Feeling so sad.

[muddled]

So sorry Bramble.
There's nothing that can prepare you for the loss of a parent.

I would like to echo what Nicos said....speaking as someone who works in dementia care, those staff will be missing you. I'm sure they could use some voluntary support. Please consider it in a few weeks though, you have a lot to get through in the next few weeks.
My thoughts are with you xxx

[cariann88]

Sorry to hear about your news Bramble.

Us carers become a part of your families life when we are looking after a loved one. They will be upset about your mum and that they will not be able to see her family any more.

[Nicos]

What lovely messages on here for you bramble.
You've clearly touched our hearts - as you will also have done with your mom's carers xx

[PyreneesPlot]

Thinking of you, Bramble.
Take time to grieve. xx

[Bal]

So sorry to hear your sad news Bramble. Time does take the pain of the loss in time and then it is easier to remember the good times and smile again. Big hugs to you and yours

[Verinda]

Ah Bramble I am so sorry for your sad loss, I know how awful it is to lose a loved parent. I send you a big hug and reassurance that things will get better in time.

[veggiechicken]

My condolences, Bramble, and a very big Hug.xx
Time now, perhaps, for you to take some time out and enjoy the Glory of your Garden. Both Time and gardening are great healers.

[Knight of Albion]

So sorry to hear about your mother, dear Bramble. My heart goes out to you.

'When I come to your world I am like a bird that is imprisoned within a cage and when I leave it I am like a bird joyfully released to wing its way through boundless space. What you call death is the opening of the cage and the release of the bird from its prison'
- Silver Birch

[Knight of Albion]

PS: Maybe you could offer your services to the nursing home as a volunteer visitor? Sadly so many elderly people in nursing homes have no-one to visit them. A smile and some flowers ... Makes such a difference to people.

[Ding Dang Doo]

PS: Maybe you could offer your services to the nursing home as a volunteer visitor? Sadly so many elderly people in nursing homes have no-one to visit them. A smile and some flowers ... Makes such a difference to people.

Sorry to hear your news, Bramble.

I think that KoA's suggestion above is an excellent idea, you get to see the people you have grown fond of, and help fill the gap of friendship for some of the people in the home, who don't have someone as caring as yourself in their lives.

Pete

[susieq100]

My condolences Bramble. If you are able, it would be lovely to keep in touch with the staff at the home, perhaps just to pop in with a bunch of flowers or some surplus produce. Many care home staff are under-appreciated (often by their employers!).

[Veggiemama]

Bramble, i am so sorry for your loss. I lost my own mother several years ago and although the pain eases, it doesnt go away. I feel as though a part of me has gone too.....BUT when i feel the pain, i remember all the good times. My garden is my special place that i remember my mum in and it gives me great comfort.

I can also empathise with the loss you will feel regarding the staff. Its not the same, but similar. My son is going to High School this year. A Special school. On the last few weeks of his primary school, i suddendly realised what a loss this would be for me. I had spent so much time helping him deal with the change and supporting him, i hadnt even realised that it is a loss for me. I was in a state of shock.
Without all the support i had recieved from the staff at his primary school, i wouldnt have been able to do my job properly with him.
I am a bit frightened to be without this support.
I told the staff how i felt and they know me well, i say what i think and feel. They said i could call in and see them and i will. I will also donate what i can to this lovely school and support them when i can.

The staff who supported you and your mother are very special people and they will understand how you feel. They will be the type of people who will welcome visits from you and stay in contact with you. Please dont feel alone in that respect.

Grieving takes a hold of us all in different ways. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel what you feel, no matter how long it takes.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this very sad time.
Sending huge hugs your way. (((((HUGS)))))))
VeggieMama

[SusieG]

Bramble, condolences ...
I sympathise with you. Your Mum will always be in your heart

[bramble]

Thank you to everyone. I dont feel so alone now and know time will help. Just feeling bereft. X

[veggiechicken]

We're always here, Bramble, whenever you want to chat or rant. There are plenty of shoulders for you to lean on