Suffering with the fags

[redser]

So I'm on my knees looking for some moral support. 6 days off the fags. Tough so far but after a bottle of strawberry and mango t bag wine I'm buckling big time.
21 years of 20 a day and enough is enough. My dad died a dog's death 7 years ago from lung cancer. I miss him so much but it still wasn't enough to break the habit. I curse the day i started. I have 2 lovely boys under 6 and I've managed to keep it from them. Not out of shame, I just don't want them growing up thinking it is accetable. both my parents smoked. I'm not blaming them for my habit but we're all of our own times. I envy my kids. Acedemics in junior years are taking second place to fundamentals - morals and basic health ie. don't smoke eat shite And exercise.
In the last week I've treated my wife like crap, on occasion. I feel like a shattered pane of glass waiting to fall to bits. And shes been such a martyr. I'm feel ashamed but at the same time i feel proud of fighting the bastard urge in my own head. One more day. Why won't my government render this poison illegal?
Anyone else Kick the habit or want to kick the habit and share?

[Hazel at the Hill]

Emergency support a-comin'!

Firstly WELL DONE - blimey - 6 days free of the weed is MASSIVELY good going!

Secondly - CHIN UP! - you have broken the back of this thing, it is just that it is stoopid o'clock and you've tipped a bottle of the good stuff down your gullet and now you are feeling it! Things always are bleak in the middle of the lonely ol' night, so here is what you do RIGHT NOW>>>>

Go into the kitchen and make yourself a nice cup of tea.

There.

If you have a biscuit/piece of cake/satsuma/cheese/toast, so much the better.

I packed up the fags by having a cup of tea every time I reached for the fag packet - I was on 20 cups of tea a day for a while but that diversionary tactic worked well for me.

Oh - and give your wife a hug (in the morning, not too popular right now, I'm guessing) and say thank you. It's good to be appreciated.

Oh - and did I say WELL DONE?

[Hazel at the Hill]

...and don't you DARE say that you sneaked off for a fag whilst I was typing that lot out!

[redser]

Thanks hazel.forgive me, youngest came came looking forme

[Hazel at the Hill]

Thanks hazel.forgive me, youngest came came looking forme

Good - nothing like a diversionary 6 year old to lift the clouds! Go and tuck him back up in bed & take yourself off there too.

Tomorrow's a new day and all that jazz.

[bubblewrap]

Firstly I know it's not easy.
I stopped three & a half years ago.
Please keep it up though it is worth it in the end.

[veggiechicken]

Well done redser for facing up to it and dealing with it. Be strong for the sake of your family - your children need you around for many years to come. One good diversionary tactic is to come on here everytime you feel like a fag. We'll take your mind off it!! And before anyone says it - No, I haven't been trying to give up the habit

[Sheneval]

I gave up 37 years ago when my daughter was on the way - 3 days of hell and 3 weeks of misery - stay strong - you have broken the back of it - you made the right decision - you can stick it out till you no longer get the craving

[Patchninja]

Well, i smoked my last on 27th june 2007. 30 a day and became murderous if anyone got between me and my fags - God help anyone who "borrowed" my lighter.......... then my daughter told me she wouldn't bring her babies to a smoky house......I've never looked back. Yes, it was awful. But SO worth it. Imagine your wife and children without you. Have you got some help? I found the little tabs you put under your tongue lifesavers. I only needed them for about 10 days. Also get outside and walk fast for 30 mins a day. You'll notice the difference very quickly. You'll also soon realise just quite how foul-smelling smokers are - not nice for anyone around you.
You CAN do it. It'll be the best gift you could ever give yourself.

[Glutton4...]

Wow! Good for you, and ((((BIG HUGS)))) Luckily, I'm not a smoker, but I am married to an ashtray - yup, that's what I call him. I love him to bits, but if he would only TRY! His Mother died of Lung Cancer, when he was a kid. I watched my lovely Granddad wither away with it, too, and it's a truly awful thing to witness. His Dad gave it up, as did his Brother and his Wife.

Unfortunately his Step-Mum is a different story - they seem to use each other as allies, and sneak off together for a puff, like naughty children. He has given up twice, since I've known him, but there appears to be a four month barrier - and he starts again. Drives me nuts.

Use whatever works for you, Gum, Patches, Cold Turkey, Hypnotism, Counselling - even 'checking-in' every day on here - we'll support you - YOU'RE DOING GREAT! Well done!!!!

[Ananke]

YAY!!!

Well done you. Listen for the excuses, you will come up with all sorts of rubbish reasons as to why you should just go back on them.... some of them are hilarious, just be ready for them.

As for me, I caved when my Dad had his accident back in June but I am absolutely determind to get back off them. I think the thought of quitting is worse than actually quitting.

OH has been off them for around 2yrs now and I am sooooo jealous.

[julesapple]

I wish my sister would read this thread and give up, if not for herself then for her little grandaughter. But she doesn't even try. She says she has to 'have something good in life' are they good?

The BH used to smoke. The week before we met he'd had a stinking cold and couldn't smoke. Then we met and he asked me if I smoked, and I don't. Righteously I went on about loathing the smell of cigarettes and he decided that I would never know that he was a smoker, he would give up. Now, not being a smoker, I had no idea how hard it was to give up the weed, but can you imagine doing it in secret too? He did it though and, as far as I know, never touched another cigarette. He has admitted that the stinking cold helped enormously as it lasted long enough to get him over the cravings stage.

I grew up in a household of smokers and I used to hate taking friends home because although spotlessly tidy, it smelt. I was aware that I smelt and my stuff smelt too. When you go away to school and the first thing that happens when you get there is your House mother taking all your 'clean' clothes away to launder them, you quickly learn. She was very nice about it, she didn't want other kids picking on me. But it brings it home to you.

Chin Up Reds, you CAN do this! Do it for your kids....they need their Daddy!

[FROSTYFRECKLE]

Jules, my mum used to say the same thing! There is nothing good about ciggies. Evil, foul cancer sticks. Was at a friends last night who wants to give up smoking but it's not a good tme just now. Friend was smoking a lot last night and inside her home. I get home to Mr Frosty, walk into our home and he tells me to strip off. No, not for any romantic reason, he could smell the cigarette smoke from me.

So, Red, you've broken the back of your addiction to the cancer sticks. The toxins are leaving your body. Just keep on going.

[kathycam]

I'm not a smoker, so probably not the best person to advice. But when I started going out with my boyfriend he was a smoker, and I made it obvious I didn't approve. He cut back. And I think it was about a month into the relatationship he gave up completely. He basically used EFT a tapping technique to deal with his cravings. Nowadays it's hard to believe he ever smoked and he never gets the urge anymore. Good luck with it, it will get easier.

[northepaul]

I gave up on 27th April 1997 - 60 a day (yes really!)

It is hard going but YOU CAN DO IT!

Read Alan Carr's book on stopping smoking, it shows you (and makes you realise) how much you were controlled by an addiction, and how all the things perpetuated about smoking (ie loosing weight) are lies. If it makes you realise how stupid you've been and how you've been duped by money making governments/tobacco companies, then its done its job. (no offence by the way )

DONT LET YOURSELF BE CONTROLLED!

You can do it, just keep on with it and I PROMISE it gets easier day after day!

(Dont use fake fags or nicorette stuff, you dont need it and you're just replacing how you get your addiction with another method, its another way of getting money out of you!)

YOU CAN DO IT!!