Fallen out with Sister

[jackie j]

I have fallen out with my sister, big time. I am fed up with her not listening and always going on about how she has no time, she doesnt work any more, lives in a small two bed flat, The garden isnt hers so she doesnt have to do it. I always ring her she very rarely rings me.
We have fallen out over my daughter and our niece that lives with them. It doesnt help that my OH told her to * off.
Felling really low today, my late sister was always the one to listen.

[grahama]

Hi,

firstly I don't think you will be alone falling out with brothers and sisters, I have had an on/off relationship with my brother for some time due to his not getting in touch and he has 3 kiddies I love to see!! All I can say is stick with her don't give up, arguements are all to often forgotten and all relationships can be healed eventually although you may be the one doing all the trying for now.

Regards,

Graham

[Jeanied]

Graham's right, JackieJ- siblings can go through bad patches at different stages of their lives, only to find that the old saying, blood is thicker than water, is true. Me and my sis annoy the heck out of each other from time to time, but we always come round in the end.

[FROSTYFRECKLE]

That's sad to hear Jackie but as the saying goes you can pick your friends but you can't choose your family.

[jacob marley]

Reading this thread reminds me i have a sister fell out with her 30 odd years ago but life go's on .
As Frosty Freckle says you can't pick them only freinds and i would think you have enough friends on here...jacob

[broadway]

I sometimes wish I had a sibling to fall out with

[Two_Sheds]

Family feuds are so unnecessary. OH's brothers fell out with each other and their mother this last year. One brother wasn't talking to his dad, the other wasn't talking to his mother or the other brother. OH was stuck in the middle, being expected to pick sides.

All over something which should have been said, but wasn't. None of them likes "discussing" things, so nothing was sorted out in the open. Instead they were all bitching and whining behind each others backs.

You wouldn't treat your friends like that, or they wouldn't be your friends anymore

[binley100]

I haven't spoken to my brother for about 20 years but that was because of some pretty huge major issues and upsets. I'm sure that you're disagreement with your sister is not as bad as that and given time I'm sure you'll sort it out. I have two girls and whether they are friends or not, woe betide anyone who upset either one of them as they still remain fiercely protective of each other.

[kirsty b]

I haven't spoken to my brother for about 20 years but that was because of some pretty huge major issues and upsets. I'm sure that you're disagreement with your sister is not as bad as that and given time I'm sure you'll sort it out. I have two girls and whether they are friends or not, woe betide anyone who upset either one of them as they still remain fiercely protective of each other.

My younger sister and I are like that. We used to have some evil fights with each other (using weapons!) but would immediately tag-team anyone who tried to pick on the other!

Having 2 sisters can make for fun and games at times, but hopefully you'll sort it soon Jackie xx

[jackie j]

We hardly ever fall out esp since adult hood she being five years older than me, loosing our middle sister brought us closer together. We dont live in each others pockets but are there when needed. This is all because a 14 year old and 13 year old cousin have fallen out and will never be close. Sister has always favoured one niece over the other but there are reasons for that but try telling the kids. I dont agree with what she allows my niece to do and get away with. As she has custody of her its hard for me to dissaprove of anything. I just get told that all her friends do whatever. I dont agree with the time she stays out till, or the fact my sister will buy her a bit of booze to take out with her.
We will get there but will take time.

[Eco-Chic]

Jackie I have one sister who I adore and who adores me. Not that you'd realise that the way we bicker sometimes. I always think my place is in 'the wrong' whereas she thinks that's her place.

Try to allow a little space and time for feelings to calm down and when you telephone or meet, skate around some of the things you don't agree with ie the upbringing of your niece.

Hope you sort it out soon♥

[SueA]

Hope you sort things out with your sister Jackie & can agree to disagree on those you can't. You've had a lot of loss in your family & you two need to stick together & try to work it out. I'm sure you've had 'bust-ups' in the past & got over them, just give each other a little time & space to cool down & then try & move on.

[dexterdoglancashire]

Ive read your comments Jackie, and Im sure that you will work things out. Our love and thoughts are with you.
Bernie and Dexter

[seasprout]

I sometimes wish I had a sibling to fall out with

Me too.

Perhaps we could have a row sometime broadway.

[lizzylemon]

Sorry to hear you're having a silent relationship with your sister - I really hope you sort it soon.

My sister decided to have a silent relationship with me just before Christmas because I won't let my little'un go to our Mums house because of their agressive dog. Apparantly this silent relationship will continue until I grow up and stop punishing my mum ?! WTF!!!

I can't back down for the sake of my daughters safety and therefore expect this silent spell to stretch into the middle of forever as it's already way beyond stupid.

It takes two to have a good relationship, whether it's friends or family and you can bend over backwards but it wont work if both people aren't willing to put in. In the mean time, I tell myself she doesn't get it, 23, no kids, totally different life style etc 'cos it makes it easier to bare so I really hope yours is just a splash in a teacup