tattoos on kids

[Dottie]

We use to put them on as kids, just because they were in with the gum and Popeye had them! Kept us amused for a little while, but at no point did it make me want a tatoo then or as I got older. In fact I hate tatoo's and always found it a big turn-off if I saw a guy with a tatoo, just in the same way that if I saw a guy smoking, he'd immediately be taken off my interest list. So for me it only really matters if I was thinking of having a relationship with a guy, and tatoo's and smoking were a big no no, from early teens.

In terms of someone doing something you've asked them not to do, then if your sending your kids around to make things easier for you, then stop. If the kids are going around out of choice to hang out and chill, then I just let them get on with it and wash off at bath time, just in the same way you'd wash dirty knees etc.

[green thing]

the tattoos don't come of that easily I can get them off if I scrub him red raw
but I hate doing it and shouldn't have to
the eldest one spent two hours in the bath picking it off the last time and you could still see
a faint out line on his skin after
I think she gets them from the pound shop

last week he wanted a proper power rangers tattoo ?
I was very tempted to take him down to the local tattooist to get one done
but he's not old enough it would have looked so cool in his teens !

It's up to her how she brings up her child

I've asked the sister in-law to bring back some CANDY CIGARETTES from the states
and I will give them to her child I wounder if she will get it

the kids play quite happily in the street together but then go in to his to play on the wii
on the 50 inch tv
she will quite happily let him play on it all day 6 year old playing 12+ games

we had to look after him for couple of hours the other day
we all had boiled egg with soldiers for lunch
He had never eaten an egg before refused to eat it and the toast and just wanted his usual
2 minute noodles and sweets so I had to send the OH to the shops to get some

if you feed a dog like this you would be prosecuted

[Two_Sheds]

He had never eaten an egg before refused to eat it and the toast

He would've just sat there and looked at it in my house, I certainly wouldn't go to the shops especially for him.
My nieces & nephews don't eat veg, or fruit, or bacon (according to them) but they do in my house... or there're no sweets, simple

[di]

the tattoos don't come of that easily I can get them off if I scrub him red raw

It's up to her how she brings up her child

I've asked the sister in-law to bring back some CANDY CIGARETTES from the states
and I will give them to her child I wounder if she will get it

the kids play quite happily in the street together but then go in to his to play on the wii
on the 50 inch tv
she will quite happily let him play on it all day 6 year old playing 12+ games

we had to look after him for couple of hours the other day
we all had boiled egg with soldiers for lunch
He had never eaten an egg before refused to eat it and the toast and just wanted his usual
2 minute noodles and sweets so I had to send the OH to the shops to get some

if you feed a dog like this you would be prosecuted

Have you tried putting baby oil on them before trying to get them off?

I'm a little confused as to why you let your kiddies go round to play when you obviously have such strong feelings about several ways she brings up her children,not just the tats....even though you quite rightly say it's up to her how she does bring them up.

I think you either need to lighten up a bit over some of it OR make the decision that they're not to go round anymore,let them play out together but introduce a rule that they stay where you can see them and they're not to go into other houses before arranging it with you first.(I missed if you said what ages they are?)

[Dottie]

I'm a little confused as to why you let your kiddies go round to play when you obviously have such strong feelings about several ways she brings up her children,not just the tats....even though you quite rightly say it's up to her how she does bring them up.

Yep sounds like you love to have someone to hate/blame or having her/them around makes you feel better about yourself.

[HeyWayne]

One thing I am quickly learning with Bean, is that I can't control every element of his life - I'm not even sure I'd want to.

If you believe all the hype about how people pretending to do things when younger leads them on to doing it later in life - then I'd be an axe-weilding, gun-toting, tattoo-covered, armed forces murdering, drug fuelled, 40 a day butcher of Bedfordshire with a penchant for horror films.

What I'm hoping is that by letting Bean experience as many things as possible he'll grow up to be a well balanced, experienced and sound lad just like his uncle.

