Family giving me a hard time......

[blue411]

Over the last 3 years ive faced redundancy 4 times, and due to volunteers and my length of service its a bullet ive managed to dodge, how ever last June it was announced that all 650 people who work with me were facing redundancy as the company was moving down south. dont hate my job but its been getting harder since last year as everyone starts to face reality, ive asked to transfer with my job and move down south (with my OH who works with me), ive been told i dont need to apply as i automatically have been given an interview, my family have been giving me a hard time saying im stupid, i should take the money (£**,000) as id always get another job up here, ive tried to explain its not just the job im following its where im moving too (Wiltshire) as well, i cant get promoted where i am now but the new location is a whole new contract and i really feel its a good career move as well as a beautiful part of the country to live in, am i being selfish?

[Florence Fennel]

Whether this is exended or immediate family Blue, do what you think is right for you. It sounds like you are making the right move.

[Sylvan]

You're not being selfish at all. You should do what's right for you and your OH. If your family want to see you they'll just have to visit you. (They'll probably end up using you as a base for holidays - that's what ours did.)

Point out to them that they should count their blessings, since you could be moving somewhere considerably further away, like Canada or Australia!

[taff]

Hate to rain on your parade, but having an interview doesn't necessarily mean they'll give you a job at the end of it.
wilthsire is nice, but people are the same everywhere, a new place doesn't mean nicer people.
having spannered the works though, where you live or move to is entirely up to you and your partner. If you both agree moving is a good thing, then do it. Your family are being cautious and selfish, they don't want to see you go somewhere they can't easily see you, and they're worried that you may be biting off more than you can chew and out of easy reach of help.
I turned down a chance to become a balcksmiths apprentice once, it involved moving, wish I'd done it
in other words, do whats best for you.

[zazen999]

Wiltshire is nice and you can grow more veg down there.

I moved from Kent up to the Midlands for a promotion; we have our ideal house now and neither of us would want to move again....but if we didn't and one of us was offered something somewhere nice, then we'd have to think very seriously about it. As long as you and your OH are strong, it's up to both of you to make that decision.

[binley100]

Deep discussions with your OH are in order and if you feel that this is the right way to go for both of you then do it and don't feel that you're being selfish.

[Two_Sheds]

Always, always, go with your gut instinct

[Alison]

It's nothing to do with your extended family where you live so long as your OH etc are happy with it then that's that bit sorted. Personally I'd not want to live Wilts direction as I've not like the bits I've seen when I've visited but if you like it then it's right for you. Find out more about the job, go for the interview etc. If you get the job and still want to go then go for it but you can make a fully informed decision. Even if you get the job you don't have to take it and it give you time to think.

[blue411]

Hate to rain on your parade, but having an interview doesn't necessarily mean they'll give you a job at the end of it.
wilthsire is nice, but people are the same everywhere, a new place doesn't mean nicer people.
having spannered the works though, where you live or move to is entirely up to you and your partner. If you both agree moving is a good thing, then do it. Your family are being cautious and selfish, they don't want to see you go somewhere they can't easily see you, and they're worried that you may be biting off more than you can chew and out of easy reach of help.
I turned down a chance to become a balcksmiths apprentice once, it involved moving, wish I'd done it
in other words, do whats best for you.

I understand what your saying, but im transferring my role to another location, my job isnt redundant as such ( only if i stay up North), I know folks are folks where ever you live, but i love the areas of Wiltshire, i go every year for my hols, such a beautiful part of the country, it is a contributing factor for us. Its nice to hear both sides of the coin though Its all been negative stuff ive been hearing all week.

[blue411]

Deep discussions with your OH are in order and if you feel that this is the right way to go for both of you then do it and don't feel that you're being selfish.

To be honest, when myself and OH heard the news we were on holiday, and we both said straight away, lets try and move to the new contract, that was 8 months ago, i dont think my family believed we would follow through. OH family are great, all they ask is we get a house with a guest room!

[Two_Sheds]

Its all been negative stuff ive been hearing all week.

You'll get that from people who wouldn't dare to do what you're contemplating.

I think it does you good to take risks: I moved 200 miles away at the age of 19 for a job, which was OK for a while: made redundant by that company at 24. Not a brilliant job, but I met lots of new people and broadened my own horizons.

I did it again at 28.

I'm now back where I started geographically, but the moves have strengthened my character no end

[Creemteez]

I'm with TS. Go with your gut. As to your family members, they should try putting themselves in your position. Would they jeopardise their careers/future if you objected to them moving? Doubt it. Good luck whatever you decide.

[zazen999]

Blue - if it excited you that much, then best go!

Better that trying to find a job at the moment, it's a jungle out there!

Better to regret what you did, than what you didn't do [isn't that what they say?]

[blue411]

Thanks guys, feeling better now, i guess i need to tell them to back off a little bit (in the nicest possible way ), and that i understand their concerns for me but im a big girl now.

[Glutton4...]

I'm going to echo what Zaz just said. After all, if you don't like it, you can always go back. If you don't go, you won't know, and you'll spend the rest of your days saying "what if...?"

Good luck!