Over the last 3 years ive faced redundancy 4 times, and due to volunteers and my length of service its a bullet ive managed to dodge, how ever last June it was announced that all 650 people who work with me were facing redundancy as the company was moving down south. dont hate my job but its been getting harder since last year as everyone starts to face reality, ive asked to transfer with my job and move down south (with my OH who works with me), ive been told i dont need to apply as i automatically have been given an interview, my family have been giving me a hard time saying im stupid, i should take the money (£**,000) as id always get another job up here, ive tried to explain its not just the job im following its where im moving too (Wiltshire) as well, i cant get promoted where i am now but the new location is a whole new contract and i really feel its a good career move as well as a beautiful part of the country to live in, am i being selfish?
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You're not being selfish at all. You should do what's right for you and your OH. If your family want to see you they'll just have to visit you. (They'll probably end up using you as a base for holidays - that's what ours did.)
Point out to them that they should count their blessings, since you could be moving somewhere considerably further away, like Canada or Australia!The problem with rounded personalities is they don't tesselate.
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Hate to rain on your parade, but having an interview doesn't necessarily mean they'll give you a job at the end of it.
wilthsire is nice, but people are the same everywhere, a new place doesn't mean nicer people.
having spannered the works though, where you live or move to is entirely up to you and your partner. If you both agree moving is a good thing, then do it. Your family are being cautious and selfish, they don't want to see you go somewhere they can't easily see you, and they're worried that you may be biting off more than you can chew and out of easy reach of help.
I turned down a chance to become a balcksmiths apprentice once, it involved moving, wish I'd done it
in other words, do whats best for you.
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Wiltshire is nice and you can grow more veg down there.
I moved from Kent up to the Midlands for a promotion; we have our ideal house now and neither of us would want to move again....but if we didn't and one of us was offered something somewhere nice, then we'd have to think very seriously about it. As long as you and your OH are strong, it's up to both of you to make that decision.
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Deep discussions with your OH are in order and if you feel that this is the right way to go for both of you then do it and don't feel that you're being selfish.S*d the housework I have a lottie to dig
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It's nothing to do with your extended family where you live so long as your OH etc are happy with it then that's that bit sorted. Personally I'd not want to live Wilts direction as I've not like the bits I've seen when I've visited but if you like it then it's right for you. Find out more about the job, go for the interview etc. If you get the job and still want to go then go for it but you can make a fully informed decision. Even if you get the job you don't have to take it and it give you time to think.
Some of us live in the past, always talking about back then. Some of us live in the future, always planning what we are going to do. And, then there are those, who neither look behind or ahead, but just enjoy the moment of right now.
Which one are you and is it how you want to be?
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Originally posted by taff View PostHate to rain on your parade, but having an interview doesn't necessarily mean they'll give you a job at the end of it.
wilthsire is nice, but people are the same everywhere, a new place doesn't mean nicer people.
having spannered the works though, where you live or move to is entirely up to you and your partner. If you both agree moving is a good thing, then do it. Your family are being cautious and selfish, they don't want to see you go somewhere they can't easily see you, and they're worried that you may be biting off more than you can chew and out of easy reach of help.
I turned down a chance to become a balcksmiths apprentice once, it involved moving, wish I'd done it
in other words, do whats best for you.Life isnt about surviving the storm.....But learning to dance in the rain.
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Originally posted by binley100 View PostDeep discussions with your OH are in order and if you feel that this is the right way to go for both of you then do it and don't feel that you're being selfish.Life isnt about surviving the storm.....But learning to dance in the rain.
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Originally posted by blue411 View PostIts all been negative stuff ive been hearing all week.
I think it does you good to take risks: I moved 200 miles away at the age of 19 for a job, which was OK for a while: made redundant by that company at 24. Not a brilliant job, but I met lots of new people and broadened my own horizons.
I did it again at 28.
I'm now back where I started geographically, but the moves have strengthened my character no endLast edited by Two_Sheds; 22-02-2011, 07:00 PM.All gardeners know better than other gardeners." -- Chinese Proverb.
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I'm with TS. Go with your gut. As to your family members, they should try putting themselves in your position. Would they jeopardise their careers/future if you objected to them moving? Doubt it. Good luck whatever you decide.When the Devil gives you Cowpats - make Satanic Compost!
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Thanks guys, feeling better now, i guess i need to tell them to back off a little bit (in the nicest possible way ), and that i understand their concerns for me but im a big girl now.Life isnt about surviving the storm.....But learning to dance in the rain.
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