I personally know folks who had over bearing parents when we were growing up, and as soon as the "controls" were released (when they were old enough to leave home, or go out on their own) they went completely off the rails.

It ain't easy being a parent - that's fo sho mo fo! (sorry, that's the "street" in me getting out again)...

[smallblueplanet]

Secondly,I'd love SBP's response to this one as she says she loved them as a kid....how many tramp stamps do you have now?(if it's not rude me asking...

Forgot about this thread. No tattoos now real or tramp stamps?

Even as kids (well a little older) I could tell the difference between the ones that washed off and the ones that didn't. I seem to remember at secondary school there was a 'fashion' for home-made tats done with a pair-of-compass point and fountain pen ink. That put me off for a while!

Probably helps too that I'm phobic about needles but don't mind stickers. Have considered a tat now and again but they mostly pretty tacky, although the 'celtic' design ones are sort of fun...

[zeezeezed]

I didn't have any wash off tattoos when I was growing up - now I have more than the average sailor

[HeyWayne]

Forgot about this thread. No tattoos now real or tramp stamps?

Even as kids (well a little older) I could tell the difference between the ones that washed off and the ones that didn't. I seem to remember at secondary school there was a 'fashion' for home-made tats done with a pair-of-compass point and fountain pen ink. That put me off for a while!

Probably helps too that I'm phobic about needles but don't mind stickers. Have considered a tat now and again but they mostly pretty tacky, although the 'celtic' design ones are sort of fun...

You've reminded me of some home made temporary tattoos that we made as kids. If only I could remember how.....

[valmarg]

Valmarg,the legal age has been 18 for as long as I can rememeber...fwiw,although I have tats and have still 15 years later never regretted any of them,I will probably persuade my two,if they ever want one anyway,to wait until their twenties.

Sorry if I sounded harsh andi&di, but I used to work as a medical secretary, and one of the specialties I worked for was Plastic Surgery. A very common thing was a patient wanting the removal of a tattoo. Back in the 70's it was a very harsh method. It involved the gradual scraping away of layers of skin.

I understand it is easier to remove them by lasers these days.

It just turned me off them, not that I'd ever been tempted.

valmarg

[di]

I don't think you sounded harsh at all,think we're coming from the same place....note I said I'll be persuading my two to wait til they're in their twenties before getting any permanent.
I've never regretted mine but I was mid/late twenties when I got them...dread to think what I'd be stuck with if I'd rushed to get them at 18.

[CaroltheCarrot]

I have 4 but you wont see them unless I choose to show you, tramp stamps is a bit cruel.
My eldest has a huge tribal one(not quite sure which tribe he belongs to) but youngest hates them with a passion

[Hilary B]

Not got any, don't want any (it must hurt, and I am allergic to pain!) but I've seen some that are very nice, and some that are very off-putting, usually because of the quantity!
The ones that look a bit like Oriental writing I don't much like, but they are mostly harmless. Images of flowers etc are OK, my son has a scorpion, it's actually nicer than you would imagine. I've seen a couple of his friends with things like dragonflies or phoenix.

[Florence Fennel]

I really don't like tattoos and I was furious when Himself came back from a weekend with the lads (in his early twenties) with "Mum" on one hand, "Dad" on the other and our names in a heart on his arm. However, my youngest son has them all over his arms and strangely, although I still don't like them, I think they suit him!

[Claire72]

Maybe she feels you are 'mean' to not allow your kids to have harmless little tattoos just like you think she is a bad parent for not having him know what a boiled egg is.
My son also would not eat a boiled egg if you gave it to him, he doesn't like them, but I would challenge you over you thinking about me as a bad mother.
I understand your frustration about this woman doing this against your wishes, but maybe the kids are putting them on themselves? My children would have been able to do this at age 6.
However, if the influence of this family upsets you this much, then maybe you should keep your kids in your own garden and not let them mix?