My step daughter has always been a bit different, love her to bits more like a blood daughter than a step daughter.
Some years ago, aged almost 30 she came out as gay - which we knew anyway - and finally met somebody who became her partner. It became clear quite soon that partner had a serious alcohol abuse problem, mainly caused by her background (comes from a seriously alcohol abusing family, her brother died from alcoholism as did her father) despite which daughter went through a civil ceremony which we all went to, partner was even drunk there.
About 18 months ago, after a series of health problems, partner was diagnosed with brain damage caused by alcoholism, lots of other internal problems and was told that if she gave up drinking, she could have 5 years.
Well, she didn't and is now in hospital, has perhaps a day or two, maybe hours left.
What's so sad is that she was married and has three children, all daughters, and she has been drinking to excess for all the life of her daughters, who are now about to loose their mother. She's been through rehab several times, part of which we've paid for, she's had counselling, just everything we could do to help.
I'm a recovering/recovered alcoholic so really know the problems that she has faced fighting the alcoholism and since I was last dried out in the early 1980s have drunk in moderation, until about a year ago, when I just lost the taste for it completely.
Folks, if you drink more than the recommended consumption levels in units per week, especially if you have a family, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE think of what you're doing. I've heard all the excuses of 'I can handle it', 'I don't have a problem' etc etc but if you exceed the weekly limit or feel as tho your 'need' or 'must have' a drink, please think of where you are and where this may lead.
You want a slow suicide, which my daughter in law has really done, that's your concern and choice but realise how much pain you're inflicting on those around you.
Some years ago, aged almost 30 she came out as gay - which we knew anyway - and finally met somebody who became her partner. It became clear quite soon that partner had a serious alcohol abuse problem, mainly caused by her background (comes from a seriously alcohol abusing family, her brother died from alcoholism as did her father) despite which daughter went through a civil ceremony which we all went to, partner was even drunk there.
About 18 months ago, after a series of health problems, partner was diagnosed with brain damage caused by alcoholism, lots of other internal problems and was told that if she gave up drinking, she could have 5 years.
Well, she didn't and is now in hospital, has perhaps a day or two, maybe hours left.
What's so sad is that she was married and has three children, all daughters, and she has been drinking to excess for all the life of her daughters, who are now about to loose their mother. She's been through rehab several times, part of which we've paid for, she's had counselling, just everything we could do to help.
I'm a recovering/recovered alcoholic so really know the problems that she has faced fighting the alcoholism and since I was last dried out in the early 1980s have drunk in moderation, until about a year ago, when I just lost the taste for it completely.
Folks, if you drink more than the recommended consumption levels in units per week, especially if you have a family, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE think of what you're doing. I've heard all the excuses of 'I can handle it', 'I don't have a problem' etc etc but if you exceed the weekly limit or feel as tho your 'need' or 'must have' a drink, please think of where you are and where this may lead.
You want a slow suicide, which my daughter in law has really done, that's your concern and choice but realise how much pain you're inflicting on those around you.
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