Why wont he listen and realise i know best

[Nicos]

OK- name and shame time

....my OH is more houseproud- and better at cleaning than I am

...and yes- I do the majority of it- but poor lad must turn a blind eye- esp for me.

[Ladybird2618]

Oh Zebedee - don't you know that counting your scars is a case in point - my oh has a running tally of his too!!!
We had a new en suite put in in feb and the slatted blind is still sitting on the windowsill waiting to be installed!!!!
He does an awful lot of other things around the house though and lucky for me going down the lottie is classed as one of my chores!!!
What a chore! It's the only one I like though. Cleaning up after 2 dogs three chickens and a cat isn't that much fun I need an antidote!!
If only that blind was up though!
x

[binley100]

If only that blind was up though!
x

Tell him that there's some guy across the road watching you taking a shower or worse still watching him take one

[Glutton4...]

Give him some Xmas cards to write!!!!...he'll soon get better!!!

...G4 has most probably got plenty spare!!!...

OIY Nickers - I heard that!!!!

[Glutton4...]

The way I get Mr. G. to do jobs, is to firstly ask him what his plans are. When he starts going 'ermmmm' I then give him a (verbal) list of things that I'd like done. Usually only two jobs. He then looks guilty and does one of them. The other trick is to start something, then ask for his help. Once he's started helping, I bog off and leave him to it!

Crafty Cow!

[Two_Sheds]

Oh well mine is a hoarder who never puts anything anything away....He also always accepts "useful" things from his mum that " might come in handy one day". Bascially I have a house full of rubbish

Mine too is a hoarder, but his problem is BoGoFs. I had a count in the bathroom last week: 12 deodorants, 5 shaving gels, 3 razors, 6 bottles of shampoo all half-used, 21 bottles of shower/bath gel ... he also has two drawers of socks (47 pairs in all).
He packed for camping this week, and I found 7 new types of multi-tool (never used, never will be) 5 torches and 6 camping cups (for 2 people). He is a bogger for buying Poundshop cr@p.

We have one serious area of 'dispute', and that is putting things away.

Mine just doesn't. Everything is put down where he last used it, so you might find a screwdriver in the bathroom, or a radiator key in the cutlery drawer. Clothes are left on the floor/dresser/bed. If I say put them away, he just stuffs them in the washing machine instead, making more work for me.
I don't nag anymore, it's pointless. I just move all his stuff into one pile on the table until even he gets annoyed with it and puts it all away.

He tidied the kitchen, but didn't put any of the dirty pots in the dishwasher. Instead, he stacked them up neatly on the worktop above the dishwasher.

Mine does that too, why?
Shoes next to the shoe cupboard but not inside, dishes next to dishwasher not inside etc. Drives me insane. He's now banned from "putting away the groceries" because he takes everything out of the carrier bags and puts them on every available bit of worktop. And leaves them there.

I do create a lot of mess myself, but I tidy up as I go. The main problem is parrot poops everywhere, a permanent dust of parrot mess on the kitchen floor, and parrot holes in sofas & curtains when she has a sneaky chew (she's learning though: she'll have a bite now and immediately say "Bad bird no biting no!")

I think to his eyes the house is untidy, so why should he bother? To him the garden is really untidy, because I've got borders of flowers instead of a neat square of lawn like 'everyone else'.

I do half a job too, esp. with sewing curtains which I hate: I've had a blind half-finished on the machine for 4 months now.
We're both getting better though

[zazen999]

I don't let Mr Z anywhere near DIY - at all. And he tidies up and keeps everything neat and tidy.

He's FAB. I get to make a mess and do practical stuff and he just tidies up after me.

[zebedee]

Oh Zebedee - don't you know that counting your scars is a case in point - my oh has a running tally of his too!!!
We had a new en suite put in in feb and the slatted blind is still sitting on the windowsill waiting to be installed!!!!
He does an awful lot of other things around the house though and lucky for me going down the lottie is classed as one of my chores!!!
What a chore! It's the only one I like though. Cleaning up after 2 dogs three chickens and a cat isn't that much fun I need an antidote!!
If only that blind was up though!
x

How many has he got (sad, innit?)

[lizzylemon]

My OH has varying levels of tolerance depending on how 'good' his head is. One day he will be find with a few bits on the side, the next day it will drive him mad. He always thinks it me / my clutter and so has a go. Without saying a word to him I proved my point very nicely the other day:

One of his recent 'bug bears' was the utility room. It was very cluttered and every time he went there (2 a day) his visit would be marked with quite loud profanities. Getting sick of it and with a point to prove, I went in and put all the shoes, the majority his, and the now cool iron into the cupboard and left everything else as it was.

He went in, started to shout, it slowly diminished in volume, he came out with an arm full of motorbike gear which went back into his wardrobe (he has 2 doubles) and nothing said but the utility room is now much tidier and I didn't have to say a word.

Still he's not all bad. We're seperating and I had still had nice birthday presents to unwrap this morning (yes I did get choked).

[Jeanied]

I've just got to chuckle at this thread. Every time I have a look in, the advertising strip below the last post is always featuring hemorrhoid treatment cream.

A reminder that there is more than one kind of pain in the *****?

[rustylady]

I love this thread. I have been (more or less) happily single for ten years. My ex was useless but still put on this macho attitude, saying that some things were man jobs, and some were women jobs. Needless to say the boring things like cooking, cleaning and looking after the kids were "women jobs". In spite of this I ended up doing all the gardening, DIY and decorating too cos he just couldn't be bothered.

[taff]

I'm sure men are devolving into teenagers, or we're all turning into our mothers...

Not one of my partners has been any good at DIY or even wanted to be, they were mostly more interested in playing computer games or watching films or similar. Life for them is there to relax and do nothing but entertain themselves.

Maybe women just entertain themselves differently...sense of responsibility? Dunno...waffling now...

[RedThorn]

Give him the macho job of installing the new ladder to protect you and his kids from suffering a similar fate... That'll appeal to his protection of family side....

[toastie]

My brother in law did a similar thing a couple of years ago when he was getting the Christmas tree out of the loft as my sister had been nagging him to do so for at least a week. As it was a new house and the first time he'd got anything from the loft (sister had put them in there) he lost his footing, hit the banister on his way down and broke his arm. My sister thought it was quite funny at the time and thought he was having her on about the pain in his arm but as she had to help him with some things and drive for about six weeks the fun soon wore off.

[Hilary B]

One thing OH is careful about is ladders (especially ladders for getting in lofts) it's all part of his job.
Trying to stand on windowsills (climbing half-way out) in order to look at the flat roof above.... that scares me a lot, but if he'd ever slipped doing that I'd have collected the insurance by now.....