIL loved and concentrate on making the most of it helped with the sorrow.
xxx

[Florence Fennel]

My deepest sympathy to both you and Vicky.
Flo x

[dogsbody]

Tracy, sorry to hear about this. As everyone says concentrate on the positive. Remember the good times and please don't let the funeral become too sad. My father left us in Feb last year, he was a Yorkshireman who lived in Lancashire so at the funeral I had a button hole of 1 red and 1 white rose. Those who knew him noticed and made comment.

All the best.

[Ian White]

Sorry to hear your sad news,My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Ian

[Eco-Chic]

You sound very angry Tracy. Get outside and break some terracotta pots and kick some things but don't break your toes.

I'm sorry for your loss and for your husband's loss. Even though your FIL was so ill it still comes as a complete shock when a person dies. I think we all expect and hope for a last minute miracle.

A big virtual hug from me to you♥

[kirsty b]

Thoughts are with you and yours xx Its hard to lose somebody you love, and I remember being very accident prone when my OH had to go to Spain to be with his mum after the death of my FIL, and recently when my nephew passed.

Take comfort from the good memories, and be good to yourselves xx