sorry just need to tell someone.....

[The Reverend]

For you Son and Girlfriend to have the loving support you are giving them, will mean more to them, then you will ever realize.

[Verinda]

Ah that's so tough, lots of love and hugs to you all.

[mothhawk]

What sad news Mrs W. So very hard for your son and his girl. And people so often forget that the father needs comfort and support just as much as the mother through such a traumatic period. sending hugs your way ((( )))

[Hans Mum]

didnt want to read & run without adding my sincere condolences to you all as a family x

[PyreneesPlot]

So sad and difficult for you all.

[FB.]

I feel for you - and them.
Was the scan the 12wk or the 20wk?

In spring 2013 I was in a very similar situation when my wife miscarried in the first trimester, with the miscarriage on her birthday and only just over a week before my birthday (our birthdays are ten days apart).

Shock. Frustration. Anger. Despair. Sadness. You name it we experienced it in the weeks that followed.

But my wife got pregnant again after a few months. We "cheated" with the conception the second time around to speed things up by using ovulation test kits which were brilliant.
She had severe morning sickness the second time around (I thought she'd end up in hospital like the Duchess of Cambridge) but since the sickness subsided after the third month everything has seemed fine (fingers crossed).
We are (or should I say: my wife is) expecting a boy in about three months time.

I started a topic about a month ago to explain my moodiness and my erratic appearances/absences on the Grapevine:
http://www.growfruitandveg.co.uk/gra...age_76243.html

Ask away if there's anything I might be able to help with - no question you could ask will be too sensitive for me to answer (whether on here or in private).

[WendyC]

So sad for everyone. I consider myself fortunate never to have personally experienced such a loss but my sister has and I know how it affects the whole family. Thinking of you all.

[veggiechicken]

((((Cwtches)))) for you Mrs W and your family. So sorry.

[mrswadders]

[QUOTE=FB.;1199122]I feel for you - and them.
Was the scan the 12wk or the 20wk?

12 week (although she was 13 weeks gone)


Shock. Frustration. Anger. Despair. Sadness. You name it we experienced it in the weeks that followed.

we can certainly relate to all of these
I read your post, you've both been through a lot, very hard last night especially when he rang his sister in OZ to tell her, heartbreaking


Thankyou everyone for your wishes and hugs, most gratefully received and yet again one of the reasons I stay on the forum, what lovely generous people you all are to complete strangers

[Patchninja]

Just wanted to add my hugs to you all. It's so sad and so hard to accept. HUGS

[alldigging]

Oh that's so sad
*hugs*

[Glutton4...]

((((BIG HUGS)))) at this sad time, from me too.

[Feral007]

Mrs Wadders just thought to add something. Where I was working before we had a thing called the Teddy Love Club. It was started somewhere in aus. by some parents who lost a baby.
They started by donating bears to hospitals. The bears are offered to anyone who has lost a baby, whether whilst pg or later. The bears are to mark the fact that you lost a baby. No one is ever Just a little bit pregnant. So it is something you can keep to remember this time, and to mark the fact that you have another baby in your heart. Some people don't need one. But we would offer and they could accept or decline.

A lot of people mothers and fathers felt that people would sweep it under the carpet as if it never happened. Sometimes having something to hold, and a real reminder helps them to cope now and later.

Anyway, just thought I'd mention it to you and to FB.

[mrswadders]

Oh Feral thats a lovely idea, however the hospital that they are with doesn't do anything, in fact they have been treated appallingly, to the point that we will be making a complaint.They have been given no advise, no help with any counselling, nowt.....in fact they both fet like that they were ushered out the door and told to get on with it. Ok they're 19 but this baby was most wanted. It's a horrible time to go through without being made to feel like your not worth the effort of some staff

[lettucegrow!]

This is so sad , mrswadders. I really feel for you all. The teddy bear idea is really lovely Feral . This time should be remembered and the baby grieved for.
Also very sad that they have not been given very good support, the NHS fails on many points sadly. Maybe there would be access to something via their GP.
Hugs to you all.((((())))x