Decided to call it a day

[gardening_gal]

Ditto everything that has already been said Johnny. Really feel for you. I can only hope a way can be found to avoid this but if not then try consider what else you could do to keep growing things in a smaller scale or in different ways.

[vixylix]

So sorry to hear this Jonny

I agree with everyone else - don't rush into a decision. Rushing can lead to regret, which can lead to resentment, which can lead to more arguments.

Make sure whatever decision you make is the right decision for you.

[mothhawk]

Wait a week Jonny, then think again about making a decision, when you have a little distance from whatever situation sparked the midnight decision.

If you still decide to give up the plot,as others have said, wait at least until the renewal date, maybe offer the use of it till then to another plot-holder, and ask around at the lottie to see if anyone there would be interested in buying your tunnel and shed. There's bound to be some who would jump at the opportunity.

[skeggijon]

Boring, but I agree with most of the suggestions. The plots yours til next renewal time whatever you decide, so take your time.
It would be a shame to give it up considering your surname is theplantpot.

[spamvindaloo]

I'd have to agree too. I know from your posts that you've put a massive amount of effort into your plot, far more than I've ever managed but I'd be gutted to feel that I'd wasted what I have done if I had to walk away from the plot.

Obviously I don't know the full story but perhaps you could look to plant up your plot differently? Fruit trees will more or less look after themselves if you can't get there regularly and there are other low maintenance things you could grow.

I just think you'd regret walking away after all you've invested in terms of time and effort (and probably a fair bit of cash too). At least wait until you've harvested this year's crops before you decide if you want to continue next year.

[noviceveggrower]

Sorry to hear that you are giving up. Like what everyone else says give it a week and see how you feel then. You have put so much work in and it would be such a shame for you to walk away from it all.

[Tripmeup]

Sorry to hear that Jonny...Some good advice already given, so best of luck....

[rary]

Very good advice above Jonny, remember, decide in haste, regret at leisure.

[muddled]

I agree with Mothhawk...
keep your plot til renewal so you can harvest what you've grown and in the meantime put the word out on site that you're selling up.

Give yourself the chance to end up with something at least for all your hard work!

If/when you do give up your plot....you're not thinking of leaving us as well are you?

[Jay-ell]

Jonny
Sorry to hear about your situation.

Can only echo the thoughts above. Would a change of growing style work as a compromise (e.g a move to fruit or perrenial veg which could survive with less attention and time)

[Knight of Albion]

Any update Jonny?

When it comes to disagreements, if someone is going to get hurt if 'you' back down, then stand firm as a rock!
For everything else, there is room for flexibility.

I don't know what this argument you mentioned is all about. Whatever it is, maybe they have a point? Either way, I'm sure a happy medium can be found.

[Cadalot]

As Balders wife, Mrs Cadalot hates the allotment and the time it takes to look after my plots, and it has been the subject of some Ummm very heated discussion in the past. (and likely the future from time to time)

I point out that I could be down the pub every night or playing with women rather than mud. Slowly and I mean slowly she came around to the idea, and ended up using the gardening and allotment for gift ideas for birthday and Christmas. I've even managed to get another plot, which initially caused problems again but she is coming around slowly.

It takes time, I always remember my dad saying slowly slowly catch the monkey

[sparrow100]

Am really sorry you're at this point. Like others have said I hope you can negotiate not giving up. Non-gardening partners and family often resent the time spent away but if you're made to feel you have to give up something you love it also has consequences. I hope you can find a compromise that works for you and your family.

As for the sellable stuff, personally I would sell it on, either online or to the next tenant.

[Guest]

It is very sad to read that you have come to this decision and hope things do work out.

The people/ person you argued with, do they know you have come to this decision. I only say because if it was me and my Hubby he would be pleased to hear it but he wouldn't let me go through with it. He would feel horrible/guilty if I gave it all because of him/argument.

[Noosner]

So sorry to hear this Johnny. Lots of good advice on here that I can't add to except to say one more thing - are you sure that giving something up that you love so much is really a good idea? Can you do it without resentment? If not, it may not solve the situation and it may be better for all parties to find a compromise.