Dating Agencies,

[zazen999]

Funny you should say Cardiff, Zaz. Don't suppose you have his number?

Strangely enough - I never actually got his number!

[janeyo]

I met Mr janeyo 10 yrs ago on a site called Lycos, no idea if it's still going. Had to weed out a load of old chuff first lol, and the only reason I agreed to meet him is cos he lived locally! I wasn't wasting any petrol! (He was kind of a safe refuge from the divorce I was going through as we couldn't afford not to both live in the same house until it was sold, which made life kind of weird).

10 years, 3 houses, 2 children, a dozen chooks and 4 cats later, oh yes and a wedding, the rest is history!

Maybe I'll keep him now?! LOL

Good luck, it can be a lot of fun, but don't take it too seriously and never believe a word they tell you!

[veggiechicken]

Strangely enough - I never actually got his number!

Oh well, I thought it might save on having the heating on these cold nights!

[Jeanied]

Haven't you got a hot water bottle? Or a cat? Much cosier

[veggiechicken]

Two dogs - but they snore! They're fine on the sofa, keeping my legs warm but no way could I spend the night with them! Back to my dear old electric blanket - I do like a hot bed on a cold night!!

[Ouya Mellsa]

Di - have a look at Do something, Learn something, Share something, Change something - Meetup

There are lots of friendly group meet ups for all kinds of interests.

[Alison]

Oh Dear, that's a point. If you're not really a perv and intended 'How's about giving me a go ' as being polite....sorry

I assume you've paraphrased him as the quoted phrase doesn't sound pervy at all to me, it's almost the same as saying how's about giving, say, an exercise class a go which is a conversation I've just had with a friend, hope she doesn't go away thinking bad thoughts about me! I'd read that far more as giving him a go and see how it goes.

Re dating agencies, I have loads of friends who've used them and also small ads. All of them met / heard from loads of freaks and a small number of them found life partners. I particularly liked the replies one of my mates got to a lonely hearts in an outdoor mag, one person said their mum had told them she sounded nice and that he should write and another said he was in prison and needed somewhere to live...... Suppose actually those ones are preferably as at least they weren't lying.

[di]

Certain words and a picture omitted Alison...family forum and all that!

[snohare]

If you're not really a perv and intended 'How's about giving me a go ' as being polite....sorry

I don't think I could ever be that brief and to the point !

never believe a word they tell you!

No, no, anything weird they say about themselvesWILL be true ! ("I used to eat my toy trains when I was young")

[Seahorse]

As you know Di, I met my chap right here on the Vine. I also met my two previous blokes online. Not on dating sites though, just places of common interest. I have several other friends who have met their long term partners the same way. I don't mean of course that you should trawl loads of sites with an eye out to grabbing someone but if you join other sites that reflect your hobbies, taste in music, political and or religious views etc, then if nothing else your social circle will widen and you might just find that special person. Good luck x

[Two_Sheds]

Strangely enough - I never actually got his number!

I'd have got it, and put it in the local paper alongside an ad for a £20 X box

Certain words and a picture omitted Alison...family forum and all that!

WHY do men think we go for that?

[snohare]

WHY do men think we go for that?

Men don't. Pillocks who cannot adequately recognise reality or control their own baser emotions, indulge in shallow wishful thinking. And, like dogs chasing buses, wouldn't know what to do if it came true...

[Alison]

WHY do men think we go for that?

I think it's the same principle as those guys who chat you up with, get nowhere and then do exactly the same to your mate who is sat next to you. You find them in all pubs and clubs and I think they work on averages, 1 in 1000 will fall for it so it's worth the effort and knock backs.

[Alison]

Certain words and a picture omitted Alison...family forum and all that!

Ah, thought that might be the case as otherwise you were seeming a little harsh

[di]

In fairness, there's women out there looking for similar. A 'friend' of mine suggested I do as she does, five chappies in her phone that she can call on when she wants 'an evening in'.

I guess whether you go to a pub or a dating site, there's going to be people looking for all manner of things.

Yes, it would be lovely to find someone tomorrow, but I'm in no hurry. I think in taking this step I already feel a little less alone. I could sit, moping about how lonely I am or take some positive steps to meet someone. With kiddies and a serious lack of money, going out every weekend isn't an option.