At what age do they NOT need you?

[bikergirl]

Hope he's OK and manages to get out of hospital today - although at least if he's there he has to do as he's told!

I have a nearly 12 year old so still many many years to go yet...... it is nice when they still need / want you (although we'll see if I'm still saying that when he's 25?)

I'm not very close to my mum, so hopefully I've managed to change that with my own son - I'd love to think he could come and talk to me when he needs to - now or as a adult - I've never been able to do that and my mum would be the last person I'd ring.

[bubblewrap]

When I go to see my mother she still criticises my clothes saying people round here don't wear clothes like that
The last time visited I wore Mole skin trousers, Harris Weed jacket, shirt & tie, waistcoat & nice shoes.
Mother is 83 I'm 64

[Seahorse]

Hope he's well on the way to recovery now.

Have to say all you long suffering parents are doing a good job My mum isn't terrible but she's not the person I go to for tea and sympathy (I'd get neither!) and that makes me a bit sad sometimes.

[VirginVegGrower]

Oh no! So there's no hope of me getting rid of my 20yo son any time soon then Ananke? Love him dearly but gee, I've cut the apron strings, run, child, run!

Crikey - don't lose faith Feral I'd disappeared by the time I was eighteen and at twenty I was living over 2,000 miles away Well she did utter those magic words "get out and see the world", so I did!

[Feral007]

Me too VVG, altho I moved into the nurses home and tortured Matron instead!

Mine just don't seem to want to go far. One boy is in town, and altho he did consider travelling around australia for a week or two last year (considered it, not travelling for a week or two) the other one likes it here.
I thought they'd be off all over the place when they grew up, but no! What did I do wrong?

[VirginVegGrower]

Me too VVG, altho I moved into the nurses home and tortured Matron instead!

Mine just don't seem to want to go far. One boy is in town, and altho he did consider travelling around australia for a week or two last year (considered it, not travelling for a week or two) the other one likes it here.
I thought they'd be off all over the place when they grew up, but no! What did I do wrong?

Do you think maybe they are worried about leaving you rather than worried for themselves? It's not easy leaving your mum on her own. I know because I did

[Feral007]

Don't think so VVG - I went into son's work the other day as he hadn't been out for ages. Told him I'd just come to see if I remembered what he looked like

They just don't seem to have a travelling bone in their bodies! I loved moving and travelling - haven't been able to do much since I had kids, but really there should be a travelling chromosome in their body somewhere! Guess they got their fathers gene's.

They are funny boys, not very ambitious either.

[bubblewrap]

Hope he's well on the way to recovery now.

Have to say all you long suffering parents are doing a good job My mum isn't terrible but she's not the person I go to for tea and sympathy (I'd get neither!) and that makes me a bit sad sometimes.

I know how you feel Seahorse & if owt goes wrong ................................It must be my fault.

[kentishgal]

I have 23 and 25 year old Sons who both live at home, don't think I need to elaborate on that

You think thats bad my brother still lives at home at 42!!! (I lasted til I was 21 before I did a runner..LOL).

[Glutton4...]

... I'm not very close to my mum ... my mum would be the last person I'd ring.

When I go to see my mother she still criticises ...

... My mum isn't terrible but she's not the person I go to for tea and sympathy (I'd get neither!) and that makes me a bit sad sometimes.

It's very refreshing to hear other people say the above. I always thought it was just me. I know people that are still so close to their Mums that it's almost unhealthy. It's not good for their marriages, either.

My best mate is the idiot that married me!

[Scarlet]

My best mate is the idiot that married me!

Oh, that's the same for me!!!

[Sheneval]

I thought they'd be off all over the place when they grew up, but no! What did I do wrong?

Are they happy - if so you didn't do anything wrong - they are just young people doing their own thing