If this doesn't make you wince ....

[lettucegrow!]

You've clearly not got dingly danglies

I haven't either but it made me wince.
Totally spot on though.

[Nicos]

Totally spot on though.

Clearly!!!!!


Come on you guys.....answer on a postcard?????

[bubblewrap]

OH! had a coil fitted but didn't really trust it so I had my HT leads cut.

[its hilly]

I laughed..sorry boble
A bloke who can lie to his partner about something as fundamental as wanting kids deserves to get his err..spuds... kicked in...
Never wanted kids, but said I'd consider if my oh wanted them enough. Living with someone who doesn't so it's not an issue.
However my best friend's oh told her they would have kids when they were older..then reneged as he was too comfortable with their lifestyle as it was. She broke her heart over the decision, but told him 'no kids, no marriage' as she'd never ever said other than that she wanted them. He changed his mind and they have two, but it nearly broke them up.
Very emotive issue, and I'm another who can't believe how many get married without talking about it first. Or when a future partner says no, when they want yes go ahead and get hitched anyway assuming that the partner will change their mind.

[zebedee]

Another 'wince' story, folks? Quite some years ago, I was a regular, along with many others, at a local pub. A guy we all knew well came in one night, walking very oddly indeed. After a lot of persduasion, and several drinks, he told us the story. Apparently, he and his girlfriend were lying together on the bed, naked, after you know what, both enjoying a post coitus cigarette. A stupid argument blew up over something really trivial. It got angrier and angrier, until the girlfriend, thoroughly p****d off, stubbed her cigarette out on the, er, end, so to speak. He felt worse because the doctor at the Emergency unit was laughing so much, he had to keep stopping the treatment to wipe away the tears of mirth. By the way, my OH has never smoked, and I gave up pretty damned quickly!!!

[lynda66]

its always one of my first questions when i meet someone new .... although having no womb now makes it a lot simpler .... i've had relationships in the past, where they've said they don't want kids (i got sterilised at 24) ..... then 6 months down the line, they suddenly decide they can't live without kids and start wittering on about having the sterilisation reversed ...... think it's just a good excuse to dump me *giggles ..... i figured one child of mine entering the gene pool was enough for the world to cope with

[ginger ninger]

I'm unable to have kids for various medical reasons and I told my OH this not long after we started to see each other, well it's not something you tell some one over a beer and a bag of nut's. He was great and said there and then he didn't want any children so he was fine about it. But the guy I was seeing before him very unceremoniously dumped me because of it.
I would have loved to have kid's but it wasn't to be, but if my fella had done that to me...his "Spud's" would be the last thing he'd should be worried about

[Alison]

It's a basic trust and respect thing, the fact it relates to possible kids is irrelevant. Why would you do something as major as that without agreeing. A friend of mine's now ex husband had the snip while she was recovering from having their child as he decided the family was complete, it's their family therefore their decision. Idiot.

Never really wanted kids and never pretended I did but when I first got together with OH I couldn't have honestly said that I'd never want them (I definitely know that know) so although we knew where we both stood at the time, sometimes things change. Just be honest though and it's usually all fine.

Oh yes and no wincing at all, not even a flinch.

[taff]

on the same theme as a big ouch, I really like telling this [possible untrue] story that I read in a magazine sometie long ago...especially to blokes who cross their legs and look faint...
Bloke playing rugby dislocated his hip, so they put it back in on the field and couldn't work out why he kept screaing. They took him to hospital and discovered they'd trapped one of his testicles when they put the joint back in....

[Glutton4...]

Ooooowwwwwww Taff! No wonder he yelled!

Mr. G. and I were chatting to an old Farmer one day, and he kept jiggling his hand in his pocket. I raised my eyebrows, and he withdrew a handful of small rubber bands, and declared that he was going down the field to 'ring' the Lambs. I had to explain to my Husband, who promptly crossed his legs and went white. Even now, some twelve or so years later, the words 'rubber bands' will make him wince!

[taff]

Even now, some twelve or so years later, the words 'rubber bands' will make him wince!

coffee>screen

[TonyF]

After our third - all planned - with No 1 wife (No 1 being the chronology, not her rank) we were told that she shouldn't have any more and I happily went off and got me bits sorted. That was nearly 40 years ago and haven't regretted it once.

My eldest son had the snip before he had any children, he didn't want any and neither did his wife, he doesn't 'do' children at all. J and I never wanted any anyway, we both had much too important things to do and we'd both already made our contribution to the world's population explosion.

Love all the stories tho, especially the bloke having his nuts kicked up roun d his ears, serves him right - but at least getting a kick there probably ensured that he wasn't a breeder after that.

My main concern is that if you want to adopt kids you have to jump through all sorts of hoops and fill in all number of forms but you can breed otherwise without any constraints - I blame it on Thatcher stopping school milk, there weren't all these spotty yoofs and yoofettes breeding like yoofs and yoofettes when I was in school and when I was a teenager - and that was while we had school milk! See. no school milk and increase in teenage parents, got to be a link there somewhere.

Perhaps all spotty yoofs who have two hormones where their two communicating brain cells should be lined up and the woman in Bob's story should be let loose on them?

[Hilary B]

Mixed feelings. Not a wince in sight, but wondering whether he was right in thinking that she would actually choose to get pregnant, knowing he didn't like the idea. That would be her decision, except that he would still have to pay for it (even if they later parted).......
If his reasoning was financial, I can (slightly) see his point..... (condoms aren't the whole answer to such situations, some just don't get on with them, for various reasons)

[bobleponge]

Taff, that hip story is a proper wincer!!

I generally dont form opinions or spout opinions on stuff I dont know the full story of, which is why I didnt give any opinion on the OP, just the anecdote as it was relayed.
I actually met Mme Spudkicker last night. She wasnt called that at the original introduction, but the story soon came out after a couple of glasses of Pastis, and she confessed to her undying shame. I still dont know the full story, clearly, I only heard her side of it, but I certainly wouldnt be as harsh as some people, now having heard her side.

[kirsty b]

Didn't wince at all cos that little story is pretty close to home for me and I came this [-] close to doing the same thing to my OH.
It is 7 years ago and still hurts (emotionally) sometimes, although if he was to suddenly change his mind and agree to a reversal to have another, I'm not sure I'd want one. Water under the bridge and all that.
Nearly broke us up, but thankfully didn't.

What Mme Spudkicker did was probably a kneejerk (no pun intended) reaction to having news like that dropped on her!