Gardening and Other Halves

[Mumbles]

Morning

I have been garden shopping this morning with my OH and it just reminded me how annoying it is doing the garden together.

I love gardening. I'm always out in it tweeting bits here and there planting this moving that etc.

But it's come to that time of year where the suns out and he's decided he wants to join in. This is great. I love doing our home together (especially when it comes to manual things (like moving the decking) but not great when it comes to plants.

For example we've just put up 6ft trellis that we want to put climbing plants up. Seen loads this morning about 1ft tall. Really pretty flowers stay green through winter (he doesn't want them to look dead in winter) but these were simply not good enough. He wants to buy 6ft plants because he wants it done now not in a few years. He just doesn't get gardening and it's so infuriating!

I know that in a month or so he will have lost interest and I can go back to doing it my way but for now I want to slap on him!


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[Nicos]

Sorry to hear that mumbles.

my OH does more than me!!..and we think along the same lines!

[roitelet]

And mine doesn't know a daisy from a dandelion!

[lottie dolly]

Mine does most of the harder graft,but i am the gardener,the last few weeks however,he has had to turn his hands to pulling up and composting the weeds,down the plots,also dug the holes for the spudz earlier on for me to drop a seed in,and will have to be more involved for several months yet,a true passion of love,both for me and his food ,wink& a smile,the things will not work grrrrrr

[Dorothy rouse]

Best not to take him with you Mumbles when you go 'garden shopping again, just pretend you somehow ended up in the GC, and the plants (1ft) ones, were a bargain offer, and they will grow to (6ft), or drop him off somewhere to look at something he us interested in?

[Dorothy rouse]

How about a couple of hanging baskets that you could just hang on the trellis for a couple of months? Instant flowers and colour?

[Dorothy rouse]

Or maybe he could build something for the garden? Rustic bench ? Potting table? Bird table? Pond? Whoops I' m getting carried away now.

[Potstubsdustbins]

We have an easy split I do the veg SWMBO does the flowers and never the twain shall meet.

[gardening_gal]

At least he does take an interest Mumbles, even if it is only short lived and has a tendency to get on your nerves.

I'd love if mine showed even a slight interest, as it is, he glazes over when I mention anything gardening related and couldn't care less if the garden turned into an overwhelming jungle!

[Alison]

Mine's not interested in the practicalities but is very interested in the produce. Actually I prefer it that way, if he was interested I would have to consider his opinion and couldn't do it my own way which would be very annoying

[sparrow100]

OH doesn't take an interest, other than in picking, but will help me with difficult things if begged and kept supplied with lemon drizzle cake. Tbh, I prefer it that way, the plot (we don't have a garden) is my thing. I do like it though when he comes down with a book just to keep me company.

[Raybon]

I get some help when I ask for it, but do 99% myself.........had a secret smirk the other day when heard him on 'phone referring to 'our allotment'. Well it is, but it isn't, if you see what I mean.
He does help to dispose of the produce....with loads of butter usually!

[dogsbody]

Other halves can be "she" too you know

As far as mine goes it is "too hot, too cold, too windy, too cloudy, too wet, too sunny, too snowy" etc.

But when she wants to, it's awesome gardening together.

[Mumbles]

Don't get me wrong I love making our house a home together but just wish he would understand gardening is different to decorating. When we decorate when we finish the room is finished, but when we've finished gardening the garden grows and evolves!


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[WendyC]

I allow my OH to be involved in the decision making process as long as he comes to the same decision as me!