Problem Neighbours.

[Anarchy84]

Hi I have an interfering neighbour a few plots over from mine who tries to tell me how to run my plot. I mostly just ignore him but now he's claiming the shed and the poly tunnel that were on the new plot I have started renting are his. I told him to take them if that's the case but he says he doesn't have time. I am fencing it off with my other 2 plots this week and it will be impossible to remove them afterwards as they won't fit out of the gate. The man I pay rent to don't want to get involved so should I just fence it off?

[Rosee]

If they were his and he wanted them he would have taken them, I'd give him a date to remove them by or they get fenced off, then just fence off x

[andy_j]

Ive always understood that when you take a plot on, you take it on with everything that's already there whether it's a shed, greenhouse, poly tunnel, water butt etc, unless you have prior agreement with the last tenant for them remove it.

I'd have no hesitation fencing it off.

[lottie dolly]

first of all,he has to prove it,surely who ever is responsible for the site/plot lettings ext,should know,also you could ask other plot holders what they know,i always have understood,anyone taking on a new plot inherits what's on it,good or bad,if it is genuinley his,you should have been informed of this,in first instance,

[Anarchy84]

Thank you for your advice. I am fencing it off.

[Nicos]

Remember to notify him first so you have no comeback.
My guess is that he'll be asking you for some dosh for them

[Greenleaves]

Take the high ground Anarchy. I think most sites have a resident "expert" and 9 times out of 10 they are trying to help.

Remain civil and as Nicos says give him notice, if he does not want them and you have a use make an offer.

Chances are its all hot air and bluster and will simply resolve its self.

[Knight of Albion]

My advice would be to keep things civil. Give him a reasonable period of time to take his stuff, if it really is his stuff, even offer to take it down for him if necessary, (or make him an offer to buy them) and then once that date comes put the fence up.

In circumstances like this it is all too easy to take offence and get your back up. But acting when the emotions are running high, is never a good idea.

It sounds like this fellow has been there for years and is likely to be there for years to come, so you're going to be bumping into him like it or not
If there's bad blood, its going to create an unpleasant atmosphere, probably every slug and snail he comes across is going to be lobbed into your patch! - and maybe worse.

Try to keep the peace, trust me, it will pay dividends in the long run.

[Two_Sheds]

... now he's claiming the shed and the poly tunnel ...are his.

why has he only just decided they're his?

Try to keep the peace, trust me, it will pay dividends in the long run.

by all means keep it civil, but also don't allow him to treat you like a doormat. He's testing you, to see what he can get away with.
If he's marked you out as a target, there's nothing you can do that will change that: being nice, being submissive, or being rude, it won't matter.
Stand your ground, politely

[Nicos]

^^^^ exactly what 2sheds says!

[Knight of Albion]

An enemy, like a dog, is for life....

You have to have 'a line in the sand', sure, but try to resolve it amicably if you can.

[Bill HH]

Hire a hit man.

[Nicos]

^^^^^^^^^^^

[AllInContainers]

An enemy, like a dog, is for life....

You have to have 'a line in the sand', sure, but try to resolve it amicably if you can.

Unfortunately, some people only have two classifications of people; subservients and enemies, and they think the way to get by in life is to dominate, condescend and manipulate. I refuse to be treated like that, even if it means they chalk me up as an enemy - I've had to deal with far too many of them in the past. If they think they've got one over on you (whether they have or not) they'll keep coming back to assert their authority/dominance. I can be a very amicable with most people, but I have no time for folks like that whatsoever. In a former (official) role I have had to spend a lot of my own personal time dealing with such people in order to protect others (and the organisation) from such bullies on several occasions.

As for this chap ...

A) I'd want proof they're his, even if it's verbal affirmation by others down there (particularly officials)
B) I'd tell (not ask) him that if he wishes to keep them, he'll need to shift them quick sharp as you don't want other people using your plot for storage.
C) If it's confirmed they are his, and he wants something for them, offer him a nominal amount only.

All this can be done with a pleasant tone of voice, and there's no need for animosty. Don't be as bad as them, just smile and politely hold your ground if they start getting shirty. If they start causing problems, take it to the committee ... that's what they're there for.

He/she who is calmest, wins.

(sorry if that sounded shirty, I've just had to resolve quite a few issues with folks like this)

[Compo72]

It's a sad fact that some people think your business is their business

Automatically think its correct to impose there will upon you .

Keep calm , don't rise to the bait
If you know your right if it came to it





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