Family giving me a hard time......

[Jacksprat]

No your not being selfish!

I understand exactly how your family feel as our son moved to Switzerland a couple of years ago. I must admit we were both very upset that he was moving so far away but we got used to it. We visit a couple of times a year and our son comes over to see us 3 or 4 times a year and if you get the job Im sure it will be the same for you. Yes we would prefer him to live closer so that we could see him more often but we told him that he had to do what was right for him and the decision was definately the right one.

Also dont forget there is always skype, get it loaded on your parents computer (if they have one of course) and seeing you whilst they are talking to you will seem like you are actually visiting.

Good luck with the interview!

[jojo2910]

We were in a similar position last year, as OH was offered a promotion, that meant we have had to move away from all our friends and I had to change job too. It was hard, but we knew it was the right thing for our futures. It was hard, I won't lie, but we love it now. We live near Wiltshire and it is beautiful down here. It'll be a big change, make sure its the right one for you and your family.

[chris]

Maybe they don't want you to move away as they'll miss you - in which case it's only a train/car/whatever journey away! I'd go.

My job may have a nz contract coming up, and needing some support for 6 months - I'd go without the bat of an eye lid - just hope i'd be back in time for the birth of the next little one lining up to be popped out!

[Bagpuss]

You get one life, enjoy it !

[Nicos]

Gosh....grab the chance!!!!!

We moved over here and nope it's not selfish...just what is right for you at the time.
Nothing stands still- you've got weekends and holidays you can go back and visit friends and family...there's the phone and internet , and webcams!

Flipping heck- it's only a trip on the motorway away!!

...go for it!

[Incy]

Go for it!
If both you and your OH want to go then it is no-one else's business.
To be honest finding a new job post redundancy at the moment is pretty difficult, so if you have the option to keep yours and are happy to move with it then you should.
Good luck!

[ginger ninger]

I'm out of work again Blue, if I'd been given the chance to keep my last job by re-locating I'd have grabbed it with both hands. In our present climate regarding work it's not easy to move from job to job. Your family should take this into consideration when trying to put you on what sounds like a guilt trip. What would they do if the boot was on the other foot so to speak?. Taking a redundant package is all well and good if that's what YOU want to do, take it from one who knows...money doesn't last for ever, but to do this just to please others is wrong. Job security is worth more than any redundancy package. Your family should support you and your partner in what ever you both chose to do. I can understand them being cautious, but life is all about taking a risks now and again. By what you say there isn't much risk involved, your job is moving so you want to move with it by moving to Wiltshire...bit of an adventure I'd say.
If there's one thing in life I've learnt Blue is you can't live your life pleasing others. Good luck in what ever you chose to do.

[Hilary B]

If they think you will find another job in your present area, let them find you one! I bet it's not that simple.
Assuming the relocated job is definite, do you get a relocation package?
There are some very nice bits of Wiltshire, and some not-so-nice bits (a few towns I wouldn't work or live in however much you paid me, but then I don't much like towns at the best of times).

[miffy]

Take the plunge, think as others have said go with your gut at least it is your decision and not having control of your own destiny sucks so do what you feel is best. I would.

[Potstubsdustbins]

There is one thing for sure if you don't try you will spend the rest of your life wondering IF ONLY.

If it gives you the opportunity to improve things for yourself and your immediate family and you realise it won't be all tea & cakes. Go for it.

Colin

[taff]

you realise it won't be all tea & cakes.

how very dare you!!! there's ALWAYS tea and cakes....at least there are if you aren't on a diet

[zebedee]

Go for it. Plain & simple. U are not being selfish at all

[blue411]

Thanks for all the support guys, well the good news is myself and my OH have both been formally been told we have jobs at the new location!!
Just got to tell my family now.....
But we are both very excited at the thought of a new start and nothing will bring my high down!

[jackie j]

Thanks for all the support guys, well the good news is myself and my OH have both been formally been told we have jobs at the new location!!
Just got to tell my family now.....
But we are both very excited at the thought of a new start and nothing will bring my high down!

Well done Congratulations and dont worry about telling the family. Ask them if they rather you were in work or out of work. After all its not the other side of the world is it.

[taff]

congratulations