I'm single again...

[Alison]

Always sorry to hear about any break ups but if it's the right thing for you, him and your kids then you're better off splitting up now before you got married.

[Rhona]

Well done for making a positive decision, and doing what you feel is right for you.

Takes courage so good on you. x

[jackie j]

Tough but for the best by the sound of it. I did this after 18 years of marriage and four sons. Took me months after going to solicitors to end the marriage, now I think why on earth didnt I do it before.
Best of wishes to you.

[Florence Fennel]

Well done brave Bex. Be Lucky.
Flo x

[Burnzie]

Hi Bex, its for the best.

We separated last year after 20 years of marriage. We waited until son had gone off to university.

Its been best decision we've made for years and now get on as well as we did before getting married.

Its the peace and quiet I'm struggling to get used to !!

good luck

Burnzie

[ladylottie]

Hi Bex - very sorry to hear you've split up with OH. I too have been there and I know that it's difficult to start with but really you've made the hardest decision already. Now you can start on that new adventure What's that old saying? - when one door shuts another one opens, so walk through it Bex with your chin up

Ollie - what a little charmer you are Always have the right thing to say to us ladies don't you.

[bobleponge]

Boooo @ split
Hooorrayyyyy @ new adventures.

Enjoy yourself Bex, and good luck for whatever the future holds. Often the hardest thing to do is make the decision.

[lizzylemon]

Im not sure congratulations are the right thing to offer but I will anyway! Congratulations on making a difficult decision. I am sure it will work out well for you where ever your next adventure takes you

Just don't be surprised though, once the relief and euphoria have subsided a little that you find your self crying and evening missing him a little. Every relationship that dies needs a bit of grieving, even it it's just one night with a bottle of wine, box of choccies or a blab to us to help you through it

I did it back in my mid twenties and never looked back. XXXX

[Bex]

You are all so wonderful and supportive.

I am a little sad but I've been through far worse and survived. I've got the kids to keep me busy and two half plots to plan.

I can now grow other cabbages apart from Savoy as the OH only ever liked savoy. I feel another seed order coming on.

[OllieMartin]

I feel another seed order coming on.

Just like the Chancellor; I find it always helps to spend your way through a depression!

[Glutton4...]

...I can now grow other cabbages apart from Savoy as the OH only ever liked savoy. I feel another seed order coming on.

See! You're over it already LOL

18 months is long enough to know if it isn't right. Congratulations on making the split, and best wishes for your forthcoming adventures

[ginger ninger]

Wow, brave you, there's a big wide world out there Bex just waiting for you to dive in and enjoy, it can be daunting at first but take it slow, don't do anything you don't want to do and have FUN.
I did this in my early twenties, it was the best thing for me to do at the time (very violent relationship), I was petrified and not just of being on my own, I'd no self confidence, no self worth, I do believe if I'd have stayed with him I wouldn't have been here now.
Three years later and 2 fantastic holidays with good friends, I meet my OH, happiness was mine for the taking, so I grabbed it with both hands, 23 years later we're still very much in love.

The moral to this is, don't put up with crap or crap is all you'll ever get.

Good luck Bex.

[Bex]

Wow, brave you, there's a big wide world out there Bex just waiting for you to dive in and enjoy, it can be daunting at first but take it slow, don't do anything you don't want to do and have FUN.
I did this in my early twenties, it was the best thing for me to do at the time (very violent relationship), I was petrified and not just of being on my own, I'd no self confidence, no self worth, I do believe if I'd have stayed with him I wouldn't have been here now.
Three years later and 2 fantastic holidays with good friends, I meet my OH, happiness was mine for the taking, so I grabbed it with both hands, 23 years later we're still very much in love.

The moral to this is, don't put up with crap or crap is all you'll ever get.

Good luck Bex.

Thanks Ginger, How very brave of you too. I lost the love of my life to cancer 6 years ago so I know that life is far to short to tolerate unhappiness. You do indeed have to grab oppotunities with both hands and hold on tight.

[Irie Jan]

Good luck for your future Bex! If you feel in your heart it was the right thing, then it must be so! Take a deep breath count to 10 and tell your family! I'm sure they will understand and be with you if they truly love you, which I'm sure they do!
All the best ! HUGS

[Irie Jan]

Just like the Chancellor; I find it always helps to spend your way through a depression!

Nice one Ollie! Yeah that sounds about right!