I feel so cross and upset. Last year some of you peeps may remember that my daughter, a student, was on her way back from uni when she was involved in a serious accident on the M25. A foreign lorry didn't see her, caught the back of the car whilst trying to pull into her lane, result she was spun and ended up being shunted along with the car lying across the front of the lorry. She was so lucky, had she spun the other way she would have been in the fast lane. She was fortunate to have only suffered whiplash and bruising but mentally she was terrified. She had to go for regular physio and it took a lot of guts for her to get back in the car.
Anyway at the time, her dad (my ex) paid for the recovery vehicle to tow the car back to us. He then said, I thought jokingly, when the insurance money comes through you can pay me back. Well she only had third party but had legal cover. Solicitors got involved and the long and the short of it was they are still trying to track down the driver but not much hope as he is in Romania. However, the motor insurance bureau have not paid her some compensation £1750 to be precise of which she has to pay £300 for her new car. Her dad is now aware she has the cheque and has said 'well now you can pay me the money back'.
I am so cross that he is even dreaming of asking her for it, I thought that's what parents were there for and just be grateful she got out of it alive
He is not short of money, his income is over £100,000 a year and he has just bought a brand new mercedes outright. On the other hand my husband can't work due to Parkinson's disease and I only have my wages as a teaching assistant.
I am upset for my daughter because it is giving her such a bad message i.e. the money is more important to me than your life.
Am I wrong to feel this way? I feel so wound up. Sorry this is so lengthy but I need to get it off my chest and hear other peoples views.
Anyway at the time, her dad (my ex) paid for the recovery vehicle to tow the car back to us. He then said, I thought jokingly, when the insurance money comes through you can pay me back. Well she only had third party but had legal cover. Solicitors got involved and the long and the short of it was they are still trying to track down the driver but not much hope as he is in Romania. However, the motor insurance bureau have not paid her some compensation £1750 to be precise of which she has to pay £300 for her new car. Her dad is now aware she has the cheque and has said 'well now you can pay me the money back'.
I am so cross that he is even dreaming of asking her for it, I thought that's what parents were there for and just be grateful she got out of it alive
He is not short of money, his income is over £100,000 a year and he has just bought a brand new mercedes outright. On the other hand my husband can't work due to Parkinson's disease and I only have my wages as a teaching assistant.
I am upset for my daughter because it is giving her such a bad message i.e. the money is more important to me than your life.
Am I wrong to feel this way? I feel so wound up. Sorry this is so lengthy but I need to get it off my chest and hear other peoples views.
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