in shock my dad died

[bojangles]

Im just in so much pain right now. Not only have I losted two grandads in under a year I have lostd my dad. I just dont know how much more I can cope with. My dad died suddenly at home on Sunday morning. Im just so numb shock shakes tears. My dad had ms he also had a chest uti infection too he was on anti bods. He had chest infection in ghe the pasted and drugs have always worked. Joqw he is nonlonger with us. I just feel empty. My older sister isnt making it any easy as she have kicked off about not being involved the arrangements. Im just so confused nover how I feel. I loved my dad to bits I didn't see this coming at all. One mint im in a completely mess then the other I feel like normal. Like a complety empty shell. We havnt even got over my grandad s as blth were unexpected death's.

Ive have had my fair share in bad luck clutch went on car then I flooded it out by going through too many puddles week later I ended up in a ditch after hitting black ice. And now my dad gone feels like a bad dream. I mkss him so much sily things like him yawning at night, mum getting him awake for brekkie is no more.

He couldn't talk he did commaction though nis eye's.

Sorry for ramminb on just can't belive my dad gone. Its his furenal next Thursday

[Thelma Sanders]

How very sad - I bet it was a shock!
Just try to be gentle on yourself and everybody else while you all work through your loss, it's never easy.
I'll say one for you and yours..........

[noviceveggrower]

Hi
So sorry to hear about the sudden loss of your dad and the loss of your granddads. It must be such a huge shock for everyone. Everyone copes with such a loss in different ways.
My father in law gave the best advice out when he lost his wife, sister in law and brother in the same month. That is just take every day as it comes. Don't be hard on yourself when something doesn't go to plan.
You weren't rambling you were just letting everyone know what is troubling you and what is wrong.
I'll say one for you both to

[The Cobra]

Such a shock, can't imagine the pain you're feeling right now.

I'm sure everyone here hopes you can stay strong and positive, and I'm sure your dad is looking down on you very proud

[Nicos]

Goodness me...it's no wonder you are in shock.
That really is sad news for you and your family- but I'm glad you felt you feel comfortable to share that grief with us.
It's good to reflect on those memories
My thoughts are with you xx

[Snadger]

Chin up bojangles. So sorry for your loss.

[Feral007]

So sorry to hear about your Dad, and your grandpa's. A big hug from over here. As has been said, just take it easy on yourself. Make sure those around you know about it, as they need to be aware of how difficult this time is for you.

[Dorothy rouse]

So sorry to hear about your loss, so hard for you. All you can do is take each day as it comes, and allow yourself time to grieve. X

[Florence Fennel]

My sympathy to you bojangles, you're having an awful time of it.

[Currysniffa]

Sorry to hear about your loss. When we lost my mum it was very sudden and out of the blue. I was in a daze for weeks after but as NVG has said, one day at a time is the best way I found to get through the sad time.

[Bigmallly]

It's a difficult time for you. You now have a void in your life, take it one day at a time & keep his memory alive.

[bojangles]

Thanks everyone. Im trying nto look on the brighter side for dad sake as now he can do tg3bthingsbhe havnt been able to do for year's. The ms took hold and he could only communicate though his eye s. Ivebdone all tyebwhat if. As he died at home did I miss out his breathing he was chesty when I got up first thing for work.Ii wasnt he when he passed away. ? Then I try to think of that dad died at home with my mum. Not in a care home. Just so numb.

[alldigging]

Life's really cruel sometimes.
Take care of yourself and your mum.

[Jeanied]

I am so sorry to read your sad news. As you say your dad is now free of his troubles. Stay close with your mum and support each other. And watch out for each other - you are both more vulnerable to accidents at this sad time.

[Tripmeup]

So sorry to hear your sad news...as everyone says, take it one day at a time...