O Kirsty he's of the scale when it comes to charming, He's a right ladies man, he loves nothing more than making people laugh he's been like it all his life, all my friends adore him, some have even been to see him in hospital, one of my oldest friends is a nurse on the next ward to his and pops in to see him when she's working, he thinks its great.
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GN, Im so pleased you've got the answers that you needed at last. The consultant sounds like a human being! And like he'll keep you all informed of the exact position.
And your dad sounds like a right one At least he's happy and obviously improving, that must help you feel better.
Keep your chin upAnyone who says nothing is impossible has never tried slamming a revolving door
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Sounds like a good outcome from your chat with the consultant. I hope you're much happier now. Sounds as though he is!Whoever plants a garden believes in the future.
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Great news! Isn't it strange how things can turn around in a matter of days.
Your dad sounds smashing and obviously did a great job in nurturing a wonderful caring family.
Take care of yourself - and thank you for sharing all this with us.Wars against nations are fought to change maps; wars against poverty are fought to map change – Muhammad Ali
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Hi Ginger Ninger, I have been following this thread with interest. For a start, nobody should be put in the position of having to make such a huge decision on someone else's life, but we don't get to make the rules.
When I first read it my thoughts would have been not to prolong your dads life BUT that was only because of hind sight and what me and my two sisters have been going through. Our Mam has alzheimer's and as the disease has progressed we have had to put her into a nursing home. She will be two years there at the beginning of Feb. When she went in she still knew us, but two years on she doesn't recognise any of us. I do wish I didn't have to see my mother deteriorate so much that she has no recognition of us or any other part of her life but if she had died before reaching this stage I SUPPOSE i WOULD have been grieving for her and wishing she had lived a little longer.
As I said previously, nobody should have to make a decision like that.
My mother is going to be 92 in April. Your Dad sounds good and I hope he will live on and stay happy.
And when your back stops aching,
And your hands begin to harden.
You will find yourself a partner,
In the glory of the garden.
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Hey GN I'm so pleased that there's s spark of light in both you and your Dads life at the moment.
I've been reading since about half way through and have had you in my thoughts all the time - I've just kept quiet for a change as I've been feeling a bit negative recently and didn't want to taint a dreadfully difficult decision, which thankgoodness has passed.
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I've only just got to reading this thread. I've been where you are a couple of times in the last few years. You have to be kept informed by the whole hospital team. Noone can advise you except them and any decisions have to be yours and your sisters. {{{hugs}}}"I prefer rogues to imbeciles as they sometimes take a rest" (Alexander Dumas)
"It is neccessary to have wished for death in order to know how good it is to live" (also Alexandre Dumas)
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Hiya GN
Firstly let me express how sorry I am for the situation that you’re in, after losing my father after 3 weeks of ‘will he, won’t he’ from the doctors I understand both your frustration and stress of how you feel with the love towards your dad.
If I may make one or two suggestions?
Firstly the ward sisters are (from my experience) the best source of information if the situation changes overnight or while you’re away. If you haven’t already perhaps ask for a talk with the ward matron somewhere quiet and ask for THEM to call you if THEY see your father changing, that way as they are the ones who may be alerting the doctors you should be informed that little bit quicker of any changes and can arrive with the chance to talk to the treating consultant rather than the junior doctor.
Secondly try to sleep, I know it sounds stupid and obvious but being tired on top of everything else will make it harder for you to come with questions. Carry a pen / notepad with you so if you suddenly have any questions you can keep them together along with any notes you make when talking to the doctor.
Also keep a diary of events. It may sound horrid but this way you will have a place to go back to review anything you cannot remember and it will keep your thoughts organised should you again think of any questions or any issues or conflicts of information that may occur (mishearing etc).
As I said this is only stuff I’ve done personally (the matron and the diary) and perhaps may not be of use to you.
I hope everything works out well with your father.
Best wishes and hopeful prayers!
TMW xxxx
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Hey, that's great news GN - What a turn around!
Your Dad sounds like a fantastic character, and a real fighter. I'm really glad he's rallying, and that you're getting 'proper' information now. I haven't really been in your situation, so can't offer any advice, but the suggestions made by TMW in the post above sound like an excellent idea to me.
Fingers crossed for you and your Dad.All the best - Glutton 4 Punishment
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Hi Ginger - how about getting a memory music tape started for him? You may have done this already. Plenty of grapes would help, I reckon (tho it is a bit beyond my technological prowess, that!)Whooops - now what are the dogs getting up to?
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Hi Everyone, Thanks for caring about me and mine, sorry Bernie I've not been able to take lappy into hospital to show my Dad all the messages you lovely folk have left, but as soon as I can show him I WILL, T.M.W, thanks so much for the great advice about the matron and the diary, both my sister's and my phone numbers are at the nurses station, which is in the room at the side of Dad's bed, they are under instructions to ring us if Dad's condition changes for the worst any time of day or night, I have some cloths ready at the end if my bed just in case, and neighbours know not to block me in with there cars, but I'm hoping it won't come to that, Dad was laughing and joking with the nurse's on Sunday, He still has an appetite for all his food and is eating everything he can lay his hands on, so that's not a bad thing.
So a BIG Thanks from me....you lot are keeping me sane. xxxx
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