When you've had it all

[lindyloo]

please can your mum come and shore up my damp field!?!

i think the secret is to just enjoy life each day as a new adventure, doing what you want to do..and if the other half doesnt want to do the same thing, at least you will have lots to talk to him about when you come home. my husband was a bit like that, whereas i am a childish adventurer.. i found it much better to have him waiting at home, than to drag an unenthusiastic partner around with me.... there will be no stopping you brengirl, once you get going

[Brengirl]

.Well the die is set. Tonight there is a local cricket match. Our son has put together a scratch team of non cricket players to join a local knockout competition. OH was expecting me to join him (as usual). After a few downcast looks and crocodile tears he is off on his own.

Next week I am going to take the bus to Poole. Have a coffee, maybe lunch all on my own. I can stop and stare and linger whenever I wish without my G tagging along about 10 yds behind.

Here we go, here we go...........

[binley100]

You go girl.........

Hope you have a grand day out.

[Nicos]

Good for you Bren!!!

...just remember your OH is going to feel a bit discarded- so remember to make him feel extra spesh!

[Two_Sheds]

My mum does this too! ...going on the bus/train means her and her friends can go all over the place without worrying about ...

... getting bladdered at lunch

[Incy]

My parents have never been so busy since they retired. Dad can't work out how he found the time to work. Mum should have just about got back from the States now and if I ring I know they may not be home. Very strange for me but I'm really pleased they are having a fulfilled enjoyable retirement. get out there and have fun is all I can say. I just hope in my later years I have as much energy as my folks.

[Flummery]

When I first got married (just about 40 years ago!) 'pensioners' lived in special bungalows with only 1 bedroom and no space for your 'stuff'. It seemed to be assumed that you gave up all interests and hobbies and stagnated till they built the coffin round you.

Now, we oldies are up for just about anything. The Derby and Joan club in our village folded about 3 years ago due to lack of interest. We have a monthly village lunch - alternately at the local pub and at the village hall - the latter cooked by us pensioners! We have weekly T'ai Chi, a monthly Cake Club, an active 'In Bloom' group, over half of whom are pension age. The indoor bowls club meeta about 3 times a week in the village hall. There's a flower arranging class, a reading Group - you're hard pressed to get a day off!

The only thing that's changed is our, and Society's, attitude to older people. We don't sit and wait for people to entertain us. We do it ourselves. You stay active by being active.