new year blues

[miffy]

Feeling really low, combination of a whole host of stuff.
Have so much to be grateful for i know that but just keep bursting into tears.
I hate this am usually such a positive person, feel such a miserable bint!
Sorry to be a misery.

[zazen999]

January is always the worst month anyway, after all the 'Christmas joy'.

Have you got any chums you can chat to - no holds barred?

[miffy]

I have spoken to a friend from school and that did help abit but situation at school is one out of my control and i know it will be resolved long term but that is months away and i have so much to do in the interim.
Have also spoken to mum abit but do not like to burden her as she is not well, part of my worry to be honest.

[Glutton4...]

I'm a firm believer that we have tear reservoir, every now and then it fills up and if we've nothing sad in our lives to make us cry, then we just blub for no reason!

Now I know I sound like a nutter LOL!

Many people suffer from SAD, and there have been threads about it on here before. I'm not sure it's that, but I always find this is a low patch of the year, after all the hype and build-up to Christmas, which as far as I'm concerned is always an anti-climax, then there's a little bit of looking forward to a new year and all the false (possibly) positivity and hope it brings. After that, there's a bit of a gap until spring.

Sometimes, I find it beneficial to write down how I feel (or rather type, because I'm lazy), then read it back some time later, and see how my feelings have changed. It could be hormonal, or anything really, but I usually find a week or so later, when I re-read it, that none of it seems either relevant or important any more.

Maybe I'm just weird. No comments required there LOL!

Hope you cheer up soon Hun

[its hilly]

Just because we have things to be thankful for and can admit it to ourselves does not mean that we are not allowed to feel miserable sometimes!!

Sometimes its harder to deal with lots of small things than one or two really serious ones as if you put one on one side theres always another to worry about instead. Knowing things (like school) are being worked on and will be sorted eventually does not help in the here and now.

And worrying over your mum is always hard. But remember that she will be more upset that you feel you cant share worries with her, than she will be by not being able to help..if you follow that.

Allow yourself some time each day to sit and worry, and work things through in your own head. But the rest of the day try to put worries 'on hold' till then. Knowing you've got a time and given yourself permission to worry helps a little bit once you're used to it.

And just yell and moan at us on the vine..we'll understand honest x

[Jeanied]

If it makes you feel any better, Miffy - I'm feeling almost exactly the same as you and it is good to know I'm not alone. I am usually very positive and know what to do next both personally and professionally but at the moment I'm all at sea. I'm trying to do a small task each day to keep myself ticking over - sorting out something or setting myself a little challenge. It used to help and may do again. In the meantime I'm on the vine a lot!

[piskieinboots]

If it helps, Mercury is in retrograde - all will level out around Feb 4
((hugs))

[Two_Sheds]

^ they're all right of course.

I would just add:
- get out in the fresh air, fill your lungs
- exercise every day, pref out in the light/fresh air

[miffy]

Thank you lovely people, i do think one of the problems is being chained to a computer munching data for target setting and having to show point progress etc, blah, blah.
I did make sure i took the children out in the snow on the playground last week, we built snow men, they used me as a snowball target it was a blast. The other teachers said they didn't know how i dare with health and safety and all!!
These 4 year olds had never seen snow like that before, never made a snow ball, never made a snow angel.
I have been taking pooch out even more than normal and plan to do that again later, at moment am trying to finish off records and planning. Already broken my new years resolution of having weekends work free!! Love my school, love being a teacher but hate it in equal measures at the moment as there is soooo much paper and data to handle and it all seems to be that and not about the children!
Have had a good old blart last night and did feel abit better so perhaps i need to let myself do that but not infront of the Head teacher!!

[Flummery]

Writing stuff down might help Miffy.
Writie down the problems. Then write down possible solutions - sometimes there won't be one, you need to accept that.
Then write down the good stuff. It ALWAYS outweighs the bad. Once you analyse it you might find that some of the good things are antidotes to the bad. I hope I'm not generalising too much but I find once a thing's articulated rather than generally dreaded, I feel more as if I can tackle it.
Hope it passes over soon, anyway. Jan and Feb are the worst months.

[snuffer]

Unfortunately many people still think teaching is a 9.00 til 3.30 job. They don't realise that many dedicated teachers get into school well before 8.00 and often don't leave until after 5.30. All for not a penny extra. Then there is the hours spent at home planning and catching up on the never ending paper work and target setting.

Mrs snuffer is a deputy head at a local school. If she were paid for all of the hours she works she'd be able to retire within the next few years.

I know work won't be the only problem making you feel how you do but be assured, that those in the know, appreciate the work you do and thank you for it. Our teachers do a fantastic job.

[selfraising]

Thank you lovely people, i do think one of the problems is being chained to a computer munching data for target setting and having to show point progress etc, blah, blah.
I did make sure i took the children out in the snow on the playground last week, we built snow men, they used me as a snowball target it was a blast. The other teachers said they didn't know how i dare with health and safety and all!!
These 4 year olds had never seen snow like that before, never made a snow ball, never made a snow angel.
I have been taking pooch out even more than normal and plan to do that again later, at moment am trying to finish off records and planning. Already broken my new years resolution of having weekends work free!! Love my school, love being a teacher but hate it in equal measures at the moment as there is soooo much paper and data to handle and it all seems to be that and not about the children!
Have had a good old blart last night and did feel abit better so perhaps i need to let myself do that but not infront of the Head teacher!!

Do sympathise with you Miffy, we have the same at our school data, data and more data!! As others have said try writing your feelings down. At my lowest point I write a sort of diary, I can then see that I do get through the bad patches and that actually I do have some good days although it doesn't seem like it at the time. These months are depressing in themselves but Spring is just round the corner

[Rhona]

I'm a firm believer that we have tear reservoir, every now and then it fills up and if we've nothing sad in our lives to make us cry, then we just blub for no reason!

That's a strangely comforting theory - I like it! That explains why I cried happily yesterday at the end of The NeverEnding Story.

I can't really add much to the good advice here, but hope you're feeling better soon.

[Brengirl]

Oh dear Miffy. Like the others have said nobody should feel guilty about weeping. Your body is trying hard to cope with all the poo that the world is throwing at you. The stress that your body is feeling is just spilling out as tears. Recognise this and try, somehow, to give yourself a huge pat on the back for all the stuff you have achieved. Nobody can ever tick all the right boxes all of the time.

[annacruachan]

If it helps, Mercury is in retrograde - all will level out around Feb 4
((hugs))

I might have guessed bl*&%|@*y Mercury had something to do with it! I too am feeling really low, hence multiple postings on the vine! Limited by ME and arthritis, both made worse by the cold. Perhaps having a rant would help.
4 Feb eh,piskie? That's a hell of a long way off. One thing that cheers is that my chillies are germinating on the windowsill - I hope! Roll on the warmer weather and the chance to get out in the garden and get my hands in the soil. That seems to cure all ills. Though I wouldn't wish depression on anyone, it's good to know that other people have experienced and understand what it's like to be so thoroughly fed up with yourself, and sad and angry at the same time. My poor OH can't do anything right at the moment - I HATE being like this!
Sorry, I'm going on. Will shut up now apart from sending big hugs to everyone else in the same situation.