Nerves!

[Mato]

Have you ever met someone that just gets on your nerves, no matter how hard you try to be nice with them? I have an ex co-worker that really gets to me. He's friends with others I am still friends with and when he's mentioned, it annoys the ever living everything out of me!

[mothhawk]

A very wise person once told me "You don't have to get annoyed. It's your choice" I have found over the years that he is right.

[Bigmallly]

Don't let him know he gets on your nerves, he may do it all the more........just ignore him. Like Mothhawk said, you are the only one who can control your emotions.

[zazen999]

Yes - I know exactly what you are saying. I had a completely useless co-worker, I say worker but he never did owt. Which bearing in mind we were getting a multi million pound business off the ground, wasn't helping matters. In fact, at management meetings - I know this is completely childish - but I would exit the room as soon as he gave his 'update' as it contained precisely - nothing - and use this an an opportunity to use the facilities, grab a coffee, chat to the other staff and when I returned, he was still spouting precisely - nothing. I used to say 'did I miss much' and the other not so brave managers would roll their eyes and say 'nope'.

I didn't last much longer there - I had no faith in directors that employed the likes of him so I moved on.

[Florence Fennel]

I know exactly what you mean Zaz. Empty vessels make most noise. You just have to ignore them as best you can. My "get on your nerves" colleague has no idea that she does, but everyone else knows

[Patchninja]

My sister has a colleague that drives her round the bend. She does make me laugh when she rants via e-mail.......isn't always funny, though. Think ZEN thoughts!

[chris]

Yes, I work with some people know who do, to be blunt f-all. I ran a business with someone who did bugger all too, twice in fact.

I'd like to run a business again, but I sure as hell won't be taking on a partner!

Extended members of the family really get on my breasts too, but erm don't want to say too much about that here

[Glutton4...]

You all have my sympathy! I'm known for having a short fuse (yes, really! ), and I have learned, over the years, to just walk away. Not easy when you want to bury your fist in their face, I know.

I run into a particularly annoying person about three or four times a week, and there's not much I can do to avoid this, so I just walk out when they walk in. Luckily, this person is far too self-centred to notice. The things that annoy me the most, are the bigoted and racist comments. This person works in the 'care' industry, and should, frankly, be shot! (In my opinion )

I saw a sign once;
I have one nerve left,
and you're on it!

[donnakebab]

I have moved jobs so many times because of people that get on my nerves that I don't have enough fingers or toes to count them.

I've only married once though.

[veggiechicken]

It seems that you don't actually work with this person any more and its just their name that upsets you! Get over it, move on, Life's too short to get upset about something so intangible.

[taff]

work out exactly why you're annoyed with him, and dont lie to yourself. Then.....get over it

[Bigmallly]

Have you ever met someone that just gets on your nerves, no matter how hard you try to be nice with them? I have an ex co-worker that really gets to me. He's friends with others I am still friends with and when he's mentioned, it annoys the ever living everything out of me!

I'm a little confused as to what it is this person actually does to annoy you, as you say, he is an ex co-worker & you get annoyed when his name is mentioned.......is there anything about this person that could possibly be be making you slightly jealous?.......

[julesapple]

At least you can walk away from that person. I'm really getting on my nerves today

[Bigmallly]

At least you can walk away from that person. I'm really getting on my nerves today

C'mon Jules, pull yourselves together..........

[Feral007]

Oh I have someone at work like that atm. I'm on leave TG or I'd be in one of those straight jackets with a padded room. I try to avoid my annoying person but they go out of their way to literally get 'in my face.' Every one at work knows that she is such an annoying person that all the managers give way to her because they can't be bothered with the carry on. I've tried avoiding, I've tried dealing with her, and I considered taking it to a higher level as it's interfering with both of us carrying out our work together. But I've decided that she is in fact doing me a great favour. It's probably time I moved on, but it was too comfortable where I was so I didn't. So now I'll be able to leave her with the job (which is what she wants - we job share) and go with a smile. Who could tell such an annoying female dog of a person could do me such a favour - thanks darl

I guess for you, you need to think about whether you want to ignore/avoid the problem and will it go away? Or do you need to deal with it? And if so, how? Good luck.