in shock my dad died

[scarey55]

I am so sorry to hear this, so sad. I don't really know what to say that hasn't been said, I just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts.

[Bren In Pots]

Really sorry to read your sad news.

[Hans Mum]

So very sorry for your loss.

[veggiechicken]

My sympathy and a big Welsh ((((Cwtch)))) coming your way Bojangles. Be strong for your Mum but don't keep all your grief to yourself - we'll always listen.

[Creemteez]

Oh, dear, I'm so sorry to hear your very sad news. No wonder you feel a mess. Be gentle with yourself over the next few weeks. Cry if you want to. Don't bottle things up. Try and be understanding with your sister - she is grieving too and people react differently to different situations. Like so many have said, we are all here for you, so chin up, lovey! xx

[Nannysally99]

Thanks everyone. Im trying nto look on the brighter side for dad sake as now he can do tg3bthingsbhe havnt been able to do for year's. The ms took hold and he could only communicate though his eye s. Ivebdone all tyebwhat if. As he died at home did I miss out his breathing he was chesty when I got up first thing for work.Ii wasnt he when he passed away. ? Then I try to think of that dad died at home with my mum. Not in a care home. Just so numb.

So sorry to hear about your Father, and all your other troubles. I lost my Father to motor neurone disease, and he too could only communicate with his eyes. The only advice I would give you two years on, is do not try to take all this on on your own. Your GP will be a good help to you, I left it a long time and the grief took its toll. I was prescribed mild anti depressants and that got me through. We are only human and the deaths of your beloveds are more than one should bear, my heart goes out to you.


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[Glutton4...]

BIG ((((HUGS)))) from me too at this difficult time. As Creemteez says, your Sister is grieving too, and we all react differently to situations, so try not to let this drive a wedge between you. It may be very very sad to have lost him, but try and take comfort in the fact that he is no longer suffering, as it must have been extremely difficult for him to cope with his disabilities. I have a friend whose Father is in the same situation, and the feeling of helplessness is overwhelming.

We're always here if you need to rant or shout about it, or if you just want a friendly chat. Look after yourself.

[julesapple]

((((((HUGE HUGS)))))) and my deepest sympathy for your very great losses.

All I can do is echo everything that the others have said, but I will add that everything you are going through, and feeling; the overwhelming grief, feeling lost one minute and fine the next,ll of those tjings a - it's all completely normal at this time.

[lottie dolly]

Sorry for your loss,i can fully understand how you feel,from our parents passing,we had a funeral monday gone,our loner,hermit brother,a lot younger than sis and I,got a coroner inquest next month,please take a little comfort in the fact,you know what occured,we do not,our grief is for a very different reason,but the end feelings are the same,it still blady hurts,when people say time is a healer,what they mean from my experience is this,you have to go through many stages,of hurt,anger,and grief,as time moves on,you move to a place where you can remember your loved ones with a lot more ease,you HAVE to grieve first,huggs and understanding to you all,

[bojangles]

Thanks again. It's so hard all the what ifs, then again the outcome would still be tye same so I will hsve to try to remember that and take that as comfort of my dad died at home. Which me and my sister grew up in and my dad was such a diy person. He made so much furniture for our house. He had so more trips to the hospital over tye years. I think my sister is feeling guilty as she hasn't spent much time with dad. I think she shuggled wity how dad went downhill over the year's. As I stil live at home so I did look after dad and had more time wity him. Knowing how dad was day to day routines. My dad cheekie side of penteding to be asleep so people would of left him alone. He loved his food he did made me laugh so much as when he had enough of eatingbhis tea he always left enough room for nis chocolate moose. As soon as you go to give him it he would of opened his mouth wide mand finished it all off. Now I know where I get my sweet tooth frome.

[veggiechicken]

Remember all the good times when your dad was cheeky and happy. That's how he'd like to be remembered. As you say, he died at home, in the place that he had made his own and I'm sure it was a peaceful leaving. Cherish your memories -they'll be with you for ever.

[RedThorn]

I disagree with the saying time is a healer, you never heal, but with time you do learn how to deal with the grief better, to a point you remember the good and joyful and beyond.

Dwell on fond memories and loving thoughts

[mothhawk]

My sympathy, Bojangles, you're having an awful time, losing both grandfathers, then your own dad too. Try not to feel bad that you were not at home when it happened, just cherish all your memories of him.

Do keep posting, writing down your feelings is a good way of helping yourself through the shock and sadness. ((((Hugs))))

[binley100]

Big hugs and sympathy.....its a shock to lose a parent no matter how ill they are. After losing my mum I can say it never gets better but given time it gets easier xx

[bojangles]

I've been thinking of things as im am going to do a speech unertre ??? For my dad who I love dearly. I haven't even got over my grandad im still thinking of him as we only losted him end of November then it hits me tyat ive also just losted my dad. Well at least my dad can go and see my plot wonder what he thinks of it. And my horse too he never saw my boy who ive had for over 12 years now. Also means he will see my car o dear I can feel my ear being click by him as it's such a mess