I'm single again...

[SueA]

You are all so wonderful and supportive.

I am a little sad but I've been through far worse and survived. I've got the kids to keep me busy and two half plots to plan.

I can now grow other cabbages apart from Savoy as the OH only ever liked savoy. I feel another seed order coming on.

Good luck Bex, see you're being positive already & thinking of it as a new beginning!

[selfraising]

Good luck Bex and well done for making such a tough decision.

[Seahorse]

Very best of luck to you Bex, today cabbage varieties, tomorrow, the woooorrrrlllddd!

[lettucegrow!]

Good luck with everything you do.It's never easy even if it's what you want deep down.Take your time readjusting and having some you time. Been there myself some years back, also with two young ones and I remember just enjoying time with the children and doing what I wanted.
And like it's already been said this is a great place to laugh/cry/scream!!!

[binley100]

Tough decision but sounds like you've made the right one. Now get out there and live girl. Big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxx

[glasgowdan]

Been comforting and helping a friend who has just split with her boyfriend of eleven years. He was unwilling to commit in the way she wanted, I had seen this for years but couldn't say. Thing is, they are both friends and share many of their social activities with us all so it's hard.

She feels she's wasted a lot of time with it all, but she's still young (29) and has plenty to look forward to.

Hope you feel ok anyway.

PS Has anyone ever heard of a man splitting with the woman? Why is it always the other way around?

[Jeanied]

Girl power, Bex - just remember you are mistress of your own fate. Don't let anyone get you down!

[miffy]

My first OH my son's dad and i split after 13 years this was ten years ago now, at the time i thought the world was crashing down around me, money worries, little lad to look after when i was less than together. OH had run up huge debts, spent all savings, played around etc, etc..
However like you i realised that life was too short to spend it being miserable and i grabbed life with both hands and found the old me that had been smothered by him. 18 months later i found Mr Miffy and he is definitely my knight in shining armour, literally!
You have definitely made the right decision sweetie, there is a big world out there ready for the living and taking. Go get it!! Oh and grow some cabbages too! lol.xxxx

[Mac]

All the power to your elbow Bex! Hope you enjoy being yourself for a while and then find someone who enjoys you too if that's what you're after! I did after a pretty turbulent previous relationship. 7 years on and we're both still enjoying being ourselves but with each other..

[its hilly]

Well done Bex. Its hard making the decision, then the low of 'have I really done the right thing, alone again etc' even when you know darned well that you have.
But theres always sunshine hiding behind the clouds, just enjoy your kids and life..and new cabbages
And best of luck for your future

[weekendwellies]

It is a tough decision to make and not you have taken lightly I am sure. I have been where you are now and with a 3 and 1 year old to boot. Hard going in the beginning but no regrets at all. Feel free to have a rant and rave whenever you feel like. All the grapes are happy to lend a shoulder for crying on at any time.

[Hilary B]

If splitting up is the right thing to do, then do it, and don't look back (except to enjoy remembering that there WERE a few good times, and to recall the lessons taught by the bad times).
A relationship is about give and take. If you come to see that you are doing all the giving, it's time to get out of there!

[JanieB]

PS Has anyone ever heard of a man splitting with the woman? Why is it always the other way around?

Yes, my BF of 13 months just split with me and I'm still in love with him. He's now going out with one of my friends.

I left my 1st husband of 25 years because of his violence. It was very traumatic and I took a long time to get over it.

My next OH dumped me 'cos of personal issues and the love of my life died of leukemia 4 years ago. I'm now back in the dating game as this last experience has taught me that I actually need someone in my life to love and be loved by. I know I will kiss some frogs and get hurt again but there is probably someone else out there for me.

[Nicos]

From every relationship we all have something to learn.
..here's to the next lesson ... xx

[binley100]

Someone once said to me when I was ...well a few years ago..that men are like buses there's always another one on the way .